The Availability Index

By Brett Johnson

Why do so many women long to be married yet remain single? One reason is that their Availability Index is low, and men can spot it from a distance. It's as if there is a dial on their foreheads that says, "I do not need a man; I am unapproachable." This signal creates an invisible fence between them and men. What can a woman (who wants to be in a relationship) do to have an appropriate Availability Index? This book tackles this question.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Brett Johnson
• Release date: Jun 21, 2016
• ISBN: 9781311009661

Brett Johnson

Brett Johnson is the founder of The Institute for Innovation, Integration & Impact, Inc, which is headquartered in the San Francisco Bay Area. Passionate about the abolition of dichotomy­—eradicating the false barriers between facets of life, Brett is particularly interested in removing the barrier between the so-called secular and sacred. A chartered accountant, writer, father and social entrepreneur, Brett is dedicated to societal transformation through business, capital and leadership transformation. Brett has over thirty years of experience with leading public accounting and management consulting firms. He and the team at The Institute have repurposed over 365 corporations. He works extensively with executive groups within businesses, NGOs and international charities, helping them dream new futures, and align around a common purpose. A South African native, Brett has lived in Silicon Valley with his family for 30 years.Brett has authored ten books, and has some more in the works:• Convergence—Integrating your Career, Community, Creativity & Calling• I-Operations—How the Internet can transform your Operating Model with Gary Daichendt, former EVP of Worldwide Operations at Cisco• LEMON Leadership—Radically fresh leadership• Repurposing Capital—Rediscovering Faith-based Financing• Transforming Society—A framework for fixing a broken world• CYCLES—A journey to Purpose• 50 Principles of faith-based financing• The Initiative Index• The Availability Index• 10 Steps to RestorationBrett and his wife Lyn are frequently asked to speak and conduct consultations around the world.#businessonpurpose#convergence#integration#lemonleadership#lifepurpose

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The Availability Index

What men wish women knew about the signals women send

By Brett Johnson

Copyright Brett Johnson

1st Edition: 2012 Indaba Publishing

2nd Edition: 2016 (Smashwords)

ISBN 9781311009661

Smashwords Edition, License Notes

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Table of Contents

Introduction

Approachabilit-i

Securit-i

Hilarit-i

Physicalit-i

Purit-i

Need-i

Respectabilit-i

Functionalit-i

Boundar-i

Friendl-i

Generosit-i

Intentionalit-i

Congenialit-i

Hygienit-i

Petabilit-i

Acceptabilit-i

Hospitalit-i

Tranquilit-i

Where Do I Go From Here?

The Initiative Index Assessment

Introduction

Some years ago my wife, Lyn, and I sat around our kitchen table with a group of single but-want-to-be-married folks in their twenties and thirties. I made the following statement: Women have an availability index emblazoned on their foreheads letting men know whether they are even approachable. Some indices are so low it would be going into the arctic to venture there, and some are so high they come off as needy. Right in the middle is ‘the zone’ of healthy availability. While this got a Dude, that’s totally true from the men, it started a fire storm among the women. That’s that true! No way! So I said, On a scale of 1 to 5 where 1 is cold and 5 is overly need… Sally! (Not her real name, of course... I cannot remember who I chose.). Immediately the otherwise clueless bachelors chimed in. 2.7 3.0 2.8 Then I chose another name at the other end of the spectrum. Gertrude. 1.5 1.85 1.6" Like the calibration of a good rifle, these men grouped their perceptions tightly. The ladies around the table looked a little shocked.

After a while I was asked the question, Do men have the same index? Initially I thought the topics for men and women were the same, roughly. The longer I considered it, however, the more I realized there is a parallel but different index for guys, The Initiative Index (I.I.). Men wear it on their heads like a thermometer, and women can see it just as clearly as men can see The Availability Index (A.I.) dial. Women look at men and ask themselves, Will this man lead me? Will he snag me with charm, and then settle into passivity? Or is he one who will continually take initiative? The men’s story can be found in their own book, The Initiative Index: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/637110

Since then I have mentioned this Availability Index (A.I.) occasionally to a person or two whom I know wants to be married, but who, for whatever reason, sends out a signal saying, I am fine on my own: I don’t want to be in a relationship. The fault, if you care to label it that