Shrimps and Caviar: The Upside & Downsides of Struggling Relationships

By Larry Flemmings

LIFES STRUGGLES

Is the story of one mans hearts struggle to perfection that turn into failure, deceit and destruction. In order for his life to be completed after so many failures; he reached out to help enhance the life of others lives. The upside and downsides of life struggles, with the downsides of life, being the shrimp of life struggles, with the perfections of the Caviar of life to his success of life that also became the Yeah, of his life. Which was what he thought to be the Caviar of his life, that also became the worst parts of his life because of beauty, thickness and the outward appearance of the Caviar, which was what he desired to have. That also was the awakening of his life to a final success of progress and success, the finale of a new beginning of accomplishment well accomplished, a wait well waited for, after 10 years of waiting patiently. Only to find out that he still didnt wait long enough for the right one to come along, that cause his life to be a living hell, going through hell and was on the way to hell. All because of looks,and the appearance of a hidden heart that spoke loudly of loneliness, sadness and the need to be needed, wanted and cared for, yet still not the right choice. So then he went from having, to not having anything that he had and did not know what he really could have had if he had waited. long story short, as you will see in this story it will teach you and you will know and learn some things hopefully as you read this material. My reason for this insert is that you will learn from your experiences, mistakes and wants verses your needs in your life of perseverance and persuasions.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: May 31, 2012
• ISBN: 9781469156309

Larry Flemmings

I believe I am qualified to write my book because I think people really need to hear my side of the story when it comes to broken relationships. I had some good times and I had some hills to climb, and sometimes I have to ask a question and that is why there was so much pain and questions like: Why did it have to happen to me? I live in Syracuse, New York, and have been since 1985. I am an ordained minister as well as a business owner. I have three boys and a daughter, and I love all of them the same.

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Table of Contents

Chapter I LIFE’S STRUGGLES

Chapter II MY LIFE

Forbidden

Childhood stages

Gossip, All Is Gossip

The Reason why Some Relationships Fail

Secrets

The Eyes of God

Chapter III TEN YEARS LATER

Deceitfulness

The Journey

Lessons in Life

Worship

The Enemy

The Truth

Whisperers

Games

Reality

Chapter IV GOD’S WRATH

God’s Creation

Gods Revelation on Relationships

Chapter V TWO PEOPLE ONE LOVE

GLOSSARY

This book is

dedicated to

My mother, Katie P. Flemmings.

Chapter I

LIFE’S STRUGGLES

Shrimps and Caviar is the story of one man’s heart struggle that deviated from being perfect to failure, deceitfulness, and destruction. And as a result of so many turned downs in his life, he decided it was only right to reach out and share a portion of his life and what he had to endure. He accomplished this as much as he could by means of counseling and helping others to the best of his knowledge. However, life itself can be a struggle. Struggle regenerates struggles and life procreates life. He chose life.

The upside and downside of life struggles can be complicated sometimes. However, the only way affairs can be corrected is having to first go through something. Since there is no real match made in heaven, as we suppose there is, you are that match, because you came together as one. Whenever God puts a man and a woman together, they must always respect each other and make whatever that is not working - to work. Nevertheless, the two have to agree that they disagree with each other sometimes. One must give it a try because it works. Genesis 2:18 and the Lord God said, it is not good for man to be alone; I will make a help meet for him.

As the story goes on, he met someone whom he thought would be the love of his life and that she would be the last of His pursuit of happiness. Nevertheless, something went wrong and was not detained until it was too late which was most likely because he had seen the peripheral, as it was rendered speechless. This type of ambiance made Him powerless, being also the nature of existence, which was the reality of life.

This particular time was the awakening that gave insight to what was going on and became the focus and the finale success of life. It was the explosion and a new beginning of an accomplishment well accomplished, a wait that was worth waiting for after waiting so patiently.

Only to find out that he still did not wait long enough for the right one to come along but instead it caused a lot of mayhem, throbbing, torment and annoyance. Whereas, he felt perplexed and spellbound.

