Transform stress to self care: The 8 approaches you need
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Have you noticed how when you're stressed, the only solution out there seems to be meditation? Don't get me wrong, I love meditation as much as the next turmeric latte lover... but sometimes we need strategies to sort the causes of stress out. For every person I know who finds meditation enough, there's another who says "I medit
Kathleen Robb
Kathleen Robb qualified as an occupational therapist and studied further in solution- focused therapy due to a passion for mental health. Later she worked in case management in various health and welfare before moving into policy and quality. But her passion for the strategies she learnt and taught in her mental health role never went away, and it became obvious that these self care practices need to be taken to the world. Much like we all benefit from eating well and exercising, even if we're not overweight or unwell, we all benefit from knowing how to care for our mind, emotions and life. Kathleen now works as a personal transformation mentor for women, specialising in teaching stress management and self care strategies. She lives in a friendly forest village on the outskirts of Melbourne, Australia with her husband, daughter and two rapscallion rescue dogs. Kathleen is currently studying a degree in naturopathy to add even more strategies for self care to her toolbox. She has a foot in both camps - scientifically proven health as well as traditional spiritual and healing practices. In spending most of her life immersed in both worlds simultaneously, she is able to draw together unique strategies to suit each individual. Above all else, Kathleen believes we all deserve to have a peaceful mind, and a happy heart.
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Transform stress to self care - Kathleen Robb
TRANSFORM STRESS TO SELF CARE
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The 8 approaches you need
© 2018
KATHLEEN ROBB
© 2018
KATHLEEN ROBB
Kathleen Robb
This book is dedicated:
To my parents Fay and Peter,
and sisters Gillian and Felicity,
Thank you for the unconditional love, and being there for the whole journey.
My husband John and daughter Ava:
My cup overflows.
My teacher, Ken Grady, who believed in me before I did.
To those who seek solace from their stress
And to that place of peace that resides within us all.
No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without prior written permission from the author, except for brief quotations with credit given to the author.
This book contains information of a general nature, intended to help the reader be informed regarding their options for managing stress. It is not intended to be a substitute for medical advice from a qualified doctor or health practitioner. The reader should consult their doctor in any matters relating to their health, and before applying any strategies contained within this book. The author made every effort to ensure the information was correct at the time of publishing, but the author does not assume and hereby disclaims any liability for loss or damage by any cause from using the information herein. By using the information in this book you accept these terms.
Copyright, Kathleen Robb © 2018 All rights reserved
Select photographs by John Robb Photography: www.johnrobb.com.au
Formatting and diagrams by Sreejith Vinodkumar: www.torusdxn.com
MY STRESS STORY
Many years ago, I was engaged to a guy and we lived in London. He had lost his job, and it became my full time mission to keep his spirits up. If I raised concerns about how we budgeted life in expensive London on my single income while trying to keep up with our wealthier friends, he became extremely angry. When I tried to encourage him to continue applying for jobs, he became angry. Over time, my life bent entirely around trying to maintain his mood.
Then he got a job. I was so relieved. At last, my needs could have a turn! This is when I discovered the power of a dysfunctional relationship dynamic. Nothing changed. My needs still triggered anger. Eventually, I wrote down all the topics we were arguing about. I wrote down what he wanted, what I wanted, and the compromise in between for each of these issues. I took the list to him and asked if we could talk. He picked up a pen, took my piece of paper, and drew a slashing line straight through it. The message was clear – his way.
At this I asked if we could seek help, or I could no longer survive in this relationship. He scoffed at the idea that I would leave, and told me I will never let you leave. You will have to run away
.
The following weekend he went to play soccer with friends. And I ran away. I had the contents of one backpack and not a single dollar in the bank – he had spent it all. Luckily I had one other thing that prevented me from sleeping on the streets – I had generous friends who allowed me to stay on their couch until I could find somewhere to live and gather some savings together.
So I learnt about relationship stress, and financial stress, and decided: never again. I didn’t get it right straight away - I had other unhealthy relationships until I found a healthy and kind and respectful one. And I sometimes spent too much money on the way to putting a down payment on my own apartment. But I turned a corner that day that has taken me in a whole new direction.
