Ever since I started sharing more about my co-parenting journey with my ex-husband online, lots of comments and assumptions have been shared, both good and bad, but mostly bad. It blew people’s minds how I’m able to sit down at the same dinner table and still have an amicable relationship with him, then we shouldn’t have gotten a divorce.“You couldn't put your egos aside when you were married, but now you can.” “If this is so perfect, then why didn't you just stay together?”“Genuinely curious if you get along so well, why divorce in the first place? I just don't get it.”“If you can cordially communicate and be in each other's presence and have the ability to compromise like this why couldn't  you compromise on the thing that caused you to divorce in the first place?”“If you get along this well after a divorce, then you shouldn't have gotten a divorce.”Because here’s the thing: just because you get along well with someone doesn’t mean that you are meant to be in a romantic relationship with that person. Yes, you read that right. This is from someone who fought for her marriage for years.So in this episode, let’s talk about some of the things I did to try to save my marriage and how I arrived at the decision to end it.In this episode:04:18 - My story of betrayal trauma05:58 - How I kept myself in denial08:39 - What are you motivated by when it comes to saving your marriage?11:11 - A healthier way to advocate for yourself when saving your marriage14:03 - When I realized my own role in the dysfunction of my marriage14:28 - What happens when you let go of control17:32 - Is it possible to divorce from a place of love and healing?19:38 - The turning point of why I stopped trying to save my marriageResources and links mentioned in this episodeDownload my FREE Core Values Workbook Join the Choosing to Heal Community and Book ClubFull Show Notes HEREConnect with Monica:Follow Monica on Instagram , Facebook and TikTok.To learn more about Monica, dive further into topics mentioned, or to submit a topic/guest request, visit her website at www.monicaleighblog.comFollow the podcast on Instagram and FacebookJoin Monica’s email list to become an exclusive insiderThank you for listening to Choosing To Heal with Monica Leigh! If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe & leave a review to help support the podcast and keep future content coming!