Parenting, Perfectionism, and Anxiety: How We Reward Something Toxic

Unpacking Your Family's Baggage And Starting Fresh With Your Kids: What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

56 min listen

Why We Must Flatten Our Emotional Curve For Our Kids: Parents must attempt to manage their emotions in front of their kids. We talk about how to handle powerful moments of anger and panic in an an ideal way as well as how to conclude unintentional emotional outbursts in a positive way to model emotional literacy for your kids. We also talk about the trap of unhealthy reassurance. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

35 min listen

Stuck-In-Home Parenting: We have a new category of parenting, the stuck-in-the-house parent. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons explains why we feel like we are riding a new emotional rollercoaster, and why we feel so exhausted, as our brains are working overtime to absorb our new world conditions. Full transcript available on our website. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

22 min listen

Why Rigidity is the Bellwether of Anxiety Disorders in Children: In our debut episode of Season 2, we discuss our name change from A Mom's Retreat to Flusterclux and what the name means to us and what the podcast is about for new listeners. We talk about the early signs of anxiety parents should be looking for in their kids right now. What is the healthy balance between routine and flexibility that doesn't promote rigidity. Lynn also answers a listener question about a child who gets anxious being on camera during remote learning. She gives the parents the language to support him in adapting. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

Parents: Try These Bedtime Routine Hacks: Bedtime routine and sleep issues are tough. Now add a global pandemic, and no one is getting good sleep. Here's how to improve sleep problems for kids, teens, and parents. Download our free kids' sleep meditation. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

36 min listen

How to Find A Good Child Therapist For Your Kid's Anxiety: We're a few weeks into the school year, and it's time to do a check in. We'll discuss the best ways parents can support their learners from kindergarten to college. And Lynn answers one of the most frequently asked questions wherever she speaks. How do you find a good child therapist? She'll break it down for you on what to look for and when to say no thanks. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

Back To School Anxiety: Supporting The Social-Emotional Needs of Students and Teacher: In this podcast episode on back to school anxiety, we focus on the social and emotional wellbeing for students and teachers and how parents can help. We take questions for guidance counselors and school administrators about helping everyone in the school building or remote learning. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

36 min listen

Helicopter Parents: Strategies for Landing: Helicopter parenting is a loaded label that some parents either wear with pride or are quick to deny. When we hover out of concern, what does that do to our children? While we crowd in our homes during lockdown, it is a good time to ask yourself if you give your kids the space they need for positive development. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

36 min listen

When You Should Get Your Child A Depression or Anxiety Diagnosis: How do you go about getting a mental health diagnosis for your child? And what is an ADHD or anxiety diagnosis good for? Lynn Lyons also answers a listener question about the dynamic when there's an anxious parent and a laid-back parent. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

34 min listen

Managing Disappointment: When FOMO Becomes Just MO: With all of our graduation, birthday, and family plans cancelled, we must still acknowledge them. We find silver linings in ways to teach our kids critical life skills in adaptability and managing disappointment. We talk about why to put those perfection issues on the brakes and how to focus on creativity, silliness, and connection. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

24 min listen

Listeners Ask: Back To School Anxiety and Teens Self Diagnosing Their Depression: Listeners ask Lynn in this bonus summer episode about the stress of choosing the best school model for her tweens and teens: remote learning, the hybrid model, and returning to school. Another listener asks how to respond when her 16-year-old daughter thinks she has bipolar disorder. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

34 min listen

Parenting, Perfectionism, and Anxiety: How We Reward Its Toxicity: Perfectionism and anxiety create a torture chamber we don't want to model for kids. When we reward excellence, how do we know when it becomes toxic? We explain how a parents can check their own behaviors as well as what to look for and say to their kids. Robin and Lynn discuss recent episodes on the Anxiety vaccine, and ways parents can prepare their children better for difficult and awkward feelings. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

43 min listen

When a family experiences a traumatic event together & If your child says "nobody likes me": When a family experiences a traumatic event together, how can they heal? What do you say when your child says "Nobody likes me." And how do you teach your child to be more flexible? by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

Regressive Behavior From Toddlers to Teens: What’s Normal: In our next guide to parenting in a pandemic, regressive behavior appears at all stages of development at many different ages. Learn why child regression happens and how to respond to it and why you might be seeing it more commonly now in our quarantine and lockdown culture. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

Listeners Ask: Mom Guilt, Burnout, and School Stress: Mom guilt, burnout, and stress over remote learning has most parents exhausted these days. Hear psychotherapist Lynn Lyons discuss ways to manage these pandemic parenting stresses. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

40 min listen

Confronting White Fragility and Colorblindness: As the world reacts to the Black Lives Matter movement. we discuss how emotional management can help white people handle white fragility and why families should stop the cycle of raising colorblind children. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

