Facebooklet #5 Posts from 2015

By Bruce E. Brown

This booklet contains all the posts from year five on our Proactive Coaching Facebook page. They are divided into sections for Coaches... Competitors... Team Leaders... and Parents

• Language: English
• Publisher: Bruce E. Brown
• Release date: Feb 27, 2017
• ISBN: 9781370624553

Bruce E. Brown

35 years as a teacher, coach, athletic administrator at the junior high, high school, junior college and collegiate level Coached football, basketball, baseball, and volleyball Former National presenter for the NAIA’s Champions of Character Program Director of Proactive Coaching Clinician – Speaking nationally to athletes, coaches, parents, school districts and corporations

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Facebooklet #5

Posts from 2015

Bruce E. Brown

Proactive Coaching LLC

Copyright © 2017 Bruce Brown

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Proactive Coaching… What we do…

Creating character based team cultures…

Providing a blueprint for team leadership…

Developing confident, tough minded, fearless competitors…

Training coaches and leaders for excellence and significance

Proactive Coaching…Our Why: Because the character lessons intentionally taught will be the coach’s best legacy and one athlete of character improves your team - One team of character changes your school - One school of character impacts your community - A coach of significance can impact generations

It all begins and ends with strong families

All of the Proactive Coaching books, booklets and DVD’s can be found at www.proactivecoaching.info

Contents

Competitors

Coaches

Team Leaders

Parents

Competitors

This happens too often…Athletes and coaches work so hard all year round to reach their goals as a team - lifting, training, getting through all the ups and downs of a single season and then you have a teammate who chooses to put himself in a situation that impacts everything you have done. It won’t be just the bowl game - it will be a memory that will still sting for everyone involved 20 years from now. Be disciplined and care enough to never let your teammates down.

www.nbcdfw.com/news/sports/TCU-QB-Trevone-Boykin-Arrested-for-Striking-Officer—363905201.html?_osource=SocialFlowFB_DFWBrand

Rooting for this young man… respectful, polite, quiet confidence - someone young people can look up to Marcus Mariota

www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSU0WjjoIrg Coaches

When it comes to your athletes…Coaches beliefs become self-fulfilling prophesies.

"Gold medals aren’t really made of gold. They’re made of sweat, determination, and a hard-to-find alloy called guts."

Wrestler Dan Gable

Competitors…Are you accountable? Teams need all team members to be accountable for their actions. There is no greater compliment for a team member than for teammates to expect the best of them when no one is watching them. It means they are reliable and accountable. Imagine what kind of heights could be attained if a team was filled with those kinds of teammates. From First Steps to Successful Teams booklet and presentation

Great teams commit with their actions to being completely purposeful in preparation, completely fearless in competition and attack both with the same intensity.

Compete - everyday!!

Effective competitors are intelligent risk-takers. They use everything they have learned in preparation to make smart decisions and then they play without fear. You are going to have many opportunities to take risks. More risks potentially mean more setbacks but to the competitor with their eyes on the prize, they are only temporary setbacks and they are not disappointed or discouraged. Players who always take the safe path are destined to joyless mediocrity.

From our newest booklet - A Team Study, Championship

Competitors…Once you cross the lines the only acceptable speed is game speed, the only acceptable body language is strong, the only acceptable mindset is fearless.

Because of their dedication to others and feeling responsible to the team, selfless athletes will work longer and and harder than those who are in it for themselves. Be a great teammate.

Competitors…Your training habits are all you can rely on during performance. In life and athletics habits become who you are. Focused, clear minded, fearless, confident, poised competitors got that way with intentional preparation. Prepare with passion or be frustrated - your call

Compete everyday

We all feel like panicking sometimes, but no competitor’s performance is helped by seeing team leaders, coaches or parents with weak body language, out of control or in full panic or frustration mode - toughen up!

Be the face they need to see to stay focused and confident

Teens… When you’re 25 you are going to realize that the people who demanded your best were also the ones who cared the most about you.

Embrace the challenges and the people who believe in you.

