Controlling Your "Ace": Attitude, Comments, Emotions Part1

By Lady Byrd

You heard the saying one must play the hand theyve been dealt. If this is the case, then it is crucial to know what card game you are playing in order to play the game. When playing the game of Spades you will certainly want to count your Aces as books, and you want to count correctly to make sure you do not renege or get set during the game. This also applies in life with your ACE. You want every aspect of your ACE to count when dealing with circumstances in your daily life. You must use the ACE that you have in the deck as a means to a win. However, this ACE is more than just a card, it is your ATTITUDES, COMMENTS, AND YOUR EMOTIONS. Journey into the world of controlling your ACE as it illustrates how your ACE makes all the difference in life. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind and attitude (Rom 12:2). Your blessings is greatly influenced by what you think. Your ATTITUDE commands the attention of your audience, your COMMENTS sends out the commands of your day and your EMOTIONS orchestrates the peace. In this book you will learn how to control your ACE so that you can get the best out of life and live in Gods best for you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Jan 13, 2015
• ISBN: 9781491857250

Lady Byrd

Bridget S. Byrd brings her considerable gifts and talents to the writing of this book. Her dynamic personality is reflected in every page as she illustrates the difficulty with maintaining a healthy emotional and spiritual attitude. The observations made are as a result of her 21 years of military service in an addition to her many years in ministry. A native of Fort Pierce, FL, she reminds us what is best found in small beach communities as it applies to life. Bridget holds degrees in Management and Business Administration. She is currently working through the Marriage and Family degree program aiming to be board certified with her LMFT as a Christian counselor. She’s also certified and license from Franklin Covey, “ The 8 Habits of Successful Marriage”, she’s a Suicide Intervention Skill Trainer, (ASIST), an Army Strong Bond Instructor for Family & Marriage bonding. Lady Byrd’s main objective is to heighten the awareness of women and men Attitudes, Comments, and Emotions. She believes that ACE should be a daily conversation. Our attitudes and emotions should be express with dignity, and not repress, and comments with due process. The comments that we make must edify, sooth, soothe, and always show we are the example setters to those we are trying to reach, and if they won’t receive it shake the dust off your feet! (v Matt 10:14) In your daily prayer ask God to help you maintain a positive ACE!

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CONTROLLING YOUR ACE

Attitude, Comments, Emotions

Part1

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

My ACE Begins

ACE – Part 1

ACE Pollution

ACE In Church

ACE Examination

Rebelling against Appointed Authority

Rebelling against Appointed Authority (pt2)

You Are Uniquely Made

Emo

ACE Personalities ID

Controlling Your ACE–Part 2

Ace with Social Media

Let’s talk

Controlling Your ACE – Part 3

Don’t relinquish your power

Seed, Time, and Harvest

Control Your ACE – Part 4

Guard your circle, Check your ACE, and Watch where you eat

Government System Mentality

Controlling Your ACE – Part 5

The Wife/Coworker

ACE Practical Exercise

ACE STYLES

ACE Giving

Confidence in God

The Influencer

Survivor

The suffering, Why Me?

ACE Transform

ACE Is Born

Covenant Prayers

Ace Deliverance Prayer

Attitude Worksheet

Acronyms/Definitions

Acknowledgments

My ACE Begins

Self-control implies command of temper, command of Attitudes, Comments, and Emotions. Command of feelings, coolness of judgment, and the power to restrain the imagination and curb the will. Your attitude commands the attention of your audiences your comments commands your day, and your emotions orchestrate your peace. (ACE). ~ LB

According to statistics in magazines, relationship books, medical journals, and articles on any given day women can be highly emotional about matters of the heart. We can even gain control over others in a variety of ways that will leave them puzzled if they are not mindful according to some relationship therapies.

Women have a natural emotional bond with one another that causes them to communicate. Men do not mind women expressing their emotions because our emotions are part of who we are and keeps us balance when it’s in control. The problem comes when we are out of control of our emotions. Furthermore, a man can appreciate a woman who is emotionally mature just as a woman can appreciate a man who is emotionally mature in his feelings.

Men and Women control their ACE very differently.

Women can talk with one another for hours on the phone; and, nine times out of ten, they are replaying or simply rehearsing their emotional disappointments or excitements that have transpired during the course of their day.

My grandmother used to say, If you are talking more than five minutes, and talking about someone else’s business, you run the risk of gossiping or telling lies. So ladies be mindful of your emotional conversations. It is a fact that women need emotional security which consists of love, acceptance, and respect. Just as men need validation, and affirmation. Women also need to be desired and to know she is a priority in the life of the one she loves. Yes, we were created to bond with one another and also be in a relationship. The Bible says: It is not good for man to be alone. That applies to women as well.

We often get ourselves in trouble with our words and the lack of control of our comments and emotions, and this can ruin relationships and push people away from us.

