How to Cope With the Alcoholic in Your Life

By A.L. Concord

For anyone who has had to deal with an alcoholic in their lives, this book takes you through the steps needed to effectively deal with an alcoholic and regain control over your life.

• Language: English
• Publisher: A.L. Concord
• Release date: Jul 23, 2012
• ISBN: 9781476147604

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HOW TO COPE WITH THE ALCOHOLIC IN YOUR LIFE

By

A.L. Concord

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How to Cope With the Alcoholic in Your Life

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Finally, use your head. Nothing in this guide is intended to replace common sense, legal, medical or other professional advice.

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Preface: My Story

For several years, I have been dealing with my father, the alcoholic in my life. This has been an experience unlike any other. I have never had to deal with anything like this before and was unprepared and lost when the everyday situations I had to face started to become more prominent.

When things started to get consistently worse, I realized how completely disturbing it was to see him the way that he was and still is to this day. It is shocking to see how he acts so different and how I can no longer see my father inside.

With this realization, I saw how his addiction started to affect me in a negative way. I felt angry, upset, hurt, scared, embarrassed, ashamed, disappointed, you name it! I was emotionally drained. So, I decided to take a look at my situation and came to the conclusion that his problem was starting to affect my life, as well as other family members around him that knew about his situation.

I feel like I have been to hell in back with my father and his drinking addiction. From all the arguments and chaotic episodes that have occurred to the many attempts of trying to talk to and help my father, all I got from him was: I drink because I drink.

Unacceptable!

I felt like I had to do something. So, in order to find ways to help my father quit drinking, I searched the internet high and low. Even after testing a few methods I found, he still lived up to his I drink because I drink theory. After a few years, I finally gave in. All I could think is oh great, this does not look like this is ending soon.

Since it seemed like it was always one stressful ordeal after the next with my father, I decided to reach out to my mother to vent my frustrations. Her only reply was that I needed to be compassionate towards him. Compassionate? she acted like I had been struggling to help him and struggling to convince him to stop drinking all along!

At the point that I was at, I did not want to hear what would make him feel better. I wanted to know how I could feel better! I did not know where to turn. Every time I tried to find help, most of the people I talked to told me to help my father in any way that I can. Even my research on the internet did not have anything to offer in helping myself.

This is when I came to the conclusion that it is often overlooked that family members of an alcoholic are affected by the day to day struggles that go hand in hand with dealing with the alcoholic. Even with these every day struggles family members of an alcoholic have to endure – including arguing with the alcoholic, worrying about the alcoholic’s health and well being and trying to help the alcoholic quit drinking – the focus is placed solely on helping the alcoholic quit drinking. This makes it hard to see that those around the alcoholic are going through a very traumatic experience.

Since my father would not budge, I decided I needed something to get me through this (therapy was not an option). I had had enough of trying to convince my father to quit drinking without success or a change in his drinking behavior. I did not need to be any more compassionate than I had been already. I needed to make myself feel better and I needed it to happen soon.

So, after compiling research from the internet, talking to a few others who have also dealt with alcoholics in their lives, I saw I was not alone. Something had to be done. I made up my mind that I was not going to deal with the turmoil anymore and needed a solution to solve my problem on my own.

This is when I came up with a system that would help me through my tough situation. I created this system thinking about what I have gone through, as well as the others in my life who have dealt with an alcoholic. Particularly, the situation of one of my closest friends and the experiences she has been through and still goes through to this day with the alcoholic in her life.

Finally, after developing this system and implementing it into my everyday life, I found my peace. This is my way to stay sane through all the chaos my father has created in my life over the years. Now, I am going to share this information with you.

I did not only write this book for myself, I wrote it for everyone else out there, like me, who has had to go through life having to deal with an alcoholic.

Now it is your turn to learn to cope with the alcoholic