Understanding Loss to Relieve the Anguish
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Your author supports and writes about how profoundly effective the power of belief and feelings are in any state of mind and how one can save a lot of lifes precious time mourning in misery with the gloom-and-doom of loss by exchanging that energy for creative energy, which bypasses the gloom-and-doom state of mind and creates reason to use loss as a possible catalyst for offsetting the misery of loss and becoming more inspired to feel better.
The book is about turning sorrowful feelings into creative accomplishments as the ongoing order of the day for a more meaningfully rewarding life.
Lloyd E. McIlveen
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Understanding Loss to Relieve the Anguish - Lloyd E. McIlveen
Copyright 2013 Lloyd E. McIlveen.
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the written prior permission of the author.
ISBN: 978-1-4669-9943-5 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4669-9942-8 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2013913719
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Contents
Chapter 1 Suffering a loss or not? That is the question
Chapter 2 How did the loss begin?
Chapter 3 Is it a new experience or old hat?
Chapter 4 One loss can
lead to another
Chapter 5 A glutton for punishment or just an education?
Chapter 6 Dealing with what seems
the worst in loss
Chapter 7 Dealing with achievements in loss
Chapter 8 On the way to rising above adverse reaction to loss
Chapter 9 Loss can trigger innovation for creative progress and goals
Chapter 10 Loss as increments of development
Chapter 11 Can a loss really become a gain?
Chapter 12 Loss in perspective
The losses I have experienced in my life have far exceeded the gains, but the knowledge I have received from each of those losses could never be taught by the gains per se with all their value.
The educational system is biased for creating gains of which are needed, popular, expensive and in demand. That’s the desired view.
There are always plenty of losses of which can’t be bought. They are not in demand and the educational value of them has no price. If losses per se have no value, they may not be worth sacrificing one’s serenity and dignity during and after a loss. Let’s look into it to cut loss feelings down.
L.E.M.
Preface
G aining more of what the experiences of loss amounts to for reducing the unpleasant effects of them is what this book is about even though everyone knows the word loss means something or someone taken away.
The useful value of the term loss is not so much of what is missing, but of what can be gained because of it. What is done is in the past. What can be gained is for the future if and when we can believe we have a future.
When a person hurts from a loss, the strong and normal tendency is either to recover the loss or just get relief from the emotional pain to function in a contented manner once more. That desire for contentment can be a misleading desire without rational perspective of whether the desired feeling will be lasting or not.
An individual can be naturally or educationally intelligent concerning thoughts and ideas, but when a loss suddenly occurs, the emotions aren’t usually, naturally and educationally prepared to calmly accept the incident and functions in emotional disarray. This is referred to here as the pain of feelings.
The contents of the following chapters sort out the details of what a person is made up of for contributing toward one’s loss or losses, how one reacts with sudden surprises of loss and possibilities of dealing with the misery of loss or offsetting the effects and pain for creative purposes as a result of the loss or losses.
All of the exposure to the nature of human psychology expressed in these texts are intended for purposes of assisting
in the search for gaining knowledge of how to feel better and possibly resolve or make up
for losses incurred through being assertively creative. If cure
of emotional symptoms are acquired, the credit is due to the reader for applying acquired efforts in pursuing that cure. Your author accepts no responsibility of intentions to cure any emotional effects or symptoms. Professional guidance is always recommended where symptoms persist, where confusion exists or where specific questions need to be probed into concerning the emotional effects.
If the reader is serious about reaping the benefits of resolving the effects of loss, taking notes while passing through the chapters and reviewing them will help enhance the resolutions studied.
General speaking, these chapters on understanding loss are author designed for the purpose of helping to reduce emotional pressure associated with shock and grief of losing a job, a title, a career, losing in a marriage, losing certain heritage and rights along with other opportunities, material possessions and even freedom in so many ways, but most of the loss descriptions are focused on losing close relationships through death, anger, court awards, theft and other legal, ricocheting or unduly encounters of which so many times devastates unsuspecting victims or at least irritates, annoys or depresses them.
UNDERSTANDING LOSS TO RELIEVE
THE ANGUISH
Chapter 1
Suffering a loss or not?
That is the question
H onesty is always the best policy, like they say, especially when it is dealing with the self. Truth, deception and lies to another person only exist in the quickly fading interim of the self and the other person through the words spoken. Truth, deception and lies, silently or aloud, spoken to the self are a part of the self and will remain part of the self whether they are directed to another person or to the self and will remain within. Those words will become a part of what the self represents and adds toward the formation of the self’s character. Deception and lies may not be so helpful when one is dependent on displaying good character to others.
The tendency of displaying feelings of deception to the self can be irresistible. What is the deception? The loss may not amount to something taken away. It may only be a neurotic and selfish feeling of not being more complete in life with a person, health, career or other projects etc. Loss can be something missing inside the self.
Complete honesty to and with the self is needed and required when the self is suffering a loss. When a person is treating others in a selfish and underhanded manner, chances are that person will also suffer complicated and mixed feelings of existence and judgments with that self. The results are favorable the disservice to others will return to the self. That means the adversely developed character and personality of this individual may also suffer unnecessary feelings of guilt which, in turn, can manifest in more emotional suffering such as anxiety of insufficiency, anxiety of nonacceptance and anxiety where everything not gained is worse of a loss than being normally honest and