Don't ever make me choose between YOU and TEAM……'cause I'm gonna miss ya….

High school or college athletes… if you think you are not getting the playing time you deserve, instead of pouting or complaining, know who your competition is and beat them in every drill - do it quicker, do it better, dominate the one of ones and do that every day. Get to practice earlier and stay longer than your competition. As our friend Matt Lisle says - hustle so hard you cannot be ignored.

Compete harder.

Discipline - doing the small things consistently and well - touching the lines, stepping with the correct foot, focused attention, accountable and no shortcuts to success… undisciplined teams don't win championships. Know which teammates you can count on and who you can't… Be accountable and Compete!

The most selfish thing you can do as an athlete is to not use all your gifts. Teams with players who are selfish with their effort lose to those who are not. What you have, give, because what you save, you lose forever.

Competitors are motivated, not defeated by failure or rejection… Compete!!

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Now this is a paycheck… this was from 2 years ago

"Two months ago at 39 I was diagnosed with stage IV cancer. My doctors tell me that it's not curable, but is treatable. The life expectancy for someone with this diagnosis is typically one to two years. I've always been fiercely competitive, and I plan to beat the time frames and the odds. I have a great support system of family, friends and doctors and we're attacking this from several different angles: medicine, nutrition, exercise, mind/body exercises, and spiritually.

On the way to a soccer tournament last weekend, I was going through your Compete booklet with my oldest son and it hit me that everything in that book applies to my fight with cancer. I plan to add that booklet as one of my go to resources when I need inspiration or focus in my battle.

Just wanted to give you another example of how your booklets are making an impact outside of just sports. Keep up the good work!"

Follow up…

Today, I finished my 18th round of chemo and also had a PET scan. The result of the scan was complete remission - no evidence of disease! There is still work to be done, but this is a great day! Thanks so much for the part you and Proactive Coaching played in my journey.

Athletes…You may not initially like it when you find a coach who cares about you enough to hold you to high behavioral and performance standards, but you will be able to use it for success in everything you do the rest of your life.

Parents and coaches working together to raise strong, resilient young people of character

Life has no remote….get up and change it yourself! — Mark A. Cooper If you don’t love your team culture…If you don’t love your role or playing time… Get to work and change it

Either compete or complain. You can’t do both. If you choose to complain too often, good teams will move on without you

Mental toughness isn’t always obvious to others - often it is just your inner voice telling you to get up and try again today. Stay strong in your pursuit of excellence!

We all make mistakes…It is important to admit when you do something you don’t want to be known for.

But it is even more important to be thankful for those people who give you opportunities to change and act differently. The people who confront you about poor behavior and give you a second chance are usually those who love you the most.

Some of the most physically tough people I coached never acted or talked tough - they just played tough.

Quiet Confidence…

Great Athlete? - Too often we consider the great athlete the player with incredible God-given abilities who moves fluidly, scores a lot, or wins games. Coaches who refer to this person as an athlete while overlooking them giving less than their best effort or attitude are allowing these players to settle for less than they are capable of and doing them a life-long disservice. We need to hold kids to standards higher than talent and victory. We need to re-define the term athlete in terms of behavior, attitude, and effort. Being a true athlete has nothing to do with gender, age, or sport. Being a true athlete involves choices you make on the things you DO have control over, like effort and attitude. From Life Lessons for Athletes booklet and presentation

One workout/practice will not make an athlete but one workout/practice can break one.

Vern Gambetta

Athletes… "There is a choice you have to make, in everything you do.

And you must always keep in mind, the choices you make, make you."

Coach Wooden

Looking for a college scholarship? Hit the books - there are about 100 academic scholarships for every athletic one. Give yourself the best chance by striving for excellence both athletically and academically.

High School Athletes…If you find yourself not playing as much as you want, go ask the coach if there is a role that needs to be filled. Playing a role does not limit you, it helps your team. Keep trying to increase the roles and contributions you can make for the team but never be too good to embrace a role. That is one of the best lessons in sport.

You will be a role player in your life more often than you will be the star - especially in the most important team in life… your family.

