How to Actually Like Yourself
 
PODCAST #412
 
 














To learn how to actually like yourself, you have to first figure out who you are and spend time with yourself. This podcast episode peers into how to go deep in self-identity and how to trust who God created you to be. When you know that the Maker made you the way you are and that what He makes is good, then you can trust that He wants you to actually like yourself. The best part is that when you like yourself, you are more effective at everything you do in the world - from achievements to relationships, to just living life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/412







In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about:







Some of the reasons why we don't like ourselves (and what that is doing to us)3 ways to start liking yourself - all of which you can do right nowWhat happens when you actually like yourself 



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The confidence podcast was recommended to me from a friend and since my first listen, I've been all in! Living most of my life convinced I was a victim had me suffocating because of self-criticism, isolation, anxiety and depression. My own mind had been my most limiting factor - I just didn't know how to do anything about it. I wanted to believe I knew God didn't want these thoughts and feelings to rule my life but I had no idea how deeply rooted a lot of my limiting beliefs were. I never would have believed that listening to one podcast episode could impact my life so greatly. I'm now part of the COC and doing coaching sessions with Trish. I can honestly say I have never thought about the power of my own thinking as intentionally as I am now. I've never experienced true peace in God's love until this year. Trish, you are one incredible human and God knows I'm so grateful for you and the work you do. Keep on encouraging and being you! God bless. 










 
WHY WE DON'T LIKE OURSELVES
 


-We're stuck in toxic comparison



-We think we'll like ourselves when…. (Conditional liking)



-We are so stuck on "there" that we don’t live in our "here"



-We don’t know ourselves - we are too busy to have a relationship 



-We still believe toxic words from other people about who we are



-We put our identity in what we do, not who we are


 
Not actually liking yourself is a handicap in life.
 


It prevents you from showing up as your real self, as fully alive and as capable to play the role in the world that you were created to play. It positions you with a victim mindset - whoa is me, everything is hard, if only I were different - and it makes us passive to being able to embrace and control what we can. It poisons our mental wellbeing, driving us into more anxiety-driven behaviors, fear, hiding and self-sabotage. 


 
HOW TO START LIKING YOURSELF
 


#1: GET TO KNOW YOURSELF  BY ASKING GOOD QUESTIONS        



-Question what you have taken for granted and assumed



-Question those around you



-Question yourself, take personality tests



-Question what God has you on Earth for



-Question who you are supposed to help



-Question why you reject yourself 



#2 SPEND TIME WITH YOURSELF