24 min listen

Trailer: Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: Lynn Lyons is one of the most sought after experts on anxiety in parents and children. Flusterclux offers authentic, compassionate straight talk for parents to connect, reflect, and feel prepared to support their family’s mental health with the stresses of our new normal. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

1 min listen

What I Wish Everyone Knew About Gratitude: We'll hear a lot of hype about gratitude with the holidays coming. We'll go over how gratitude is proven to help you and how you may have been thinking about it all wrong. What are gratitude's powers? And what are its limits? And one listener asks what to do for her usually studious freshman, who's suddenly indifferent to high school and grades this year. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

39 min listen

Welcome to Flusterclux: Fix Anxiety With Lynn Lyons LICSW: Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 will challenge every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast free of psychobabble and full of concrete advice. Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. In each episode, Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

1 min listen

Co-Parenting In A Pandemic: How to Find A Better Balance: Work. Parenting. Relationships. Remember how elusive the idea of balance used to feel way back in 2019? Now it seems like a downright fantasy. The research shows this pandemic has been disruptive to our families in significant ways. And it's disproportionately impacting women and mothers. It's putting our marriages and relationships to the test. So as we work to support our kids, there are traps we all fall into with our partners and spouses. We're going to talk about learning to ask for help in the right way, dropping defensiveness, reducing resentment, and I'm going to tell you why in how improving your co- parenting will help your kids more than you know. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

46 min listen

The Anxiety Vaccine pt 2: What Parents Can Do Right Now: As we face a mental health crisis alongside the pandemic that we really focus on the emotional management skills that we can teach our children. It's an effective way to immunize them against emotional difficulties by talking about their emotions, raising their awareness of them, and parents modeling emotional literacy. Lynn discusses the commons trait that most anxious parents have in common in how they raise anxious kids. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

58 min listen

Unpacking your family's baggage about anger, grief, and worry: Just because your Thanksgiving table will have empty chairs this year, doesn't mean that your family's dynamics aren't with you.What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings.This is an updated version of a previous episode (#10) about three of the most powerful patterns that shape not just our relationships with our families, partners, children, and friends but the world outside our homes. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

46 min listen

How Family Laughter And Silliness Are Our Families' Most Powerful Tonics: In this episode we talk about how critical it is in a family to have levity for mental health. Silliness has never been a more a critical parenting tool than in 2020. Here's how to use it to make manage your anxiety and make your kids feel safe. And we answer a listener question about remote learning with high school students at home. How much do you hover? How do you get your own work done? Check out the answers! by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

43 min listen

Listeners Ask: Meltdowns, Anxiety And Depression in Kids: In this parenting podcast, Lynn Lyons answers listener questions about meltdowns and anxiety and depression kids facing the stresses of 2020. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

41 min listen

Plan Now for the Next New Normal: When you look around your home, you’ve probably let some things go, as we’ve all been adapting to our new normal. That’s perfectly reasonable. We’ve been in the “just getting by” mode. But there will be a transition back to normal, and how that will happen for your family is worth some thought. Now, we didn’t have time to prepare when we were thrown into this traumatic pandemic, but we can prepare for our journey out. Other topics include how parents can manage their teens who feel angrier and more withdrawn in quarantine. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

34 min listen

Hope After A Teen Anxiety and Depression Diagnosis: How to help your child or teen who receives an anxiety or depression diagnosis and avoid the pitfalls that lessen the positive effects of their treatment. We answer a listener question about talking about handling frustration with a child who reacts intensely when things don't go her way. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

40 min listen

Social Anxiety, Teens, And A Pandemic: If you have an anxious tween or teen who didn't like joining in before, how do you support them in a pandemic with remote learning? And another parent asks about her six year old's struggles with blaming others and finding friends. What do you say to the child who says, "Nobody likes me?" by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

31 min listen

Tough Dynamics At The Holidays: Blended Families and Angry Teens: For some families, holidays bring out their toughest dynamics. How do divorced parents manage a blended holiday putting their kids first? What if you have a house of angry teenagers with one of them recently in crisis? Is it possible to enjoy your holiday at home when all they want to do is fight? On a lighter note, what secrets does Gilligan's Island hold for every quarantined family? by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

Election Anxiety: How Not to Scar Your Kids: Election Anxiety. You're hearing a lot about it. But our advice to parents is probably the most overlooked and important for your family. We're going to talk about ways to protect your children from the very big and scary things, namely your unchecked reactions and feelings. And we're going to outline a strategy and ways to get through November without scarring our kids. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

38 min listen

Listeners Ask: Siblings Fighting: Don't Say Boys Will Be Boys: There is a right way for parents to handle siblings fighting. Here are strategies from Lynn Lyons to promote empathy and avoid teaching victimization and when parents should intervene and when they should stay out of it. Another listener who's a working mom with kids under 5 feels completely tapped out. She asks Lynn ways to feel less emotionally reactive with her kids at home. by Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

27 min listen

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