Our thoughts can sometimes be selfish thoughts when our ACE is in a negative place. Our ACE sometimes carries such venom that it’s no wonder so many of our young sisters have no positive role models to actually pattern themselves after. How will they know how to handle difficult times in their lives if the older sisters do not display a mature healthy positive ACE?

Most young ladies and young men are mimicking malicious behavior from watching the extreme drama that is displayed on these reality shows. This is one way they began to develop a false sense of security through television watching and social media. Many sisters are searching for love in all the wrong places, and from all the wrong people. When they do find love, they are unable to control their ACE. They cannot hold on to a healthy love relationship.

Many times women reacts to situations instead of acting because their emotions are running very high. There are some men who lives in a world of virtual reality, unwilling to face their emotions an unaware of how this allows room for Satan to have a field day in their mind. Men have a tendency to carry their emotions as a badge of honor or a defense. This means they are good at shutting people out when they don’t want to confront some of the ACE that they encounter in their life or from many of our sisters of all ethnicities. Some men will use their lack of emotions as a form of control over those they are in relationship with when they are feeling out of control. This is known as the Shut down.

Ask yourself: Where does these negative ACE come from? Why can’t a beautiful woman of God who has position and prepared herself to be in a relationship can’t draw her Boaz to her? I’m a traditional woman who believes when a man finds a wife… not when a woman runs a man down, hook and crook him to be with her, and then she finds her Boaz. Godly women are not desperate women. What God has for you it’s for you. Therefore, it doesn’t matter how young or old you are when it’s your time to find love your Boaz will spot you from across the room filled with Victoria Secret models prancing around him, if it’s YOUR Boaz. Single sisters who do not have a relationship with God, but wants to be in a relationship ask this question often.

Even women of God ask this pressing question many times who have found themselves in and out of relationships for one reason or the other. Some sisters have been waiting most of their adult lives for their Boaz.

I have met many sisters, young and old, on my journey who are trying to discover what it means to control her ACE in order to be able to handle a man of God when she’s been independent all her life.

Sisters from all walks of life in or out of church have demonstrated a need for this subject to be addressed. It doesn’t matter their age or the color of their skin, or what denomination with which they are affiliated.

The same pressing question still haunts to the very core of intelligent attractive women.

What’s wrong with me? They ask. Why aren’t I good enough? Is it possible that I’m not smarter, slimmer, taller, darker, lighter, shorter, richer, prettier, etc.? The bigger question remains to be answered yet, women still continue to ask it: Why am I alone? Why doesn’t he want me?

Survey says: Maybe it’s because of YOUR attitude that you display on a daily basis, or, perhaps you are running after someone that God is trying to keep you away from for your own protection. Could it be, He realizes you are cruising for a bruising, headed for self-destruction?

There are times when we find ourselves on an emotional roller coaster, and we are unable to explain why. We go through a series of emotions such as: feeling mad, sad, glad, bad, and alone. Sometimes we are just completely silent.

Surveys have listed us as frustrated, discontent, and quickly moved by our feelings. Why is this?

I submit to you that these types of emotions are being brought on because many of us feels as though we are not being affirmed by the first man in our life — which is our father. Our fathers’ here on earth are the men who are supposed to provide us with the proper ideal of what a man should be to us and for us. He is supposed to be that model of masculinity in a daughters’ formative years of her life.

When fathers are callous with their ACE, this seed is implanted into their child and it tampers with their ACE psychic.

However, for young girls who are fortunate to have a father who seeks God’s face for wisdom, knowledge, understanding, and discernment on how to be an earthly father to his daughter, knows how to provide guidance, wisdom, security and unconditional love that promotes a healthy ACE.

Those fathers cause their daughters to be blessed beyond measure.

If our young girls, who eventually will become young women, do not receive these traits early in life, studies shows that it will bring about negative Attitudes, Comments, and Emotions. Furthermore, she will find it difficult to be committed, and forthcoming in any relationship with a man or men in her life.

This infuriates their ACE. As women, we need to be secure with the one person to whom we freely give our heart. While Christ freely gave his love to us, we should pattern the same attitude and emotions towards our significant other and fellow brothers and sisters.

James, a disciple of Jesus, dealt with conceit, selfishness, vengefulness, and fury before his transformation. These are a few of the negative ACE that young women will pick up immediately during adolescence if they do not receive the proper guidance or mentoring. James reminds us that we are Ambassadors of the Most High God, and should carry ourselves as royalty, both men and women. We should be mindful of our Attitudes, Comments, and Emotions towards one another in order to bring no sorrow to each other’s lives. In order to enrich one another we must approach this conversation concerning our ACE with the mindset of planting positive seeds to obtain a positive harvest in our relationship, families, communities, church, schools, hospitals, NFL, NBA, and government.

Love does no harm to a neighbor… Therefore, love is the fulfillment of the law. (Romans 13:10)

ACE – Part 1

PART I of ACE will discuss many of the ACEs traits that women experience on a daily bases. The men in our lives will probably identify with many of these ACE personality traits, and find it quite refreshing that what they have witness in our