The Grief of Infertility
By Alan Wolfelt
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The Grief of Infertility - Alan Wolfelt
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There is a unique pain that comes from preparing a place in your heart for a child that never comes.
— David Platt
As you know so deeply, infertility is not only an ongoing physical struggle. For many, it’s also a years-long emotional, social, and spiritual journey that can take you through countless highs and lows, hopes and disappointments, interspersed with long, painful valleys of uncertainty.
We as a culture aren’t very helpful when it comes to supporting people experiencing the grief of infertility. I’m sorry for that. In this book, I hope to help open a door that is too often closed, if only just a little. If you have struggled with infertility, you deserve better. You deserve your experiences to be heard. You deserve your thoughts and feelings to be affirmed. You deserve to be comforted and supported. And you deserve to hear more about the actions you yourself can take to integrate your normal and natural grief into your ongoing life.
Yes, integrating your grief is possible, whether you are still trying to have a baby, have had a baby but are still mourning pregnancy loss or infertility experiences, or are no longer pursuing pregnancy. I have been a grief counselor and educator for more than forty years, and I have companioned a number of families knocked down by infertility. They have taught me that not only can you survive what may at times seem unsurvivable, you can go on to create a life of meaning and joy. I have been privileged to learn from them, and in this book I will share their hard-won wisdom with you.
Thank you for entrusting me to companion you on your journey of heartbreak and hope.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
After years of buying baby gifts for others, one in eight people wonder if it will ever be their turn.
— Author unknown
Infertility is at once a common experience and the most intimate and singular of losses.
Today, one in eight women suffers infertility, which as you know is defined as a condition of the reproductive system that inhibits or prevents conception after at least a year of unprotected sex (six months if the woman is 35 or older). If you consider couples, the infertility rate climbs even higher, to one in six. And in women over 35, infertility affects one in three.
In short, infertility affects hundreds of millions of people the world over, and where there is infertility, there is infertility grief.
It’s also important for us to remember that infertility affects both women and men. About a third of infertility experiences are due to biological fertility problems in men, while another third are due to biological fertility problems in women. The remainder are caused by a combination of male and female issues as well as those with no clear cause, which can be particularly frustrating. Regardless of its origin, women grieve infertility, and men grieve infertility too.
In addition, many people struggle with primary infertility, meaning they have never had a child, while others find themselves stymied by secondary infertility, meaning they have had a child