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Like millions of other people she's had to move on from some of life's most unbelievably challenging obstacles including everything from the death of her spouse to losing all of her businesses, losing her wealth, being deceived, being disrespected, losing romantic relationships and losing her mind to name a few.
Growing up in Harlem, Bernice learned how to dream and to have the courage to pursue those dreams. This coupled up with loving herself, planning and being humble enough to seek help when she needed to, has enabled her to continuously MOVE ON with her life when faced with these obstacles. If the obstacle didn't kill her it made her stronger, and luckily she's still here to talk about it.
Bernice has had to MOVE ON over the past ten years more times than she can remember, out of necessity to find herself actualization and happiness or find where she belongs and with whom she would like to be. She's continuously MOVED ON by remaining positive, thinking planning and loving herself enough to know she deserves only the best that this life has to offer her.
Bernice believes anyone can move on with their life and make it through any and all obstacles by taking one obstacle at a time, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other until you reach your finish line on your journey in life .It is vitally important to MOVE ON. FORGIVE YOUR PAST AND MOVE ON TO YOUR FUTURE WHERE YOUR HAPPINESS AWAITS YOU.
Bernice S. Dyson
Bernice Dyson has been working with, and studied personalities and it's disorders for the past six years. Since 2005 Bernice has had close contact with numerous personality types, and has researched the numerous theories behind the actions of these personality types. Bernice herself has fallen victim to a personality disorder. She suffered from chronic depression while on her journey in life to find herself actualization and ultimate happiness. She believes by having your mind, body and spirit together, having dreams and the courage to pursue those dreams and loving yourself you can get through any obstacle in your life. She believes you need to move forward, by taking steps one day at a time. By doing this, you will enable yourself to achieve any and all things. Bernice wrote this book for everyone that is losing hope, or selling their souls for less than it's worth. She states even a million dollars wouldn't cover this bill. She wants everyone to love themselves and understand their worth. If you would like to reach out to Bernice, you can contact her at bernicedyson@yahoo.com
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Move On - Bernice S. Dyson
© 2011 by Bernice S. Dyson. All rights reserved.
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First published by AuthorHouse 09/07/2011
ISBN: 978-1-4670-3322-0 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4670-3323-7 (ebk)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2011916268
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Contents
Introduction
Acknowledgements
CHAPTER 1
Moving On
CHAPTER 2
Get your mind right
Chapter 3
Courage
Chapter 4
Love Yourself
Chapter 5
Be Humble
Chapter 6
Getting Past the Grief
Chapter 7
Your Self Actualization
Chapter 8
Catching Feelings
Chapter 9
Predators
Chapter 10
Make a Plan
Chapter 11
Re-invent yourself
Introduction
MOVE ON
HOW many times have you heard someone give this advice to someone else or even to you? These two words maybe two of the easiest words to say, but two of the most difficult words to do.
You’ve been through the fire that surely must feel like what we imagine hell to be like, way too many times than you care to remember. Now it’s time to find a little touch of heaven here on earth.
There’s no doubt it’s waiting for you if you make it happen. You’re going to have to move on and leave behind the nonsense, crap, abuse, bad relationships, bad jobs, liars, cheaters, and everything that’s negative in your life to make it happen. It’s not going to be easy because the reality is, life is like an obstacle course full of mental and physical challenges which are generally never easy, and this makes it a challenge. You’re going to have to think and make your way through each and every challenge as they come.
The challenges will become easier no matter what they are once you make your mind up you can get through them. Everything starts with the mind then your body will follow its lead. Before you know it you will be exactly where you want to be and with whom you want to be with in this life.
There are millions of people around the world who have a story like mine, of a little girl growing up in Harlem who just wants to be happy, and has dreams bigger than the city she lives in, but every time her dreams come to life there’s yet another obstacle that’s so overwhelming it either destroys her dreams or turns them into nightmares.
