Coping With Grief And Loss: Coping With Grief, #1
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Loss is painful. Separation hurts. Grief hits us hard.
Oblivious to our suffering, the world around us carries on as if nothing happened. Stunned, shocked, confused, sad, and angry, we look around us in disbelief.
The pain can be overpowering. We look for comfort. We want to know what's happening to us and if the pain will ever end.
Counselor and grief specialist Addison Cooper has been a trusted voice to many hurting, grieving hearts for more than 20 years. Written with heartfelt compassion, this easy-to-read, warm, and practical book was written for those looking for hope and encouragement in times of loss.
Whether you've lost a spouse, child, parent, sibling, relative, or friend, Addison's desire is to meet you in your grief and help you through it. Coping With Grief is designed to be read one self-contained chapter at a time.
This book includes:
- Knowing what to expect when you are grieving
- Understanding the physical and psychological reactions to grief
- Why grieving is individual and why we all grieve in our way, in our own time
- Practical coping strategies to help you deal with your loss
- How to live with grief
- How to support those who are grieving
Grief can have a powerful effect on your life.
It can be agonizing, gut-wrenching, soul destroying and exhausting.
But it won't always be this way.
You won't always feel this way.
This little book is a simple companion to provide just what you need when you're feeling overwhelmed from the effects of grief.
It is a basic introduction to grieving.
It is my way, as a grief counselor, of offering my help to you through these difficult days.
In Coping With Grief, you will find peace and comfort in...
- Processing complicated grief emotions (sadness, fear, guilt, anger, confusion, anxiety, depression, feeling emotionally overwhelmed).
- Navigating feeling alone, misunderstood, isolated, and even rejected by those around you.
- Coping with the increased stress, anxiety, fear and uncertainty that a loss can bring.
- Handlingthe physical and mental health issues, illnesses, and new symptoms that often arise.
- Taking care of yourself through diet, hydration, fitness, and rest.
- Overcoming the tendency to hide from emotional pain with unhealthy habits or compulsive behaviors.
- Developing a simple, realistic plan for birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays.
- Tackling life, one day, one moment at a time.
Please don't grieve alone. Let Coping With Grief help you on this arduous journey.
Be kind to yourself. Read on. Comfort awaits you in the pages of this book.
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Coping With Grief And Loss - Addison Cooper
Coping With Grief
A handbook of proven techniques to help you overcome grief and start living again
Addison Cooper
Copyright © 2023 by Addison Cooper
All rights reserved.
No portion of this book may be reproduced in any form without written permission from the publisher or author, except as permitted by U.K. copyright law.
Using This Book
Thank you for purchasing
Coping With Grief: A handbook of proven techniques to help you overcome grief and start living again.
This book was written for those who are grieving and for those who wish to help someone who is grieving. The book can be read from cover to cover or by just reading certain chapters of interest.
The book will give you effective and proven strategies to help you to come to terms with loss and to be able to start to rebuild your life so that you can, once again, engage in enjoyable and satisfying relationships and activities.
Please don’t read it just once. Pick it up again from time to time and you will find that it helps you as your own perspective on grief changes over time.
There are more grief resources on my website Coping With Grief: https://www.copingwithgrief.net
There is a free 8 week Grief Help Course and there is also a free downloadable book about things that grievers should be particularly aware of.
I can be contacted through the website and you can subscribe for free to the grief newsletter which has articles and pre-release book extracts that are only available to subscribers. The newsletter is free of charge and is circulated every few weeks.
DEDICATION
For Celeste, Daniel and Milo.
Always with me, never parted.
Contents
Introduction
1. WHAT IS GRIEF?
2. WHAT IS ‘COPING’?
3. THE COMMON TRAITS OF GRIEF
4. THE WAVELIKE PATTERN OF GRIEF
5. PHYSICAL REACTIONS TO GRIEF
6. EMOTIONAL REACTIONS TO GRIEF
7. GRIEF IS STRESSFUL
8. UNUSUAL EXPERIENCES
9. GENDER DIFFERENCES IN GRIEF
10. RELATIONSHIPS
11. SEX AND GRIEF
12. ALCOHOL AND OTHER DRUG USE
13. WHY SLEEP IS IMPORTANT IN GRIEF
14. GOOD SLEEP HYGIENE
15. COPING STRATEGIES
16. ACCOMMODATING LOSS
17. WHAT HAPPENS IF THERE IS NO IMPROVEMENT?
18. TESTING FOR MAJOR DEPRESSION EPISODE
19. HELPING SOMEONE ELSE WHO IS GRIEVING
20. GRIEF AND THE INTERNET
21. CONCLUSION
Grief Resources
Introduction
Losing someone you love is by far one of the most difficult and distressing experiences that you will ever encounter.
Death is not something that we talk about often, because it is not something that we experience often in these modern times, unlike our ancestors, whose life expectancy was much lower and to whom death was a more common occurrence.
Thanks to advances in modern medicine, losses are less frequent than in the past and usually occur later in our lives. Consequently, we don’t have the same ‘life experience’ that our ancestors were able to rely on and so we feel unsure as to how to react when we are bereaved.
Sadly, though, we will all have to cope somehow when we are, one day, confronted with a loss.
Whether the loss is that of a parent, a sibling, a spouse, a friend or colleague, a pet, or the searing and unfathomable loss of a child, the process of grieving will provoke similar emotional, physical, behavioral, social and spiritual responses to varying degrees.
Despite the similar effects that grief has on us, no one person will experience the pain of loss in exactly the same way or to the same intensity. There is also a worrying lack of professional support services to help those who are grieving through this most difficult of times, so that they can process their grief, come to terms with their loss and rebuild their lives.
There are always platitudes and clichés that really don’t help and can be a source of more pain and suffering. By trying to be kind, people often achieve the very opposite of what they intended. If you do find some support from family and friends, you often find that people are trying to fix you. The problem is, though, you don't need to be fixed. What you really need is a greater understanding of grief, what is happening to you, how grief runs its course, and what you can do to move forward.
This practical handbook has been written with the aim of making the process of grieving a little easier for those who are suffering the loss of a loved one or for those who would like to support someone they care about to pass through the pain of grief a little more quickly.
In this guide to coping with grief, we will look at the impact that grief has on the emotional, physical, behavioral, social and spiritual state of the bereaved individual and how these responses tend to manifest themselves.
Finally, this book will provide effective and proven strategies to help you to come to terms with your loss and to start to rebuild your life so that you can, once again, engage in pleasurable and satisfying relationships and activities.
Chapter one
WHAT IS GRIEF?
UNDERSTANDING GRIEF AND BEREAVEMENT
Grief is a natural and involuntary reaction to loss of any kind. It is often defined as ‘intense sorrow’, but it encompasses a whole multitude of emotions of widely varying intensities. There can be hurt, anger, bitterness, rage, fury, loneliness, regret, relief. Which emotions will show up, and the degree to which they will affect us, depends on the nature of the loss or upon ‘who’ is gone.
Grieving takes its time too. It is usually a long, elaborate, and intense process which hits us hard at first, then ebbs and flows, gets bogged down at times, meets dead-ends, and begins all over again, before finally reaching a resolution of sorts. It usually ends in accommodating and learning to live with the loss.
Grief is, in reality, a raw, animal activity. It can make us feel unhinged at times. We try to put a civilized veneer over it, but it will have its way with us, one way or another. Holding back grief is like damming up a stream, it causes it to become a river and when