How to Raise an Adult: Stop Overparenting and Prepare Your Kid for Success in Life
By Mike Luther
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This is not because of a desire to harm their child, but usually in the misconceived idea that they are doing them a favor by providing everything they need as soon as it is asked for. This, of course, can have serious implications if you are looking to raise your child to be a successful and independent adult.
In How to Raise an Adult you will find a well-balanced and easier approach to raising children to be the self-reliant adults they will be required to be, with chapters on things like;
- How our kids lack basic life skills
- Psychological harm we have contributed to
- The stress of overparenting
- Teaching them how to think
- Preparing them for hard work
- And much more...
Packed with great advice, tips and strategies, How to Raise an Adult is written in 4 distinct parts. It examines; what we are doing at present, why we must stop overparenting, new ways to parent and daring to think differently.
You will discover ways to provide strong and assured parenting, many of which you may not have considered, with this amazing book. It shows you how not to become over involved in your child 's life, allowing them space to grow and make their own mistakes.
You can achieve the long term success you desire for your children by parenting in a new and different manner. How to Raise an Adult is the book which will guide towards that end.
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How to Raise an Adult - Mike Luther
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Introduction
Raising kids is tough. At the same time, it's one of the most rewarding things a human can ever do, yet it's also the most terrifying. It also comes with two competing desires in the parent. One the one hand, you want your kid never to grow up. When they grow up one tends to lose their feeling of importance. On the other hand, the sooner your child can turn into a free thinking and responsible adult, the better.
As much as you'd like to keep your child safe and dependent on you, your work as a parent is to make yourself obsolete as soon as possible. And for the most part, it's a completely thankless job. Sure, they might throw out a thanks, mom!
when they score a touchdown or become president, but we all know the true joys of being a parent come from within. That feeling of accomplishment you feel when your child is doing things that you never thought were possible.
Of course, getting from the toddler stage to the functioning adult stage is a long and painful process. What's the best course of action? You obviously need to balance how much specific direction you give them, with allowing them to discover their path. How do you do this? Only you know. And you'll never do more than give it your best guess.
Too much direction and control can turn them into rebels who will go against the suggestions of authority at every turn. Too much freedom can lead them to make a horrible mistake they'll regret for the rest of their lives. And it's not as you can simply copy what your neighbor is doing.
The truth is, you'll never really know if you're making the right decision. All you can do is have a rock solid, unbreakable set of rules and standards that both you and your child understand and agree on. Of course, your child would rather have fewer rules than more rules. You've simply got to explain to them that rules are a part of life.