When Roses Bloom
TAN KHENG HUA
Mother of Shi-An, 23
“Years ago, a friend introduced the concept of ‘benign neglect’ to describe how he felt we were parented. This concept worked wonders for me. On hindsight, the best thing my parents ever did was to have a simple but steady love, provide a safe home and then go about living their own lives while leaving me to my own thoughts a lot of the time. I’ve raised Shi-An in pretty much the same way. She has enough quiet to know her own mind and to find her own way. She has an unselfconscious, easy sense of
