The FLUIDITY Files

As I sat at the bar, I kept one eye on the door, looking for my date. I was nervous. At 28, I was going on my first-ever date with a woman, and all I thought was, what if she knows I’m new to this? What if I’m not… gay enough?

I questioned myself as I fall somewhere between heterosexual and bisexual, and I find that my sexual interest fluctuates based on the specific, with changes in how they identify and in sexual partners occurring well into their late 20s. “The idea that your orientation can change or be in transit, makes space for the fact that your sexual identity is not fixed, and that your sex life or relationships don’t have to meet someone else’s expectations,” says Andrea Barrica, CEO of O.school, an online sex-ed resource.