These Parenting Traps Feed Anxiety and Are The Hardest to Stop Doing

Parenting, Perfectionism, and Anxiety: How We Reward Something Toxic: Perfectionism and anxiety create a torture chamber we don't want to model for kids. When we reward excellence, how do we know when it becomes toxic? We explain how a parents can check their own behaviors as well as what to look for and say to their kids. Lynn answers a listener question from a mom whose daughter has extreme anxiety about shots and vaccines. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

37 min listen

Plan Now for the Next New Normal: When you look around your home, you’ve probably let some things go, as we’ve all been adapting to our new normal. That’s perfectly reasonable. We’ve been in the “just getting by” mode. But there will be a transition back to normal, and how that will happen for your family is worth some thought. Now, we didn’t have time to prepare when we were thrown into this traumatic pandemic, but we can prepare for our journey out. Other topics include how parents can manage their teens who feel angrier and more withdrawn in quarantine. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

34 min listen

Listeners Ask: Mom Guilt, Burnout, and School Stress: Mom guilt, burnout, and stress over remote learning has most parents exhausted these days. Hear psychotherapist Lynn Lyons discuss ways to manage these pandemic parenting stresses. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

40 min listen

Stuck-In-Home Parenting: We have a new category of parenting, the stuck-in-the-house parent. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons explains why we feel like we are riding a new emotional rollercoaster, and why we feel so exhausted, as our brains are working overtime to absorb our new world conditions. Full transcript available on our website. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

22 min listen

Trailer: Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: Lynn Lyons is one of the most sought after experts on anxiety in parents and children. Flusterclux offers authentic, compassionate straight talk for parents to connect, reflect, and feel prepared to support their family’s mental health with the stresses of our new normal. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

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When a family experiences a traumatic event together & If your child says "nobody likes me": When a family experiences a traumatic event together, how can they heal? What do you say when your child says "Nobody likes me." And how do you teach your child to be more flexible? by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

A Family Summer Guide To 2020: Social Distancing Fun: Summer 2020 is unlike any other. In this podcast we help parents think through assessing reasonable risks, managing disappointment around missed summer rituals, and reexamining boredom with a positive lens. We also provide more than 40 ideas of summer activities— Inside, Outside, Virtual, and Local as well as ingenious listener hacks to Stay Connected With Friends by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

42 min listen

Why We Must Flatten Our Emotional Curve For Our Kids: Parents must attempt to manage their emotions in front of their kids. We talk about how to handle powerful moments of anger and panic in an an ideal way as well as how to conclude unintentional emotional outbursts in a positive way to model emotional literacy for your kids. We also talk about the trap of unhealthy reassurance. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

35 min listen

Parents: Try These Bedtime Routine Hacks: Bedtime routine and sleep issues are tough. Now add a global pandemic, and no one is getting good sleep. Here's how to improve sleep problems for kids, teens, and parents. Download our free kids' sleep meditation. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

36 min listen

Reassurance Traps: How to Know When Anxiety Is In Control: Our kids turned to us for reassurance, and anxious kids ask for a lot of it. When we tell them everything will be fine, it feels like the right thing to do in the moment. But is it? How does our well-meaning reassurance interfere with our children developing critical psychological skills? And what should we do instead? by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

35 min listen

Regressive Behavior From Toddlers to Teens: What’s Normal: In our next guide to parenting in a pandemic, regressive behavior appears at all stages of development at many different ages. Learn why child regression happens and how to respond to it and why you might be seeing it more commonly now in our quarantine and lockdown culture. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

Managing Disappointment: When FOMO Becomes Just MO: With all of our graduation, birthday, and family plans cancelled, we must still acknowledge them. We find silver linings in ways to teach our kids critical life skills in adaptability and managing disappointment. We talk about why to put those perfection issues on the brakes and how to focus on creativity, silliness, and connection. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

24 min listen

Helicopter Parents: Strategies for Landing: Helicopter parenting is a loaded label that some parents either wear with pride or are quick to deny. When we hover out of concern, what does that do to our children? While we crowd in our homes during lockdown, it is a good time to ask yourself if you give your kids the space they need for positive development. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

36 min listen

Unpacking Your Family's Baggage And Starting Fresh With Your Kids: What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

56 min listen

Listeners Ask: Back To School Anxiety and Teens Self Diagnosing Their Depression: Listeners ask Lynn in this bonus summer episode about the stress of choosing the best school model for her tweens and teens: remote learning, the hybrid model, and returning to school. Another listener asks how to respond when her 16-year-old daughter thinks she has bipolar disorder. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

