Reaching the Endgame: An Internet Dating Guide for Men

By R W Docherty

This book is a dating guide for men. It is loosely based on my own conversations and dating experiences with women. It contains my own thoughts on the proper approach to dating.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Jan 30, 2014
• ISBN: 9781491892916

R W Docherty

My name is R W Docherty. I’m originally from Glasgow but have lived in Northumberland, England, for over fifteen years. I come from a fairly large, close-knit, and supportive family. I have three kids whom I adore and love nothing more than to spend my spare time with them. I like to think of myself as an ordinary, uncomplicated family man who enjoys his hobbies, which are writing, reading, and painting.

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CONTENTS

Preface

Introduction

Welcome To The Pleasure Dome

The Comfort Zone

Preparation

The Happy Spark

Love And The Chocolate Analogy

Trust

The Alpha Male

An Analysis Of Males

The 10

Attraction

The Tests

Approaching A Woman With Confidence

Dating Sites

The Male Profile

The Female Profile

Making First Contact

How To Talk To Women

Sexual Attraction

The First Date

Turning Things Around

Conclusion

PREFACE

In April 2006, my wife of sixteen years finally summoned up the courage to leave me and our three children and take up with a lad she knew from school. I had met her in London all that time ago, and although I liked her a lot as a person, and eventually as a mother, I was never truly in love with her. Living this lie for sixteen years was extremely difficult and was eventually to be the catalyst for our inevitable divorce. When I first met her, I was lonely, but being unloved was no reason to take on the responsibility of marriage, especially to someone I merely liked spending time with.

Being the loyal person I am, I tried to stick it out for the sake of the children. But this was a regretful mistake. The situation I put her, the children, and myself in was no substitute for a truly loving familial relationship. My three children, whom I adore, thankfully came through the experience without too much ill effect. My biggest assets during this extremely difficult period in my life were my small circle of friends and my family. Following the divorce, I found myself with a real dilemma. The experience of divorce had an unexpected effect on me. I lost weight and began to feel strangely alone and abandoned. I thought to myself, How do I move on from here with three children and start all over again? I had never given dating a thought, let alone how to go about it. I was now half a century old and totally out of touch with the real world. All I had known for the past sixteen years were parks, swimming baths, fun-fairs, zoos, schools, and kiddy events. My friends were all married or had left the area. What was I to do? I took a year out to enjoy myself and then embarked on getting educated. I read everything on the Internet, in books, and in magazines. Most of these were a waste of my time and money. I even started watching chick flicks to try and better understand what was required to get a date. Through stubborn investigation, I eventually developed a mental picture of what I needed to do. But little did I know that, in a dating sense, it would take me another two years to eventually get it, to fully understand what was required to attract a woman.

If this sounds familiar to you and you need some sound dating advice, then read this book.

Although I experienced a large degree of success on dating sites, they also, through trial and error, provided what ultimately proved to be a major source of information for this book. I personally preferred dating sites; not because I wasn’t confident enough to chat up a woman in a nightclub or a bar, or anywhere else, but because dating sites gave me the chance to meet up with some lovely (although at times disappointed) women. They seemed disappointed because of single men in general. With these women, I was able to enjoy some brilliant and very revealing conversations. Ultimately, those face-to-face conversations, which shall remain private, eventually inspired me to write this little book.

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I would like to dedicate this book to those special ladies and to my three children: Liam, Lauren, and Patrick, whom I am extremely proud of. I owe them so very much. They will always be the loves of my life.

INTRODUCTION

There are very few books on Internet dating that actually get to the root cause of the issues faced by men. The reason I know this is because the problem still exists and hasn’t been resolved by anyone yet. There’s an abundance of authors, lonely heart columnists, and dating gurus who attempt to give men advice, but in my opinion, they fail miserably. This is because no one has clearly identified exactly where many men are going wrong, particularly with male-to-female communication.

Male relationship advisors tend to look at dating entirely from the perspective of the alpha male, so they invariably discuss face-to-face encounters with women. The problem is the vast majority have to get there first. Dating sites give some decent advice, but in the wrong context. Anyway, do dating sites really want to lose you as a customer?

I decided to write this book for the sake of all you single men out there who wish to understand the modern dating scene. I will explain why your approach to Internet dating isn’t working and help you to better understand how to be successful. It isn’t that the right women aren’t out there; it’s just that for most men, the doors leading to them seem to be locked. I can help you to unlock those doors, which will lead you to those women, and more.

Who am I to think I can open up doors and