Nobody's Daughter: Defeating Dysfunction

By Michelle Reeves

How to discover the root of your dysfunction and how it relates to the pain and drama in your life. How to recognize how it has paralyzed your purpose, and how to defeat it once and for all.

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Jun 2, 2022
• ISBN: 9781664265875

Michelle Reeves

Michelle Reeves born in Detroit, MI and now residing in Lansing, MI is a Wife, Mother and Grandmother. She is also the First Lady of Safeharbor Ministries in Holt, MI. She credits God for giving her the ability to journal many of her life’s experiences as a written testimony to how God can transform pain and dysfunction into a powerful purpose. These life experiences and the powerful insights and revelations that has come through them is what she uses to Mentor and help others. She is also a recording artist/songwriter who has learned how to put the pain of her life’s experiences on paper and vinyl as a testimony to others that will hear or read the cries from her soul. Her album entitled Misfit is her pains soundtrack to the soul of this book. She is a firm believer that God brought her through all that he has for the purpose of helping lead and guide others through some of life’s most debilitating and hurtful circumstances. It is her prayer that all who will read this book or hear the music will find hope and guidance in the midst of their own painful circumstances.

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NOBODY’S

DAUGHTER

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DEFEATING DYSFUNCTION

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Michelle Reeves

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CONTENTS

Author Bio

Acknowlegements

Chapter 1 Dysfunctional Bloodline

Chapter 2 Rooted in Dysfunction

Chapter 3 Recognizing Dysfunctional Men (Broken Little Boys Disguised as Men)

Chapter 4 Recognizing Dysfunctional Women (Broken Little Girls Behind the Mask)

Chapter 5 Liberty from Dysfunction

Chapter 6 Becoming A Whole Woman

Chapter 7 Defeating Dysfunction

AUTHOR BIO

Michelle Reeves born in Detroit, MI and now residing in Lansing, MI is a Wife, Mother and Grandmother. She is also the First Lady of Safeharbor Ministries in Holt, MI. She credits God for giving her the ability to journal many of her life’s experiences as a written testimony to how God can transform pain and dysfunction into a powerful purpose. These life experiences and the powerful insights and revelations that has come through them is what she uses to Mentor and help others.

She is also a recording artist/songwriter who has learned how to put the pain of her life’s experiences on paper and vinyl as a testimony to others that will hear or read the cries from her soul. Her album entitled Misfit is her pains soundtrack to the soul of this book.

She is a firm believer that God brought her through all that he has for the purpose of helping lead and guide others through some of life’s most debilitating and hurtful circumstances. It is her prayer that all who will read this book or hear the music will find hope and guidance in the midst of their own painful circumstances.

ACKNOWLEGEMENTS

I would like to Thank God for keeping me throughout my life’s journey. I don’t know where I would be without His divine love and guidance. I Thank Him for loving me when I didn’t know how to love myself, for forgiving me before I knew how to forgive and for giving me the power of discernment that has given me wisdom to overcome all that has come against me. I want to Thank my loving, devoted and supportive Husband and Pastor, Ray Reeves, who has always treated me as his Queen and stood by me and decided to love me like no other has before. I love you truly my Boaz and I look forward to living out the rest of my days in your loving arms, I am proud to be your Wife, I thank God for giving me one of His treasures. I dedicate this book to my legacy My Beautiful Daughters My firstborn love Kiana and my baby love Briana who have traveled through this journey through the good, the bad and the ugly, and have loved me as their mother unconditionally, I love you my babies and all I do is to repay you for being the gifts from God that have never stop giving. I thought Mother was my most steadfast an immovable title, and that there was no greater love until God sent me another one of his angels to be my firstborn grand-daughter Mariana. I am so blessed to have the opportunity to shower you with love as your Glam-Ma, you have motivated me to step out and do more of what God has called me to do, I truly thank God for you. To all my babies that call me Auntie I thank God to have had you all as a part of my life, having a house full of children and their laughter saved my life through a period the enemy thought he had defeated me, but God sent children all around me to inspire me to keep going and I thank all my babies for that, Last but not least, I Thank my spiritual children and my entire Safeharbor Ministries family where my Husband is the Pastor, for your continued love, dedication and support in choosing this Ministry for your spiritual growth and development, it is an honor and a privilege to be your Spiritual Mom and First Lady.

CHAPTER 1

DYSFUNCTIONAL BLOODLINE

M any people don’t even know they are dysfunctional because many have been born and raised in dysfunction and have come from a dysfunctional environment, where it has been all they have known or seen. In this scenario, dysfunction has masqueraded as a Normal way of life. Then there are those who want to believe that there is something wrong with everyone else and fail to accept and admit that in essence there is something wrong from within themselves. To defeat dysfunction, you must first admit that it is there, and it expose the effect it has had in your life, so you can serve it an eviction notice once and for all to enable you to live a happy and fulfilling life. This book’s purpose is to enlighten how to recognize dysfunction in its many forms and learn where it started and how it grows until it is confronted.

The bloodline we are born into shapes and develops the early existence of who we are and who we will ultimately become unless alternative behaviors and attitudes are taught and learned.

The bloodline is the place where we are taught how to talk, how to walk, and how we respond to situations and circumstances. Many of these characteristics are in our genetic makeup, regardless to whether we are adopted or raised by someone else other than our parents there are certain personality traits and character manifestations that will come forth as a result of the bloodline. Therefore, even when someone chooses to go to a sperm bank, they want to find out about the