27 Ways To Stop Being a People Pleaser
 
PODCAST #421
 














Trying to please others puts you on a hamster wheel of inadequacy, powerlessness and in insecurity. People pleasing makes us co-dependent and cautious with how we appear to others. It makes us addicts to caring what people think and keeps us stuck in a life of stagnant averageness - average happiness, average success, average relationships. You were made for more. This podcast episode will give you 27 ways to confidently start breaking the chains of people pleasing that is holding you back from all that God has for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/421







In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:







What is people pleasing, and are you doing it?Why is people pleasing toxic anyways?20 ways to stop being a people pleaser




 
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WHAT IS PEOPLE PLEASING AND ARE YOU ONE?
 


People pleasing goes beyond simple kindness.



It's based off a low opinion of yourself. 



It's a need for others to like you.



It's hard for you to say no.You over-apologize, for everything.You're quick to agree and agreeability is a value. You struggle with authenticity. You're an over-giver.You don’t have any free time - because you give all of yours away. 


 
WHY IS PEOPLE PLEASING TOXIC?
 


Because it's rooted in caring too much what people think.



It's a belief system that thinks - if I can just make people happy, then I will be happy because I will belong, I will be important and I will be enough.



It makes our happiness contingent on someone else's happiness.



We become victims to other people's whims and decisions. 



(Need more coaching on letting go of what people think? Check out episodes #419 and #187 of The Confidence Podcast.)

























Negative Emotional Results Experienced: 



-frustration and resentment



-feel taken advantage of 



-relationships that don't satisfy



-stress and burnout



-identity of worthlessness or contingent on results/achievement



-fear of being left out or not belonging 



-past trauma



Rooted in Origins Of:



-self-esteem issues



-fear of rejection



-false control focus



-damaged self-concept



-misplaced belonging


 
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