Do Not Cage Me In: Memoirs From the Bedroom

By Marla Hickerson

From the depths of self-loathing to pushing love away, this is a bold account of one woman's detailed reflection of the consequences emotional emptiness of her childhood had on every aspect of her adult living. As a result of an unplanned pregnancy, Marla chose to peel the layers of pain and shame to cultivate compassion and acceptance of herself so that she could provide for her baby.
Then came marriage and all the fears, insecurities and defense mechanisms that rose to the surface. Through the unconditional support of her husband, especially through an out of town attachment that came to be, she was able to unbury herself from her painful life experiences, cultivate personal growth and healing and acknowledge true love.
No matter what trials and tribulations she had experienced, she knew there was always a way out of the hole of despair and anxiety. Making a choice to take responsibility for her life, encouraged new awareness, which in turn, changed her perception on life and allowed love to flow.
This is her journey of forgiveness, love and intimacy.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Marla Hickerson
• Release date: May 24, 2013
• ISBN: 9781311788573

Marla Hickerson

Life is for the living.We all experience love, pain, success, and failure.​Often times though, we struggle as the negative experiences have had lasting effects on our lives.​We carry around baggage and all too often lose sight of how to let go of the negative.Some of us are less fortunate than others. The effects of feeling unsupported can last from childhood into our adult lives.​We can find ourselves struggling under the weight of a limiting weakness or restriction; and​have come to terms that life will always be a roller coaster of emotional living.​​And we cope by distracting ourselves from attaining well-being.​The fact of the matter is that it’s never too late nor impossible to move fromwound to well-being.​You matter. Your health matters. Your life matters.​Freedom and empowerment lies in the release of that which doesn't serve you to embrace that which will.

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Do Not CAGE Me In!

Memoirs from the Bedroom:

One Woman’s Struggle to

Love & Be Loved

Marla Hickerson

Copyright 2013

Edit 2015

Cover Design and Photography by Fiona Robinson

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This publication contains the opinions and ideas of the author. It is intended to provide helpful and informative material on the subject it addresses. It is provided with the understanding that the author is not engaged in rendering medical, health or any other kind of personal professional services in the book. The reader should consult his or her medical, health or other competent professional before adopting any of the suggestions in this book or drawing reference from it.

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Life As I Know It

We are born with the need for unconditional love. But we also need to learn limits, skills and standards to become capable adults. Nurture (care and love) and structure (rules and boundaries) help to form the personality and through the balance of both, we build a strong character, and a sense of self- value from within. For some of us, we didn’t get the nurture and/or appropriate structure needed during our childhood to build resilience and trust in ourselves. So no matter where we turn, we have childhood formed beliefs, attitudes and systems of reference that keep us stuck, getting the same results that don’t serve our personal development as we grow up. It's like a piece of thread attached to a childhood situation that weaves through our life, into the present, attaching other situations of likeness to it. Until we stop, reflect and acknowledge this pattern of behavior/ situations/ beliefs linked to this thread, we will keep attracting what does not serve