All of this chaos because of looks, appearance of a hidden heart that spoke loudly of seclusion and sorrow. Along came a demand and a desire to be loved, wanted, and cared for. Yet and still not the right choice and why was that? We all want to be loved in a special way and at times we get in a hurry to find it. The mere fact of rushing, caused Him to make one of the biggest mistakes anyone could ever make in their lives due to a want and not a need. It was her pulchritude that captured his heart and not her quintessence and what was in the heart. As a result of the outer appearance, it causes a great deal of people to lose track of what they were seeking.

During relationships there will be times you will have plenty and times you will have little. As time went by, she and him went from having everything to not having anything. They did not realize what they had or we would have had because they were impatient. As you continue reading this long awaited story, you will learn or take notes of some of the information presented. Hopefully as you read it, it will help you in your relationship and give you some comfort knowing that you are not the only one that goes through trials. In your relationship, problems will come and go. The scars still remain but they can be worked on – if given a chance for the good of the principle of love’s sake. Clearly keeping it one hundred.

My reason for writing this story is for you to learn by your own experiences, mistakes and wants, versus your needs in life of perseverance and persuasions.

Shrimps and Caviar

The foundation as to why this book is called Shrimps and Caviar, is because it is based on the nature of the two. It is based on what we perceive is good and what is not. Shrimps are bottom feeders and Caviar are top shelf. They both are good and the only thing between them is that one lives and feeds from the bottom and the other is what we call top shelf. The shrimp being the woman is enticing and edible. However, she is the least to be seen with for the simple fact of her uncomeliness. She is referred to as Shrimp girl due to her hot body but lack of beauty. These shrimps live at the bottom and pretty much the man will devour while over their houses at night in order to not be seen by others. They are known to be creepy crawlers which crawl, slip and slide in the dark. The Caviar is known to be top shelf and are all feasible and acceptable at all times and in any place. Caviars are desired by all but at the same time are treacherous, untrustworthy, unstable and insecure. It uses its beauty for selfish reasons and is all about self-controlling. A relationship must never be about how beautiful she is or how handsome he is. While it plays a large role, it must be about what the two truly see in each other and not what can be selfishly accomplished on getting over on one another. As reaffirmed, love must be about what two people have and truly feel about one another.

Through it all, I have learned to trust in the Lord and his mighty acts of comfort and genuineness because He has done so much for me and has kept me from all evil that has tried to keep me down. I give thanks to God for whom He is in my life because I love him to the fullest as I can. I give him honor and glory for all that He has done for me throughout the good times as well as the bad. If it was not for the bad times, I would not have been able to get this far writing this little book of my life. I continue to give God the praises for what He has done with the hope of someone reading my story and believing in what He has given me and allowing it to help those that might be going through heartaches in their lives.

I thank God for being able to go through and giving me the strength and willpower for Him finishing that which He has put inside of me. I also give Him honor and glory for instructing my grandmother to be there for me because I had no one else other than her. Simply because my father was too busy to take care of us and instead threw us off on her. My grandmother who has since gone on to be with the Lord, I pray, and I only say that because of what the Bible say about going to heaven.

The Bible tells us in the book of John 3:13, that there is no man, (meaning) nobody has ascended to heaven, but him that came down, the Son of Man, who is in heaven. The Bible tells us that if we say someone has gone to heaven it is to bring Jesus down from heaven.

It also tells us that if we say that someone has gone to hell it is to say that Jesus has never ascended, that is the reason why I said what I said. However, the word of God did say that we would go into the bosom of Abraham. According to Luke 16:22–23, and it came to pass, that the beggar died, and was carried by the angels into the bosom of Abraham’s.

The rich man also died, but was buried and was in hell when he opened up his eyes as he was in torment. He looked afar off, and seen Lazarus in the bosom of Abraham, cried and said, Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, that it might cool my tongue because these flames are tormenting me. Abraham reminded him of his lifetime and said, (paraphrased) remember when you thought you had it going on, and Lazarus sought you for help because he had nothing and you gave him nothing he ask you for. Do not worry about him he is in my care now and I will give him comfort because of your despitefulness towards him, and because of greediness, I will cast you out of my sight and into the outer darkness of darkness where