The Truth: Keepin' It 100: The Blueprint to Relationships

By Mario Rivers

Based on personal experience and interviews with men and women of different ages, ethnicities and cultures from over 25 different countries I’ve travelled to, this book describes what a successful, single man is looking for when he’s trying to settle down and find that right woman from his point of view. It contains the blueprint and a guideline to conquering the obstacles you will face, and how to overcome them to have a healthy, meaningful relationship.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Feb 12, 2016
• ISBN: 9781483560779

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PREFACE

This book is a summary of experiences from my personal life, and the experiences of several men and women of different ages and backgrounds. It is the result of lots of research, and many conversations and discussions. I wrote this book looking back at when a man or woman is single, and searching for a good foundation for the start of a long lasting relationship. It does not depict the current state of my life or relationship status, and it covers a broad time frame spanning several years. It depicts where I once was, just like all men and women are at that stage in their lives. I am intelligent, established, hardworking, educated, and accomplished. This represents what a man with those same qualities would be looking for when they wish to find that special someone to settle down with. It defines the building blocks of a relationship using real life examples from people’s trials. In this book I aim to shed some light on aspects of a relationship that are sometimes questionable, and some of the questions people have a hard thoughts and outlooks on the things that a man of this nature will do and say to you, or the way he would respond to you, and how you should take that information when deciding if this is the type of relationship you would want. It is a blueprint and a guideline; a map to lead you past all the games, lies, and sometimes the truths about what a quality guy might present to you.

So what caused me to author this particular book? I gathered material for it over the course of several years but I never intended to use the material to actually write a book. After all, who am I but another person living life? It was coincidental, spur of the moment, unintentional, and inspiring. It was humbling, and selfless. Throughout the many countries that I’ve travelled to, among the many people I’ve met, and all the different cultures I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing, the information presented in this book is pretty much true regardless of race, heritage, culture, age, and gender. I dedicate this book to my children. I hope I’ll be a great example to them to lead them into successful futures, gifted with the knowledge that they can do whatever they’re capable of doing in their minds. Then all that is left to do is to turn their dreams into visions, their visions into goals, their goals into actions, and their actions into living out their dreams. I also wrote this book to help the millions of people who can’t seem to figure out what they are doing wrong, and what makes the people they attract such jerks. For the many of us who desperately crave the type of relationship that everyone dreams of, this book is for you. You will discover how to navigate through this blueprint and how to find that special person. I hope this book helps, and that the lessons and truths in this book teach and encourage people to spread the word so others can experience the type of relationship that seems to elude us.

Back to the Beginning

I had several friends in the military, and some civilians who were having problems with their spouses and partners. They all thought I was someone they could talk to. They felt I would keep their secret relationship issues in confidence, and they always told me that I give excellent advice and should write a book. Yeah right. A book! I started to bring a notepad with me to write things in so I could review what people had told me and give them my opinion. At that point I still had no ideas about becoming an author. I am an old soul. So the advice I gave them was something that any person with common sense could see. I was very straightforward with the advice, and of course I began dating myself and experiencing some of the things people had talked to me about in confidence.

After working somewhere for any length of time, the people you work with start to become like family, and you end up spending more time with them than you do at home. As a result you get to know people’s families, situations, and their relationship statuses. People prefer to talk about these things at work, because often they can’t discuss it with their spouses at home. I continued to write on those notepads. I gave advice to a few of them, and then we all started discussing relationships. I still had no idea that I would actually put pen to the paper and write the book you are reading now. One day a young lady outside of work came to me and asked me what I thought of a situation with her husband. I told her that I’d be straightforward, and tell her what was on a man’s mind, well most men’s minds, and that it wouldn’t be what she wanted to hear. I told her the truth. I told her it was purely my opinion and that she shouldn’t just go on what I said. I told her she had to make her own choice because I could be wrong about my opinion on the whole ordeal. Besides, I’d never been married before and they would have to discuss their marital issues between the two of them. A few weeks later she told me what I said was exactly true, and that it had helped her. She told me I should write a book. Again, I ignored it and took it as a joke.

Once, I had to fly out to a rig the next day, and for some odd reason I couldn’t sleep that night. I started reading my notepads one by one, and the more I read them, the more I wanted to read. I went to my computer with that box of notepads beside me, and I started typing an outline because there was a lot more material there than I realized. Even at this point, I never thought to elaborate on that outline or write a book.

The Birth of the Truth

I was called to go to a rig for a support job to last about twenty-eight days. I’d put all the notes I’d typed up that night online so I could read it for myself. During the first two days there I wrote more. Three days later, I had nine chapters and a table of contents. I sat back in my chair and marveled at how many words had come together in a few days with minimal effort. I had just let my thoughts and feelings flow freely, and there was a lot to read. On the fourth day, I sent questions to people to answer about relationships, mostly as a result of the information I had gathered from all those notepads. By the fifth day, the book was complete. Two coworkers were there with me. One overheard me talking to my fiancé at the time and he asked me, How is it that you get your woman to do this or that? How are you able to have control of your relationship and your woman doesn’t give you crap? What I told him I realized were in the pages of the book I had just written. So on the fifth day, The Truth was fully written. After receiving feedback from those questions I had sent out to some of my friends, I sent a small snippet of the book and they got me excited about getting it published and taking it seriously. Since I have never been one to half do things or not see them through until the end, I researched everything that I would need to self-publish. All this came from not being able to sleep one night, and one week later I had a finished manuscript. Wow, I still can’t believe it!

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The Introduction

First of all thanks for purchasing and reading this book. When anyone writes a book, some people ask, What makes that person qualified to write a book on such and such? My answer to that question is life experiences, and not just mine. Many of my friends and family members have gone through major events so far as relationships go. Also, during my thirty-two years of life I’ve travelled quite extensively, and I’ve heard the same thing all over the world. For some reason, people think I look like the type of person they can talk to, and from all the personal conversations I’ve had, plus my own experiences, and my knowledge of the experiences of those closest to me, this book has been born. I’m not a relationship expert if we’re talking about degrees and all, but I’m the person who has been in the trenches before with tried and tested facts. The stories in this book are based on true events, and real life folks just like you and I whom I’ve dealt with on a personal level. So this isn’t made up stuff. It’s based on real life situations. Being on the outside looking in is a great way to be introspective about a situation, as you can really relate to things that people go through when you either experience them for yourself, or experience someone you know going through a situation. Besides, people often don’t want to take advice from someone who doesn’t have field experience. So I want to start by saying that relationships are exhausting, so if you’re ready to not be single anymore, and you’re tired of playing with women, then this is the single most important piece of literature you ever possess, and I’ll tell you why. Life is short, but we all want basically the same thing. We all need to be loved, sexed, wanted, appreciated, and needed. Therefore, a major part of our existence as human beings is finding that special person to be with. Whether it’s for the short-term, the long-term, or strictly for sex, we all still try and find that person. This book is a blueprint for all the things you will experience in relationships. If you think about it, everyone spends a large majority of their lives trying to find or impress someone. And I’ve laid it all out in this book. I may not cover every little detail, but I guarantee the most important information is in this book. I spent a lot of time talking to women of all ages, races, and