Toughness is doing the right thing for your team when it's not the best thing for you. — Doc Rivers

Mature competitors can’t stand pity parties, whining or drama… If that is you, regardless if you are a coach, teammate of parent, keep it to yourself and away from our team

Mature competitors spend more time focusing and less time worrying. Worry taxes your energy, doesn’t create solutions and it doesn’t change the reality of the situation. When you worry about what might happen or what just happened, you are taking yourself out of the present moment. Control your mind and improve your performance. Compete!

Playing with Confidence booklet

Athletes… It is great to dream big but if you don't get out of your comfort zone and fully commit your with actions, your dreams will belong to someone who has. Commit and compete everyday!

Being part of a team is a special privilege. It requires giving up some rights that you may be able to get away with other places. You give up the right to be selfish and always get your way, to react with drama and to be casual with your effort. You do these things because others are depending on you. One of the great lessons from teams - It is not just about you.

Competitors…When faced with a challenge you get to choose your response - Eliminate poor me from your options. When we are no longer able to change a situation…we are challenged to change ourselves. Viktor Frankl

High School Athletes…Victim or competitor? Make a choice (quickly) so the team can know if they can count on you or need to move on w/o you.

Compete

So you got subbed out of the game…#1 of 3

If you consider yourself a mature athlete and good teammate…Hustle to the sideline, exchange information with the person going in for you and look for an opportunity for feedback from teammates or assistant coaches, get yourself mentally in the game and encourage the people who are playing. Raising your palms, pouting, weak body language, rolling your eyes, demonstrating frustration with being taken out sends a message of disrespect to the person going in and to your team culture. Even if it wasn’t your intention it can say, you are taking me out for that person?

The focus of this post is on the athlete controlling what they can control not on what coaches can do to make this easier - that will be another post.

Substitutions #2 of 3

Mature competitors don’t come out of the game and ask the head coach what did I do wrong? Coaches minds are on a multitude of things and they often don't want to stop what they are doing at the time and explain to one player or every player each time they are subbed for. You may not have even done anything wrong and even if you were looking for performance feedback that question may come across as justify why you took me out. Coaches substitute for a variety of reasons, fatigue, predetermined time, match ups, poor performance, to play someone who has earned playing time in practice, etc. Coaches will have fewer problems if they can tell players ahead of time how and why they substitute but during the game is probably not the best time to ask. If you are truly looking for performance feedback, choose a time before or after practice when things are slower. My goal is to get better, so when you have time, please let me know what I need to work on..

Athletes need to be able to come in and out of the game with respect for teammates, coaches and the team culture.

We also know that there are low trust coaches who create more problems than they solve but again, this post is mainly focused on helping the athlete control the controllables.

Athletes… As you move up the competitive ladder, don’t expect or require being complimented for every thing you do. Hustling, listening, focusing, giving your best are all automatics on good team cultures. Constantly having to reward normal behaviors turns into unnecessary chatter.

When you get to that level, those behaviors will be part of who you and your teammates are everyday. Having fun is working hard and performing well.

Stephen Curry - Excellence is never an accident - Work Habits Win

www.facebook.com/TheWarriorNation/videos/942050159192525/?theater

How can I earn more playing time? will probably get better results than, why am I not playing more? Choose a good time and give the coach some time to think about it rather than demanding an answer right now.

Until you learn how to train, play hard and together, you are going to lose to those teams that do.

Role players… When you have people willing to make the sacrifices necessary for the team to succeed, you need to consistently let them know that what they are doing is making a difference. It provides energy and the desire to contribute even more.

You know when you actually get good at sports? When you’re having fun and being creative. When you’re being a kid. When you don’t even realize you’re getting better, that’s when you’re getting better. If you’re not engaged in what you’re doing, it’s as helpful as taking the trash out. It’s just another chore. Patrick O’Sullivan NHL

Competitors…Don’t keep your goals to yourself. Whatever goals you have for this year, make them known to your family, teammates and coaches and then ask them to hold you accountable with honest feedback. By involving people you care about, you will be more likely to stay the course and succeed.

