A World of Beautiful Colors

By Ami Dzissah

All over the world, there are young women growing up with inadequate guidance and lack of knowledge when approaching intimate relationships. A World of Beautiful Colors serves as a Sister On-Call to every budding and blossoming flower- all young women who wish to date.

In our dating lives, we pick up lessons from friends, families, co-workers, dating books and magazines. A World of Beautiful Colors provides important information that any young woman who wishes to date must know, and introduces the use of a Mental Relationship Scale in effort to encourage healthy intimate relationships.

The author also gives account of the life and betterment of a single parent through which she embraces a world without limitations, in which she models daily as an exhibit of Gods design.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jul 17, 2015
• ISBN: 9781503581371

Ami Dzissah

Doris A. Dzissah was born in West Africa and she migrated to the United states at age 16 in summer of 1996. In may 2003, she graduated from Herbert Lehman College in Bronx NY with Baccaulaureate Degree in Nursing. In May 2012, she graduated with Masters Degree in Nursing Administration from The College of Mount Saint Vincent, Riverdale, NY. She continues to work as a Registered Nurse while dedicating her time to a writing career.

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CONTENTS

Acknowledgements

Introduction

Chapter 1     The Age

Chapter 2     The Infatuation

Chapter 3     The Single Parenting

Chapter 4     The First Moment Of Recovery

Chapter 5     Living Again

Chapter 6     Away To Atlanta Georgia

Chapter 7     The Rainbows of Life

Chapter 8     The Loss

Chapter 9     Table Talk

Chapter 10     Penny Savings

Chapter 11     Seasons Sardines

Chapter 12     The Best Thing Ever

Chapter 13     Juice On Jack

Chapter 14     The Circle Of Men

Chapter 15     At The Peak Of The Mountain

Chapter 16     Taking That U-Turn

Chapter 17     Clipping The Birds Wings

Chapter 18     Friendships

Chapter 19     The Flower Vase

Chapter 20     Let’s Us Go Apple Picking

References

Author Biography

Life is like art. It is a beautiful thing, and we can take caution in choosing the colors to paint it.

This book is a dedication to my two daughters; Seyram and Sena, and also to every budding and blossoming flower- for every young lady in this world.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I must express sincere gratitude to sources of knowledge and inspiration that have guided and strengthened me through my journey as a single parent. Stemming from my love for inspirational music is Dolly Parton. From the preaching of Joel Osteen, Dr. Charles Stanley and Dr. Creflo Dollar, I am instilled constantly with faith and hope. As a new mother finding myself in a displaced world where I learned to cope each day, life must be worth living. I have learned great life’s lessons and moral values from reading the following books; The Jewish Wisdom by Rabbi Joseph Telushkin, Toward a Meaningful Life by Simon Jacobson, and from Life’s Lessons for Women by Jack Canfield, and Mark Victor Hansen. Also to my dear sister, Julianna, who has been an angel onto my children and our backbone through all the years, and to the rest of my family for their relentless love and support. Last of all are my friends and colleagues at work who provide an open forum during lunch breaks and down times to promote self-expression through which I pick up more of the life’s lessons.

INTRODUCTION

In this book is a collection of special moments by a single parent through which she aims at guiding young women on entering healthy relationships. Dating is a beautiful thing to anyone who wishes to date and there is the concept of learning about dating to help carefully select the people we bring into our intimate lives. I have introduced the use of a Mental Relationship Scale when dating. The Mental Relationship Scale is used to determine if someone is worthy regarding entering a long lasting and endless relationship. The Mental Relationship Scale is an imaginary picture of a weight scale and it is based on a personal concept I have found to be useful in assessing the worthiness of a potential partner. All over the world, there are young women growing up with inadequate guidance and lack of adequate knowledge when approaching intimate relationships. This book serves as a ‘Sister On-Call’ to young women who wish to date. As a single parent, I have come across shades of colors in a beautiful world. I learned that no matter the outcome of our lives, when and wherever we find ourselves, there is still life to live and to nourish what has the potential to flourish.

CHAPTER 1

The Age

It is your responsibility to seek a person with whom you will be compatible in every way.

By Simon Jacobson

Until I came across this beautiful quote, I believed that if two people mean well, and have love, respect, and kindness toward each other, those things were enough to make a marriage work. I was ready to settle for marriage with children by age twenty-three. It was then I found out my boyfriend was not at all interested in marriage or having children. I moved on with my life, searching for my soul mate.

I believed if two people shared the same religious beliefs, plus the Love, respect, and kindness, nothing more was needed to make a never-ending marriage work. It did not matter if my partner had little education or flipped burgers for a living. By age twenty-eight, I married with the support of family, friends, and church members. A little over a year later, I checked out with a nine-month-old child, and a six months pregnant belly.

I spent the next six years wondering how I ended up in such a mess. I felt displaced into a completely different world from what I dreamed of. The respect and kindness I thought were present disappeared shortly after we married. I had faith that love would someday fully manifest. The religion remained intact, but we worshiped differently. There are churchgoers, and there are true worshippers. My faith, which is very sacred, varied from his. Our differences also came from common ethical values I grew up with. For example, it is very difficult for some to live with others who cannot tell the simple truth, but it’s a normal way of life for others. The moment I could not trust my partner, it was very difficult to live with him for the rest of my life.

A quality educational foundation is an inheritance from my father, and I wanted the same for my children for as long as I could afford it. But my husband and I did not share the same values about education. My parents never attended college, and yet my dad paid for private school education for all his nine children, from elementary through private colleges and universities for some of them. It saddened me to think that in this generation in the United States, there are young men and women who refuse to invest in their children’s education when they can afford to do so. When my father brought my siblings and I to the United States, his only reason was to get a better education. He didn’t pay for private education like he would have in my country. But every day, he reminded us how much we should value education.

It was very difficult to live with a life partner who did not share the same values. After five months of counseling by church leaders, friends, and family members with the goal of returning to my matrimonial home, I gathered the remains of my strength, faith, pride, and hoped for a better life, and left. I left behind every memory of being married except for my baby and my six-month pregnant belly.

The biggest question I faced was how an intelligent, beautiful young woman could fall into a situation like that. People rarely understand that a woman growing up reaches an age of vulnerability. At that age, what a woman wants is a special kind of happiness—the moment someone lifts up the banner that reads, From now on, everything will be all right. That banner comes in the right size, shape, color, and it doesn’t matter if a word is spelled wrong on it. At that age of vulnerability, we pardon the mistakes we see. We have hope, faith, and belief that if the banner can give us that momentary relief as a smile or a good laugh, all else is negotiable. That moment is the time we eagerly try to meet the one to claim us as life partners so we can transition into the next life of being wives. The moment we make that transition—feeling tagged by that special someone—it’s like we take a vacation and can’t be thankful enough.

The US Survey Course on the web, developed in 1998 by the American Social History Project/Center for Media and Learning, found that many women have joined political clubs in