Her Perspective of a True Man

By Rhonda Cotton

A mans worth is valuable but the sad thing is a lot of them dont even know it. As women we are looking for the Prophet, Priest and King to be in our life for the rest of our lives. So as a woman this book is dedicated to you also to show my support and let you know that I believe in you. A Mans Worth is not just about the man but it is also about the woman behind the man. A mans support system may consist of relatives and friends. Such as his mother, wife, daughter, sister, female cousin, aunt, niece and a really good girl friend. This will enable him to realize who he is as a man in the eyes of the women who love him. As for woman, we need to know that our men understand their worth as men, so that they can be everything Gods called them to be.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Feb 28, 2015
• ISBN: 9781503543287

Rhonda Cotton

Rhonda has worked in hospitality for over 30 years in many capacities. She was born December 16th 1965 and has spent the earlier part of her career in the modeling and entertainment industries. She’s a published author of several books that are spiritual base with accents of poetry. Rhonda’s “Freedom” poem was published internationally in 2006. She’s been a motivational speaker and facilitator with several organizations and schools in Missouri, Kansas and Chicago, Illinois. She strives to affect the lives of those she encounters leaving a positive influence on them. Rhonda’s goal is to empower others with God’s word.

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Rev. date: 02/25/2015

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Contents

Dedication

A Woman’s Worth

Foreword

Preface

Introduction True Understanding

Chapter I His Way or the Highway

Chapter II A Mother’s Son

Chapter III His War

Chapter IV His Character

Chapter V The Savior

Chapter VI The Sanctifier

Chapter VII The Satisfier

Chapter VIII Voice of a Child

Chapter IX A Man’s Needs

Chapter X He’s Missing

Chapter XI What She Need’s in Him

Chapter XII The Love Letter

Part Two

Acknowledgement

The Author

References

References

A wise woman knows the importance of speaking life into her man. If you love him: believe in him, encourage him and be his peace

Denzel Washington

DEDICATION

I would like to dedicate this book to the men in my life that came before me such as my ancestor. Those we carried the torch for my generation. To my father, grandfathers, brothers, brother-n-law, uncles, male cousins, and my two son’s nothing in life is given to you so everything you work for belongs to you. It’s a beautiful thing when a man understands his worth. It is the confidence in his eyes that will draw you to him. It is his understanding of you that makes you stick by his side.

A man’s worth is valuable but the sad thing is a lot of them don’t even know it. As women we are looking for the Prophet, Priest and King to be in our life for the rest of our lives. So as a woman this book is dedicated to you also to show my support and let you know that I believe in you. A Man’s Worth is not just about the man but it is also about the woman behind the man. A man’s support system may consist of relatives and friends. Such as his mother, wife, daughter, sister, female cousin, aunt, niece and a really good girl friend. This will enable him to realize who he is as a man in the eyes of the women who love him. As for woman, we need to know that our men understand their worth as men, so that they can be everything Gods called them to be.

When a man wears a scare on his heart he never heals. He carries a hurt that is irreplaceable and caused by fear. It keeps him from becoming who God called him to be. When the scare is cut so deep it can paralyze his existence as a man. All because of a scare that had never healed but expurgated so deep that he thought that even God could not heal. So thank you God for your unconditional love and turning a man’s hurt into incredible love.

Onda C

A WOMAN’S WORTH

Worth; to have value, to have wealth or to be deserving or worthy of a woman…having no match. But to match her you would need to find her worth. Worth and woman are two five letter words beginning in W.O. which, even without the proper spelling, can’t justify her worth. That’s WHOA if you missed the connection. You see, there is no worth that can be measured or matched to her because those who down her and try to depreciate her worth are in return worth less than what they claim to be, which leaves her claiming this worthlessness surrounding her. This worthlessness gives her the urge to search for perfection oblivious to what she is really searching for in herself.

Her impeccable imperfection personifies the personality she strives to find in perfection. She’s the epitome of what she is searching for. Once she has found that she is matchless, everything else will be less of a match than what she has perceived. But until then, the reality is that she still moves along not knowing that the equivalent of what she has to offer is worth more than the hearts and minds of all those she has offered herself to. For those who have missed her worth, they’re still incognizant to their loss because her worth goes beyond what their eyes can see, what their heart can feel, or what their mind can ponder…my definition of a woman’s worth.

By A’naz Rhome Sylvers-Cotton

FOREWORD

As a writer Rhonda has always been the voice of reason amongst many. She is a creative writer and is interested in the mindset of the people and how her own life expectation has caused her to increase her faith in God. She understands that there is a calling on her life and wants to walk in her purpose. By following the will of God and doing what He wants her to do. She is also a single parent of two boys and with the help of her own village which includes close family and friends; she has been able to raise two great young men.

The author says, To laugh keeps you from crying; crying keeps you from going insane, and insanity keeps you moving forward in order to maintain what your destiny will become. This is how she deals with life and hopefully life deals with her in the same manner. Rhonda is a wonderful motivational speaker and encourager who loves to enlighten youth and adults about whom they are and where destiny may be leading them.

Her only hope is that you take this book and get all that you can from it so that you will receive what God has for you. At the same time, think about the situations you’ve been in and what they meant to you. Recognize that God has watched over you and trusted you with whatever those situations might have been. Once you understand that, CHANGE YOUR LIFE and YOUR MINDSET!!!!

PREFACE

Why do we get caught up with people who really don’t care about you! How’s it that men and women are able to trick or treat others like they are less of a person. People please do this, to everyone who feels as if they are not capable of doing right by others, please leave them alone. Can we be so blind that we only see what we want? Can we be so selfish that we care little for another human being? Does it not matter to you that someone else is suffering?

What’s the point of it all! I see the pain in the eyes of those who are trying to survive. I’ve seen the pain in a woman’s eyes because all I had to do was look in the mirror. But when I see pain in the eyes of men it is different. I try to understand their thought process but it is hard to reach their minds. Is there anything that can ease the pain and the heartache within them? What’s the point when it seems as if no one else really cares but me? I have grown tired of listening to the lye’s of people we continually put their foot in their mouth.

As a kid going up and still until this day my grandparents