Dating in the 20Th Century

By Mathew Swabey

This book has taken you through thirty or so different personality types and opened your eyes to everything and anything you are likely to encounter in your search for the perfect partner. Hopefully, by my being so specific in my wording and what I have told you, you will now make better choices when you look for that special someone, and this in turn will prevent you from having to pay out money for a divorce or having to go through the downside of separation. And always, always remember that there will be emotional ups and downs no matter what sort of relationship you want. Be prepared for anything as people are very unknown no matter how much they try to globally sync their personalities.

See you again in my second book: Some Emotional Personalities within the Dating World.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris NZ
• Release date: Dec 19, 2015
• ISBN: 9781499097832

Mathew Swabey

I am a thirty-one-year-old chef who has travelled since I was eighteen years old, after leaving my home in Ranui, Auckland, in New Zealand. I come from a family where our mum loved us unconditionally and our dad was emotionally vacant. Though initially he didn’t want his kids, he did for a few years get into the idea of raising us then realised it was too hard. Where as mum, worked herself in the ground raising me and my brother and the child we called dad. I’ve seen things from kids being raped in public to people stealing and murdering people for one slice of bread to human being treated like a commodity or cattle to make the stupid rich by abusing their lack of knowledge or, as we call it, naivety. I’m sick of it, and this will cut down those situations. I have interacted with people from all walks of life who all have one thing in common. They all say to me, “Matty, stop stereotyping everyone, we are all individuals and cannot be labeled.” Well, I disagree, and in this book, I have proven that. Stereotyping for me is fun due to the fact that a person can be many different stereotypes in the course of their life, or they are one for the duration of their life it all depends. This meant that whenever I went out or went somewhere new, I was always watching, always observing, always taking in anything and everything I could and growing my mind every minute of every day. This made me seriously fucked up and nutty and emotional to the point where I would eat a lot. But ever since leaving home, I have had the travel bug, and I have excised that for years, learning form the world around me, watching people, and in some cases, I’d watch more than I’d work. but through all the pain and suffering and emotional depression came alot of knowledge about people that i have now decided to share with all of you.

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CONTENTS

Introduction

• Side Note

1 Dating in the Twentieth Century

• What It’s Like

• Where It Happens

• Why It’s Like This

• What Is Involved

• Who Dates and Who Doesn’t

• How It Is Done

• How to Be Aware of It and Be Prepared

2 The Capitalist Mind

• Money

• Assets

3 Sponge

• They Absorb Anything and Everything

4 The Vinyl

• I Will Be Something Different Every Minute

5 The Ego: Everything I Do Is Gold and Should Not Be Questioned

• Family-Backed Ego

• Friend-Backed Ego

• Life Experiences–Backed Ego

• Knowledge-but-No-Life-Experiences Ego

6 The Emotional Magician

• I’m Emotionally Damaged, and I Wanna Hurt Others Too

• I Like to Play Emotional Games but Don’t Want Anything Serious

• I Like to Play Games with Others, but I Want an Open, Honest Partner

• Me and My Friends or Family Play Emotional Games, and I Wanna Do It with You, but You Have to Prove Yourself First

7 The Mental Wizard

• I Play Games in Order to Find My Potential Soulmate and to Amuse Myself

• Are You Strong Enough for Me?

• Are You Weak Enough for Me?

8 The Family Person

• My Family Comes First

• My Family Means Nothing to Me, but They’re Still There

9 The More Traditional

• I Was Born in the Old Days, and Let’s See If You Are Too

10 The Culturalist

• My Culture Is Everything to Me

11 The Religious

• My Religion Says This—Are You the Right One to Be with Me?

12 The Abused

• I’ve Been Abused and Wanna Be Supported

• I’ve Been Abused and Wanna Protect You from That

• I’ve Been Abused and Expect You to Experience It

13 The Old Soul

• Old People Are Closer to Me in Every Way

• I Feel Like I’m an Old Soul in a Young Body and Look Down on Everyone

• The Elderly Are Rich, and I Don’t Wanna Work Ever

14 The Successor

• You Must Have High Goals and Should Be Doing Everything to Achieve Them

• I Don’t Care If You’ve Set Your Goals High; Just Love Me, and I’ll Protect/Teach You

• I Don’t Wanna Be Alone, So You Stay with Me and Deal with My Sex Drive and Emotional Needs

15 The Chilled

• Nothing in Life Matters; Let’s See Where Whatever Takes Us

16 The Half-Chilled

• Nothing in Life Matters, but I Know What I Care About

17 The Child

• I Will Never Grow Up, but I Don’t Wanna Be Alone

• I Trust Everyone

• I Don’t Trust Anyone

• Go Away, World

18 Societal Mind: I Call Them Societal Photocopiers

• This Is the Way You Behave

19 The Hoarder

• I Need as Much Stuff as I Can Get

20 The Multiple Gender

• I Want a Man and a Woman

• The Strong-Willed Personality

• Strong Will with Humility

• The Entertainer

• The Social Person

• He Is a Man but Wants to Be a Woman

21 The Sex Addict

• Let’s Fuck All the Time!

