Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandThat the way we deal with grief in our culture is brokenHow grief is a no-win situation for everyoneThe fact that we don’t like to talk about griefHow we carry losses with usThe myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrongThat some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carriedHow cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your realityOur limited tools for going through difficultyVictim blamingHow we can’t be 100% safeThat we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to thingsIf we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail usSadness isn’t a problem eitherHow you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and ValidatedThe power of listening and curiosityThinking of pain as an experience to be tendedThe things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escapeMaking these difficult things gentler on usDecreasing suffering inside of griefWellness vs. worsenessPaying attention to the cause and effect of thingsThe hierarchy of griefTreating compassion as the abundant resource that it isHopeMeeting people where they areAsking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from themThe importance of showing yourself kindnessMegan Devine LinksHomepageAnimation on GriefInstagramTwitter