This little girl had to learn how to think, have courage and love herself enough to continuously move on in spite of the constant loss of loved ones, losing her two businesses, losing her house, all of her wealth, her mental health, bad and degrading relationships, poverty, and endless rollercoaster rides which would slowly take her to the top and quickly come down over and over again.
You too need to love yourself enough to know you deserve to be happy, live your life to the fullest, love and be loved. Starting today move on and make it happen.
Acknowledgements
• First and far most, I’d like to thank my lord and savior Jesus Christ. Without him nothing would be possible.
• Thank you to my lovely tweety bird. You’ve been there with me like no one else here on earth I will be forever grateful to you for loving me unconditionally. I love you more than life itself.
• To my friends that have been true friends and remained true friends, you will always be dear to me.
• To my family members that have had my back. I thank you and I love you
• To everyone that helped me in any small way with my first book. When I get the opportunity to thank you in some way, trust me I will, no matter how long it takes me. I love you and thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Sincerely, B.
CHAPTER 1
Moving On
I WAS TALKING WITH a friend about the problems she was having maintaining her house, she is a single mom working two jobs and couldn’t seem to get a handle on all the bills that come with owning a house.
This particular day she was especially upset. My friend had just found out if your grass grows to high you can be fined, she couldn’t afford to pay someone to cut her grass anymore therefore, she would have to start cutting it herself. I suggested she get someone to move in with her to help her with the expenses. My friend looked at me as her eyes started tearing up and told me she doesn’t have anyone and she would rather kill herself than lose her house.
I told my friend not to say this and not to worry, everything will be okay. I’m sure she thought I was just trying to console her by saying everything will be okay, but the truth is I had been through the very pain that she was so afraid to face and I knew for a fact it would be okay.
Throughout the past seven years not only did I lose my house but I lost my husband, my six figure salary, my businesses, my car, all my wealth and my mind. I’ve been in several self-destructive romantic relationships, lived in apartments that were dumps, and worked numerous close to minimum wage jobs. These years were like a slow painful death. I didn’t try to kill myself, I had to find the strength and courage to move on from some of the most devastating and challenging obstacles a person has to move on from.
It is not easy which is why it’s a challenge, but if you can think properly, dream, have courage, and love yourself you can move on from anything.
On my journey to reconstruct my life after so much destruction I realized I needed help to gain back all the qualities I had that allowed me to progress in the first place. I started seeing a therapist, she helped me to reconstruct my way of thinking which helped me to get my mind right. Your mind controls everything you do including self-destructive behavior.
In my case I was suffering from a mental illness called depression. My illness stripped me of my courage, ability to make good decisions, strength, self-love, and self-esteem. Once I was able to re-gain these most important qualities back they became instrumental factors in my recovery. I had to take all my negative thoughts and turn them into positive thoughts. Instead of thinking I can’t or I’m not, I had to think I can and I will, for instance, I had to start thinking I can do a particular thing because I am not afraid instead of thinking I can’t do something because I am afraid. I had to stop thinking I’m not going to be able to fulfill my dreams and start thinking I am going to be able to fulfill my dreams.
Everyone’s situation is different, but no matter what your situation is, obstacle or crisis is, you’re going to have to be capable of thinking positively, have courage, love yourself, be strong, have standards, and not be afraid to dream then you will be able to get through anything.
One of the first moves I’ve ever made that required a substantial amount of courage happened a little over ten years ago when my daughter was in pre-school. As I was picking up my daughter from school I noticed her little head was lying on the desk while the other children were on their mats taking a nap. I asked one of the staff members why wasn’t my daughter laying down? She told me her blanket wasn’t clean. I started yelling so loud that I woke up every child in the place. I told this staff member and everyone else that was listening I had just bought my daughters blanket the day before and I just heard the most stupid excuse I’ve ever heard in my life. I then said I had better take my daughter and go before someone gets hurt. My daughter and I left and never returned.
I was now faced with the obstacle of not having childcare so I started looking for other pre-schools but didn’t find any I approved of. My family was helping by watching my daughter as I was looking for a new pre-school, but they had jobs of their own so I did what I had to do and quit my job.