Podcast #485
 
THE ART OF HAPPINESS, EVEN IF YOUR LIFE IS A MESS
 





 
Everyone wants to be happy, but most people aren't. You can learn how to tap into a life of happiness, even if your life is a mess, once you learn the art of happiness. In this coaching podcast, learn why happiness sometimes eludes you and how you can create more happiness in your life, without your circumstances changing. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/485

 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about:
 


How happiness isn't an accident, and you can create it for yourselfWhy some people are happy and others aren'tThe art of happiness, and how to engage in it daily The messiness of a happy life and what happy really looks like 







Happy International Women's Day!


 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK 
 

Go glad.
Hi Trish, I had found your podcast via "keep the faith" about 4 years ago. I do believe God led me to you. Growing up I had a wonderful loving family (still do) however I always felt sad. IT made me feel even worse because I didn't have anything to make me feel that way. I 've always had felt left out and struggled with friend issues that made me feel like something is wrong with me. I have been hooked on your podcast and I tell everyone about you because I have feel myself improving!!! Slowly but surely. I not longer thank I'm the only one. And boy, is that a relief! You have BLESSED me for these past 2 years and all for FREE!!!!! I feel the LOVE and "back at cha baby!" So glad I joined the college for the next chapter of Happiness! Love, Deanna
 
Everyone's life is messy.
Your circumstances aren't what make you happy - your thoughts are.



 
HAPPINESS ISN'T AN ACCIDENT
 


It's not just for the lucky.



It's for the intentional.



It's available to everyone.



Decide to be happy.Study happy people.Know your happy habits.Practice the art of active appreciation.Ground yourself in gratitude.



NBC news poll recently found that only 14% of Americans reports to be very happy. That's down from 31% who said the same in 2018. 45% of Americans reported feeling isolated or lonely. 


 
Two thirds of adults globally 
(64%) report being happy: 14% very much so and 50% rather so. Countries with the highest proportion of adults considering themselves as very happy are Canada (29%), Australia, Saudi Arabia and India (28% each), Great Britain and the United States (27% each). (Global Happiness Study 2019) 

 
WHY AREN'T YOU HAPPY? 
 


Most likely because you're looking to your circumstances to make you happy.



It's your thoughts that creates happiness, not what happens in your life. 



Too focused on the wrong things 



-fear



-what could go wrong



-"being realistic"



-avoiding emotions



-what other people might think



-achievement for fulfillment



We're distracted by our own business



We stay too busy to be happy. 


 
UNHAPPINESS CONTRIBUTORS
 


Comparison to others.Lack of gratitudeStuck in comfort zoneYou don't move your bodyYou are always in your past or your futureFlawed beliefs (thinking it's supposed to be easier, or that negative emotions shouldn't exist)Busyness (too busy to think, reflect, notice, self-care, live well) 



95% of our 60-80,000 thoughts per day are repeated thoughts. 


 
THE ART OF HAPPINESS
 


HAPPINESS HABITS



Activate appreciation



Reframing thoughts



Mental maintenance 



Physical activity



Time to be



Other Contributors to Happiness



Adventure



Falling is learning



Openness 



Curiosity



Happiness doesn't mean that it's a state of permanence.



It's an emotion, that ebbs and flows, and when you feel it, you ride it. When is recoils, you know another wave is coming - nothing has gone wrong.



"there is taken care of"



Intentional and active appreciation



What about others who drag you down?



"must stink to be in their brain…"



"there thoughts are their choices, I'm grateful I know how to not stay in a funk