Episode #50 is here! What a massive ride it's been so far, I absolutely love podcasting and it is one of my favorite ways to show up and serve you!The support I feel from this community is immense, and it only drives me to show up more. You inspire me every day to stay true to myself and my mission of bringing healthy sexuality to the wellness table and I honestly wouldn't want to be doing anything else.The messages I receive (almost daily!) about the content I share and how impactful it's been on your lives continue to blow me away each and every time. So far each episode is averaging around two thousand downloads within a week, with over fifteen hundred listeners around the globe AND we are almost at FIFTY THOUSAND DOWNLOADS total.The evidence is staring us right in the face - this work is so needed in the world.Thank you.Thank you.Thank you.So onto today's episode!I would be oblivious if I didn't mention something about the coronavirus so I've mentioned a few mindset suggestions to keep optimistic and in good health.But this episode is about attracting and creating a relationship that you ACTUALLY WANT.Emphasis on the "actually".There are societal cookie-cutter templates of what relationships "should" look like. Expectations doused on us from old, and frankly irrelevant models that do not match the reality of the modern social climate.We live longer.We're flexible and mobile.Women don't depend on men anymore for money like in season one of Mad Men.That was only fifty years ago, so it's no surprise that the remnants of these old relationship paradigms still haunt us.We are now living in a time where two people come together purely by CHOICE. With 100% freedom (or so we believe) to create a relationship that works for them.So what do you *actually* want? Underneath the expectations, the societal measures of success and adopted beliefs about love, what do you need to feel fulfilled and deeply in love?In this episode, I talk about some controversial topics like monogamy vs polyamory, freedom, intimacy needs in and outside your relationship, impermanence, dealing with uncertainty and creating a love that is grounded in self-love and radical trust - instead of codependency and external "shoulds".As always I love to hear your feedback and key takes away so be sure to reach out with your thoughts!