Summary of Dr. Laura Markham's Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings

By IRB Media

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#1 The key to a healthy, fun-filled, and satisfying relationship between your children is not their behavior or temperament, but you. The role you play is the most important factor in how well they get along with each other.

#2 A parent who wants more peace in their family and home practices three things: they stay connected to their children, they prioritize their children’s feelings and needs, and they coach rather than control them.

#3 Parents who don’t punish their children don’t raise children who don’t want to hit or hurt others. They raise children who are better people, and who want to help others.

#4 Parents always want to be more calm, but that’s impossible. You can, however, work on returning to calm by noticing when you’re starting to get upset, and developing a repertoire of strategies to return yourself to calm.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: May 2, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822500112

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Contents

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Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The key to a healthy, fun-filled, and satisfying relationship between your children is not their behavior or temperament, but you. The role you play is the most important factor in how well they get along with each other.

#2

A parent who wants more peace in their family and home practices three things: they stay connected to their children, they prioritize their children’s feelings and needs, and they coach rather than control them.

#3

Parents who don’t punish their children don’t raise children who don’t want to hit or hurt others. They raise children who are better people, and who want to help others.

#4

Parents always want to be more calm, but that’s impossible. You can, however, work on returning to calm by noticing when you’re starting to get upset, and developing a repertoire of strategies to return yourself to calm.

#5

When we’re frustrated, we often yell at our kids. But when we want to break the cycle, we need to learn to regulate ourselves.

#6

When you’re able to return to calm, even when emotions get hot, your children learn more productive ways of managing their emotions when they’re upset. They learn that this situation isn’t an emergency, and they can be listened to.

#7

Emotion-coaching is helping your children develop emotional intelligence. It is helping them understand their emotions, and how to manage them. It begins with your child’s ability to soothe himself when he’s upset, and continues through his ability to accept his emotions and manage them.

#8

Empathy is the most important emotion-coaching skill for parents. It helps your children develop self-regulation, and they will be more resilient when they experience disappointment. When they feel understood, they feel closer to you, and they are more willing to cooperate.

#9

Empathy is not automatic for most parents. It takes practice to be empathetic towards your child’s emotions, and towards the emotions of others. But as you practice, you’ll see a change in your child, and in yourself.

#10

The way parents discipline their kids has a huge impact on the relationships between them. When parents resist being punitive when guiding their children, their kids fight less and are nicer to each other.

#11

When parents punish their kids, they are sending the message that conflict is bad, and that they should use force to solve their problems. But kids understand that