Here’s the thing: you’re not a horrible person for unconsciously sabotaging your relationship. Your unhealthy habits have nothing to do with who you are as a person but it says everything about your past and what you’ve been through.So in today’s episode, let’s take a hard look at the ways you may be self-sabotaging your relationship and the reasons why you may be doing this. Once you gain a deeper understanding as to why you may be doing these behaviors, you can do better and choose to heal. In this episode mp3:01:58 - 8 ways you may be sabotaging your relationship04:47 - The wounded beliefs that fuel your behavior06:26 - Words to watch out for when you’re in conflict08:57 - What you’re REALLY trying to communicate 17:41 - How past trauma plays a huge role in how you act out21:57 - Why it’s hard for your partner to respond when you reactResources and links mentioned in this episodeGet my FREE Triggered Masterclass Listen to Episode 5: How to Respond, Not ReactJoin the Choosing to Heal Community and Book ClubFull Show Notes HERE  Connect with Monica:Follow Monica on Instagram , Facebook and TikTok.To learn more about Monica, dive further into topics mentioned, or to submit a topic/guest request, visit her website at www.monicaleighblog.comFollow the podcast on Instagram and FacebookJoin Monica’s email list to become an exclusive insiderThank you for listening to Choosing To Heal with Monica Leigh! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe & leave a review to help support the podcast and keep future content coming!