I still worked too hard and had some unhealthy friendships. I knew work stress wasn’t meant to be healthy, but I loved my work and I thought I was thriving on the adrenaline.
And then I made the world’s smallest mistake at work. And despite the 14 hour days, and a history of years of pouring my heart and soul into my work, certain workmates responded in an extreme way and in a moment I felt completely shattered. I went from confident and passionate at work to having panic attacks and isolating myself. Several miscarriages followed. Some of my friends drifted away.
It was a dark time.
I took time out to heal. I developed new dreams (to study a naturopathy degree, which I am halfway through), and I pursued my passions and spent more time with people whose energy was gentle and kind. And bit by bit I managed my stress. Not by changing the world around me - but by changing how I responded to it.
In learning this, my life changed forever. I had a daughter (NB please don’t tell people who are struggling with fertility they need to relax. This is not the answer for everyone, and even though it was a big part of my story, it is not the whole of my story). I am loving my studies. I live in a home I love with my husband, daughter and dogs in the world’s loveliest community. Life is good.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
MY STRESS STORY
WHY THIS GUIDE HAS NOTHING BUT EVERYTHING TO DO WITH MEDITATING TO SOLVE STRESS
HOW TO USE THIS WORKBOOK
HOW STRESS AFFECTS OUR LIVES
WHY IT IS GREAT NEWS THAT STRESS IS AFFECTING OUR WHOLE LIFE
STRESS AND YOUR THOUGHTS
COGNITIVE BEHAVIOUR THERAPY (CBT)
ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT)
SELF-TALK AND AFFIRMATIONS
DECLUTTER YOUR DECISIONS
STRESS AND YOUR EMOTIONS
SAFELY PROCESSING EMOTIONS
FEELING TRIGGERED
VICARIOUS TRAUMA
CARER STRESS
STRESS AND YOUR HABITS
OVERWHELM
BATCHING FOR EFFICIENCY
DO YOUR HABITS SUPPORT THE LIFE YOU WANT?
LOOSENING THE HOLD OF UNHELPFUL HABITS
CREATING NEW HABITS
DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION, EXCUSES AND OTHER FORMS OF SELF-SABOTAGE
FINANCIAL HABITS
STRESS AND YOUR ENVIRONMENT
CREATING AN ENVIRONMENT THAT SUPPORTS YOU
DEALING WITH CLUTTER
JOY IN YOUR ENVIRONMENT
STRESS AND YOUR BODY
BACK TO THE BREATH
NUTRITION AND STRESS
Hydration
Nutrition
A healthy microbiome for a healthy mind
Nutrition for balancing stress and relaxation hormones
Energy production
Making nutritional changes
SLEEP AND REST
EXERCISE
HOW TO SHIFT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BODY
STRESS AND YOUR ENERGY FIELD
THE SHADOW SELF
CHAKRAS AND STRESS
Base chakra
Sacral chakra
Solar plexus chakra
Heart chakra
Throat chakra
THIRD EYE/ BROW CHAKRA
CROWN CHAKRA
CALMING AND CLEARING THE ENERGY FIELD
Letting go of concepts and ideas that haven’t been working for you
Refresh and cleanse your field at the end of the day
Protect your energy field at the start of the day or as needed
Cord cutting to create space from unhealthy relationships
Put down energetic roots to feel stable, nurtured and grounded
Soothe your frazzled energy
STRESS AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET
HOW TO DECREASE RELATIONSHIP STRESS IMMEDIATELY.
STRESSFUL RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS
PEOPLE PLEASING, LEAKY BOUNDARIES AND SAYING NO
REDUCING STRESS THROUGH SOCIAL CONNECTION
STRESS AND YOUR SPIRIT
MINDFULNESS
FORGIVENESS
GRATITUDE
PRAYER AND SURRENDER
HOW TO TAKE THIS WORK DEEPER TO REALLY MAKE A TRANSFORMATION AND WORK WITH ME.
ABOUT KATHLEEN ROBB
BIBLIOGRAPHY
WHY THIS GUIDE HAS NOTHING BUT EVERYTHING TO DO WITH MEDITATING TO SOLVE STRESS
Albert Einstein tells us that we can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. When it comes to stress, we can’t solve it out there
unless we solve it in here
– within our own minds and hearts and the way