Competitors… keep the promises you make to yourself and don’t let your teammates down.

All competitors want to win but rather than being obsessed with results, focus on what is in your control and create a better team culture than any of your opponents - the results will follow

There will be days when you just don’t feel like practicing - this is the time when competitors separate themselves. The great competitors let their mental strength and personal commitment take over and do what it takes - and find joy, energy and accomplishment in doing so.

Love it when I see a competitor in a high-pressure situation, smile and enjoy the moment.

One of the secrets to becoming a successful competitor is to practice like it is the biggest game of the season and then during games compete like it’s another day on the practice court and trust your training. Compete booklet

Competitors…When it involves the team, never be indifferent

Competitors…For all of you who are putting in quality preparation this summer getting ready for your fall season - you know who you are and so do the coaches. The harder you work, the greater the investment, the harder it is to surrender and the more valuable the reward. Compete!! No Regrets!

There may not be a more negative force to a team than someone who takes energy from the group and any more powerful force than those who give and create positive energy. Whether you are an energy giver or energy taker - everyone knows who you are.

Great teammates are priceless - be one!

When an archer is shooting for nothing he has all his skill. If he shoots for a brass buckle he is already nervous. If he shoots for a prize of gold he goes blind or sees two targets - he is out of his mind! His skill has not changed. But the prize… divides him. He cares. He thinks more of winning than of shooting and the need to win drains him of power.

Chuang Tzu

Competitors have learned that discipline is not punishment but a form of love….Nothing is more harmful to the team than the neglect of discipline. Discipline is more important than athleticism. When two teams near the same level of talent are competing, the advantage always goes to the most disciplined.

In athletics the most selfish thing you can do is not use all your talent and effort.

Give your team the gift of everything you have - no regrets

Readying Routines… Successful athletes we have worked with have developed routines prior to competition that allow them to be ready. Don’t expect every athlete to be able to be ready by following one method (usually the coaches). As a coach, you need to ask each athlete what their readying routine is. Then it needs to work and be visible in performance from the opening whistle.

Playing With Confidence booklet

It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Athletes…Dreaming is good - preparing is better. Compete

Athletes… You are not tough enough if you chose the easier path just because the right path is more difficult.

Choose the fearless and relentless path toward excellence in skill and character

Competitors… Want to impress your coach and make your team better? Handle all adversity without showing any weakness and take responsibility for your mistakes without making excuses. You have complete control over both of these - Choose to Compete!

With attitude, you can determine your own performance. But more than that, you can help determine the performance of others. A single individual with a strong attitude can lift those around her - she can change the course of events. There are times you can win a game by the margin of a single good thought or positive word or action.

Pat Summit

Drop the drama - be a competitor

Applies to anyone involved with the team who cares about performance

Competitors… Discipline when used correctly is a form of love….Nothing is more harmful to the team than the neglect of discipline. Discipline is more important than athleticism. When two teams near the same level of talent are competing, the advantage always goes to the most disciplined.

Some of the most competitive people I coached were quiet and calm but inside there was always a fire burning. Don’t confuse a lot of noise with being competitive and don’t discount the quiet ones, let their actions do their talking.

Coaches and team leaders…Championships lie on the other side of challenges, commitment, selflessness and sacrifice. Along the way, make no excuses

Competitors don't have time to feel sorry for themselves!!!

Story of a player who refused to quit - walked on and worked his way to this. Then two weeks ago, Jordan Simone suffered a knee injury that ended his season. Yesterday ASU had a press conference and Jordan was asked regarding his knee injury if it was hard to not feel sorry for himself, he responded with…If I had felt sorry for myself when I was a walk on I wouldn't be standing here right now

www.facebook.com/SUNDEVILFOOTBALL/photos/a.269085023106356.79968.165039366844256/1112564275425089/?type=1&fref=nf&pnref=story

As the basketball season begins, watch how the really great players make the tough plays look easy, not the easy plays look tough or flashy.

It is our choices that show who we really are…far more than our abilities. J.K. Rowling

Regardless of ability, a