Complicated Grief:: How to Understand, Express, and Reconcile Your Especially Difficult Grief
By Alan Wolfelt
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Complicated Grief: - Alan Wolfelt
WELCOME
You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.
— Anne Lamott
Coping with a major loss in your life is always difficult, but sometimes it’s extra difficult. Have you been experiencing this? If you’re having an especially hard time integrating a death or other significant loss into your life, my hope is that this little book will be of help to you.
My goal is to help you understand your extra-challenging grief and eventually reconcile it into your life. Rest assured that even if your grief feels extraordinarily painful or complicated, and even if others have a hard time understanding its intensity, it is normal. You are normal. Yet at the same time, you are also deserving of extra-compassionate understanding and support. In fact, the more overwhelming your grief, the more understanding and support you deserve and will need.
Know that no matter how hurtful, extreme, or challenging your grief may feel right now, you can work your way through it. No, it will not be easy. And no, you will never get over
the loss. But with time and ongoing, intentional effort—plus, and this is also key in complicated grief, the help of others—you can heal your grieving heart. As Anne Lamott said on the previous page, you can learn to dance with the limp.
If you’re a mental-health professional, I invite you also to read my book for caregivers on this topic: When Grief Is Complicated: A Model for Therapists to Understand, Identify, and Companion Grievers Lost in the Wilderness of Complicated Grief. It contains much more extensive discussions of the origins of complicated grief as well as the symptoms and categories. In addition, it orients caregivers to the companioning model of complicated grief care and offers numerous suggestions for facilitating active mourning.
I’ve been a grief counselor, author, and educator for more than four decades now, and throughout those years I have been privileged to bear witness to and support the journey through unfathomable loss and complicated grief many times. These brave grieving people taught me the invaluable lessons I have the honor of sharing with you now. My hope is that you find this resource to be beneficial to you personally and in any efforts you make to help your fellow human beings.
GRIEF AND MOURNING
Grief is anything and everything we think and feel inside after a loss.
We naturally grieve when someone we love dies. But we also grieve when we divorce, experience a health challenge, or separate from a job we are attached to, among many other common life losses, large and small.
And since loss is a normal and unavoidable part of life, our natural human response to loss is also normal. Grief is natural and