Victim Mentality

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Victim Mentality

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There are moments when we all feel like a victim. And for some of us this brings validation or relief. But for a lot of us, we can get stuck in this mentality which prevents us from seeing other options and opportunities. Learn today what that looks like and what you can do to shift out of it. Show Notes

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