34 min listen

Confronting White Fragility and Colorblindness: As the world reacts to the Black Lives Matter movement. we discuss how emotional management can help white people handle white fragility and why families should stop the cycle of raising colorblind children. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

24 min listen

Co-Parenting In A Pandemic: How to Find A Better Balance: Work. Parenting. Relationships. Remember how elusive the idea of balance used to feel way back in 2019? Now it seems like a downright fantasy. The research shows this pandemic has been disruptive to our families in significant ways. And it's disproportionately impacting women and mothers. It's putting our marriages and relationships to the test. So as we work to support our kids, there are traps we all fall into with our partners and spouses. We're going to talk about learning to ask for help in the right way, dropping defensiveness, reducing resentment, and I'm going to tell you why in how improving your co- parenting will help your kids more than you know. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

46 min listen

Supporting Teens in the Pandemic: How They Need Us Most: Teens are part of the age group hardest hit by the impact of the pandemic. Missing out on both the social development and high school's rituals, teens are losing motivation, sleep, and connection. Here's how to help them. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

48 min listen

Listeners Ask: Teens And Peer Pressure: When your teenagers start testing you with new language and behaviors, how do you help them strengthen the skills they need to be more immune to peer pressure and self destructive behavior like cutting? Lynn Lyons answers a listener's question about her 13 year old daughter. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

21 min listen

Hope After A Teen Anxiety and Depression Diagnosis: How to help your child or teen who receives an anxiety or depression diagnosis and avoid the pitfalls that lessen the positive effects of their treatment. We answer a listener question about talking about handling frustration with a child who reacts intensely when things don't go her way. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

40 min listen

Welcome to Flusterclux: Fix Anxiety With Lynn Lyons LICSW: Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 will challenge every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast free of psychobabble and full of concrete advice. Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. In each episode, Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

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When You Should Get Your Child A Depression or Anxiety Diagnosis: How do you go about getting a mental health diagnosis for your child? And what is an ADHD or anxiety diagnosis good for? Lynn Lyons also answers a listener question about the dynamic when there's an anxious parent and a laid-back parent. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

34 min listen

Listeners Ask: Difficult Mothers-in-law and Middle School Slobs: When your middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist— dirty hair, dirty room, indifference to academics, we discuss. And how do you parent your anxious kids in front of unsupportive in-laws? We’ll answer that question in this week’s episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

Listeners Ask: Meltdowns, Anxiety And Depression in Kids: In this parenting podcast, Lynn Lyons answers listener questions about meltdowns and anxiety and depression kids facing the stresses of 2020. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

41 min listen

Election Anxiety: How Not to Scar Your Kids: Election Anxiety. You're hearing a lot about it. But our advice to parents is probably the most overlooked and important for your family. We're going to talk about ways to protect your children from the very big and scary things, namely your unchecked reactions and feelings. And we're going to outline a strategy and ways to get through November without scarring our kids. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

The Physical Symptoms of Anxiety: What You Need to Know: Anxiety shows up in the body—headaches, tummy troubles, and more. We talk about how understanding the mind body connection can help manage the physical symptoms of anxiety for you and your kids. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

41 min listen

Listeners Ask: Siblings Fighting: Don't Say Boys Will Be Boys: There is a right way for parents to handle siblings fighting. Here are strategies from Lynn Lyons to promote empathy and avoid teaching victimization and when parents should intervene and when they should stay out of it. Another listener who's a working mom with kids under 5 feels completely tapped out. She asks Lynn ways to feel less emotionally reactive with her kids at home. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

27 min listen

How Family Laughter And Silliness Are Our Families' Most Powerful Tonics: In this episode we talk about how critical it is in a family to have levity for mental health. Silliness has never been a more a critical parenting tool than in 2020. Here's how to use it to make manage your anxiety and make your kids feel safe. And we answer a listener question about remote learning with high school students at home. How much do you hover? How do you get your own work done? Check out the answers! by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

43 min listen

Santaphobia: Why Santa Freaks Some Kids Out: Santaphobia is real. Santa can freak some kids out. How do you help your child who’s afraid Santa will bring COVID into the house? How do you help the child who doesn’t want to hear anything at all about Santa? And how can the Santa story creep into toxic territory when used as a threatening or shaming tool? Do you do that? What’s a healthy way to talk about Santa? by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

31 min listen

Social Anxiety, Teens, And A Pandemic: If you have an anxious tween or teen who didn't like joining in before, how do you support them in a pandemic with remote learning? And another parent asks about her six year old's struggles with blaming others and finding friends. What do you say to the child who says, "Nobody likes me?" by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

31 min listen

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