22 The Physical Hard-Worker

• I Need Someone Who’s There All the Time

• Sexual Hard-Worker

• Quick-Fix Hard-Worker

• The Mental Hard-Worker

• The Perfect Hard-Worker

23 The Individual (Oh, the Individual)

• I’m Me, So Accept It or Go Away; Or You Can Be You at the Same Time, and We Meet in the Middle

24 The Dominant

• I’m in Charge; Anything I Say or Do Is Selfish and Must Be Followed

• Rich Dominant

• Poor Dominant

25 The Leech: Get the Hell Away from This Person!

• I Will Use Anybody and Everybody for Emotional Support, Financial Support, Sexual Support, and Then Abandon Them

26 The Drunk

• Alcohol Is My Life; I Can’t Go without It

27 The Artist

• Everything I Do Is about My Passion for Art

28 The Gambler

• I Take Risks on Everything and Anything

29 The Bushy

• Full of Common Sense, Practical, and Lacking in Knowledge of Modern-World Traits

30 My Mind Is Either Open or Close

• 1. Close Mind

• 2. Open Mind

31 The Whisperer

• I Live in the Background and Quietly Go with the Flow

32 The Gypsy

• My Heart Rules My Life and Decisions; I Think on My Feet Always

33 The Orphan

• Humanity’s Good and Bad Have Made Me Mentally Unstable, So I Prefer to Be Alone

34 Chips on People’s Shoulders in Relation to the Dating World

• 1. Self-Confidence

• 2. Money

• 3. Drugs, Alcohol, Quick Fixes

• 4. Societal Conformity

• 5. Support System

• 6. Sex

• 7. Lies and Manipulation

• 8. Dark Past

• 9. Secret Lives

• 10. Cowardice

• 11. History

• Emotional Chip Summary

INTRODUCTION

T ODAY PEOPLE DON’T bother to date any more, and they aren’t really looking for a partner. What they are after is a quick fuck or someone who’s a good fuck that they can keep around so they only have to go out looking once. There’s a small percentage that want a partner, but in this day and age, it is for purely practical reasons why couples or people together often lead to divorce, separation, cheating, or emotional destruction. Also, in society, most parents do not know how to raise their kids and has a huge lack of self-confidence or anything that can be called common sense. It’s is all about ‘What can you do for me?’

In this book, I will be discussing the way dating has changed and the different personality stereotypes that are out there in detail, including how they’ll affect you and, in some cases, what you can do to be prepared for them. There are a lot of personalities in my book, and some of them will be evident in the same person, but it is better that you know about them than be in the dark and end up down the track having to file for divorce or get separated because you weren’t prepared for anything. This is designed to arm you and prepare you for everything.

Side Note

Should you choose to change any of these personalities that I’m talking about in my book, remember that they will have to have vices—for instance (as stated in this book), drugs, sex, smoking, cheating, poker, or anything through which they can vent that emotional baggage that collects due to the fact that ‘Hey, you’re forcing me to be someone I’m not’ or ‘You’re forcing me to change into something I’m not’. This creates serious emotional baggage that must be released and dealt with. There is no simple way to change a person from who they are into whom you want them to be! Every time you see them being happy or accepting what you’ve turned them into, it is fake, just to make you feel good about yourself and keep the relationship together until they ditch you or do things you know nothing about should you find out. Oh well, too bad. You tried to change them.

CHAPTER 1

Dating in the Twentieth Century

What It’s Like

I N TODAY’S MODERN world, dating is done mostly online, and very rarely do you get to see the person’s face that you’re interested in unless you have talked for weeks online. Then if you choose to believe what they say to you, the two of you can make an appointment to meet face to face and hope that both of you stick to it. If one of you chooses not to show up, then the modicum of trust that you’ve spent all those hours online generating has been destroyed unless the person is so desperate for a partner that they will forgive anything you say or do simply because of how you made them feel during your online interactions.

People now choose to experience emotions online under the veil of safety of sitting behind their computer and being hidden from the world so that they don’t feel or show any kind of weakness of individuality to the general public. The only thing that the general public gets to see is the personality that has been generated over the years as the person has been observing how the masses behave.

In some instances though, there are people who lie and have manipulating intentions. They will say or do anything to arrange a face-to-face meet purely for the intention of having as much sex as possible. And should you be a good fuck, then chances are the relationship will be formed around fucking, but it will be hollow and empty. When the two of you try to express emotion or choose to try to be emotionally supporting of each other, the relationship will fall apart due to the fact that neither of