That Foster Thing: Guiding Young Women Through the Game of Love
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Does dating intimidate you? Has the difficulty getting over your last relationship caused your confidence to slip away? Are you beginning to think youre destined to be unlucky in love?
In her book That Foster Thing: Guiding Young Women through the Game of Love, author Jerri Foster Schmidt shows readers how to be the right one in order to attract the right one. Christians should look different than those without Christ. For that reason, they shouldnt go about the game of love the same way that Hollywood does it, the way the world in general does it, or even how their friends do it. You dont want to stay with Mr. Wrong and miss Mr. Right, do you?
That Foster Thing is an encouraging and timely book written to young girls and women from the heart of a mother, grandmother, and woman of God. Author Jerri Foster Schmidt gives the biblical foundation for navigating through the world of romantic relationships By walking securely in the knowledge of God through His holy Word, women can be confident that He will lead, guide, protect, and present them to their future spouse in His will and in His perfect timing Her words challenge, inspire, and point to the One who set the standard for love. Laurey Nelson, First Love Sexual Integrity Ministry founder; Orlando, Florida.
Jerri Foster Schmidt
Jerri Foster Schmidt is the author of That Foster Thing Study Guide. It is her second book in this series. The first one is a how-to on preserving self-esteem, avoiding the wrong guys for you, and the neediness no-no. All of this as pertains to dating. Now in her Study Guide of the same name she expands on the concepts and helps the reader dive deeper into where or to whom God may be leading her. Jerri has observed a lot of dating drama and roller coaster relationships. She felt inspired by God to try and help her growing granddaughters avoid both. Her work started out as a teenage toolbox for them. It grew into a crash course in dating discernment. Jerri has four married children and thirteen grandchildren. She lives with her husband Tracy in Katy, Texas.
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That Foster Thing - Jerri Foster Schmidt
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WestBow Press rev. date: 12/07/2015
Contents
Dedication
Preface
Introduction
1 So This Is Love?
2 It Starts Young
3 The Purity Covenant
4 First Dating Relationship
5 You’ve Got a Friend
6 Due Diligence
7 Discovering Who You Really Are
8 I Think I’m Fallin’ for Ya
9 That Foster Thing
10 To Forgive is Divine
11 Misery Loves … Well, Nothing
12 Mutual Respect
13 The X Factor
Endnotes
Dedication
This book is lovingly dedicated to my dad, Hal Foster, who is the original Foster in my life, and my mom June Ash Foster who died way too young. Miss you, Mama, every day, since you left us on June 21, 1981.
To my lovely daughter, Kacey: without her none of the book’s contents would’ve taken place. Without her now I would’ve never figured out my computer enough to write this and hit send.
To my five granddaughters: Mady, Maya, Charly, June, Georgia, and those yet to be born. Jiji loves all her girls.
Last but not least, to my wonderful husband, Tracy Schmidt, who is the love of my life. And who also made it thru the long road of That Foster Thing over the last two years and also forty years ago. Wink Wink
Preface
When my daughter Kacey arrived in middle school, I noticed very quickly that things looked a lot different than before. By before, I mean the time when her three older brothers were that age. First of all, it could be said that eleven to twelve-year-old girls are more mature than boys the same age. Whatever. All I know is it’s probably the same in every school. The girls seem to go from dolls to makeup with almost no years in between. That’s a sad commentary, but let’s save that discussion for another book.
The point is girls seem really anxious to grow up and so they just do. I guess I’m saying they rush it. They want to do girl-boy stuff at that age and neither gender is really ready for that world. Many parents go along with it because they think it’s inevitable. It may be inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be imminent. Again, subject matter for another day; it is what it is.
All I knew was my daughter wasn’t ready for all that. Nor was I inclined to accept others’ timetables for my child. So I confess I had a rude awakening. Reinforcing to Kacey how to find like-minded friends quickly followed my deer in the headlights moment.
I had my work cut out for me. The next three to four years were going to be a long road. I had to prepare my child and also handle the teenage culture that we landed in albeit prematurely. When I say we landed in it, it was with a thud. This thud was similar in magnitude to Dorothy’s flying house landing in Munchkin Land. Anyway, I knew there must be a way to slow things down in this teenage world that was creeping in on every side. This is where prayer, much prayer, comes in. God says in Ecclesiastes 3:1, There is a time for everything.
I knew He could help us in our journey and, in fact, He has made everything beautiful in its time
(Ecclesiastes 3:11a). I trusted God that He would do this beautiful thing in Kacey’s life.
The next part is what I describe in That Foster Thing. I read from Christian experts in the field and then taught her what came naturally for me. I say it was natural because it evolved naturally from what my parents had modeled to me from everyday life. I was hoping to help Kacey steer clear of what appeared to be a ton of pre-teen manufactured drama. This drama left a lot of boys looking like that emoticon with eyes as big as donuts. They truly didn’t know what hit them.
Unfortunately, a few years down the road the boys catch up to the girls. I say unfortunately because manipulating pre-teen girls leave a tiny wake compared to the tsunami that mean teen-age boys inflict.
Anyway, I set out to teach Kacey what I believed were timeless principles navigating through romantic relationships. There was not a lot of material out there in Christian bookstores on this exact topic. That’s when I knew I wanted to write the book. If only one girl that reads it is spared the pain and heartbreak of lost love, my work has been worth it. If my granddaughters who I dedicate this project to are spared this suffering it’s definitely worth it. This is written with love for all of you. Here goes.
Introduction
Have you noticed the epidemic of dysfunctional romantic relationships these days? What’s going on? Are people really so unmindful about how to treat those they care about? Maybe they’re not in the dark but just selfish. Or maybe they’re incapable of truly respecting anyone, even the one they say they love. I’ve heard