Become a Thriving Teen: Master Teenage Series, #1

By Dr. Reshma Sao

Teenage is a sensitive time of confusion and reformation, juggling internal conflicts and external pressures. They are a storehouse of secret treasures that need to be unleashed. With the help of a strategic guide, you will be able to reveal your latent power and discern opportunities amidst challenges. You will soar high by mastering interpersonal relationships—with yourself, your parents, and your friends, catalyzing your holistic growth.
In a world fraught with challenges and opportunities, 'BECOME A THRIVING TEEN' emerges as a compass, guiding teens toward a future marked by resilience, self-awareness, and unstoppable success. It's a testament to the transformative power within every teenager—a power waiting to be unleashed for a future that knows no bounds. Shape your destinies consciously by nurturing the mind, body, heart, and soul.
#Do you often feel your parents and adults do not try to understand you?  
#Do you wonder why you feel like the Hero of the show at one moment and utter worthless the very next moment, your emotions surging high and low?
#Do you wonder why some teens are brilliant risk-takers while others struggle to see themselves how they wish?
#Will you have a better experience as a teen capable of unleashing your hidden potential to thrive in the face of Adversity?
#What if you are equipped with practical strategies to build positive habits and discern opportunities amidst challenges? #What if you discover how to manage and foster balanced relationships- with yourself, your parents, and friends, and acquire holistic growth?
#Imagine yourself Skyrocketing as an Influential Teen and Surviving Teen, navigating your emotions to discover a way to Graceful Thriving Teen.

Here is what you will learn in the Book:

You are a fantastic powerhouse of hidden Potential.

The common mistakes Teens must avoid - through relatable and exciting stories

How to navigate transitions and turning points of life and reveal your latent Power.

Easy ways to fix the MIS (Mental health, Identity crisis, and Self-esteem) to enhance your self-esteem

Let's brainstorm: body image, adolescent intimacy, who is the center of your life, and how you avoid an unhealthy relationship.

Use 'BULLY' as a mnemonic tool to understand the detrimental effect of bullying.

How do you spot good friends, deal with losing friends, and understand Stereotyped peer relations,

What parents can do: Practical strategies for conflict resolution and communication, develop skills to foster positive peer relationships, and cultivate powerful habits by focusing on the system and not on goals.

The book "BECOME A THRIVING TEEN" is a call to teenagers to embrace their potential, nurture positive relationships, develop a system-oriented mindset, and navigate challenges to emerge as surviving and thriving individuals.

• Language: English
• Publisher: EOI
• Release date: Jan 15, 2024
• ISBN: 9798223839538

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DEDICATION

Dedicated To My Parents, who have left a

legacy behind

And

My Mentor in Life, Dr. Daisaku Ikeda

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

UNDERSTANDING ADOLESCENT MENTAL LANDSCAPE

Opportunities Amidst Challenges

The Power of Self-Relationships

Parental Partnerships

Friends and Frenemies: Decoding the Teen Social Scene

Steps Towards Your Holistic Growth

SOME MORE NUGGETS

What have we learned so far?

DISCLAIMER

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

MAY I ASK YOU FOR A SMALL FAVOR?

INTRODUCTION

I was over the moon when I was proposed by one of my classmates when I was in grade eight. Something happened, and I was attracted to him like the two opposite poles of a magnet. He was good-looking, and many girls from my class had a crush on him. Our interaction became more frequent, and my eyes looked for him in every corner and frequently. He was sweet and loving; I started liking him with all my heart because he made me feel special. He listened to me, cared for me, and was always there for me.

Things were going fine, and I did not realize when I had changed completely. I felt paralyzed when he was not around and empty if I did not get his phone call. I started feeling I owed him a lot, so I was ready to do everything for him out of obligation. He became the center of my life, and no sooner did he take the driving seat of my life. I started distancing from my other friends with whom I was so close because my boyfriend wanted me to do so. More often, I missed my hobby class to spend time with him. I started losing focus in my class, and my grades deteriorated terribly. I performed poorly on my tenth board. That was when my mother counseled me, and I started realizing how stupid I was. I had ended up in a relationship that snatched everything from me: my friends, my hobbies, my pocket money, my me-time, and whatnot. It was frustrating when I tried to explain to him what we were doing was wrong. We must focus on building our lives by studying and working towards our career goals. He started blackmailing me and threatening me by different means. It was depressing, and I locked myself in my room for several days. With much difficulty, I was out of the trap! Now I wonder, How did it happen to me?

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I was an easy-going, fun-loving girl. I loved playing and doing various activities with my friends but was a bit casual with my studies. There was a girl in my class with a charming outlook. I wonder why I did not notice her until that day. Her handwriting was beautiful, she had extraordinary skills in presentation and debating, and she was everywhere- in academics, sports, cultural activities, and where not. She was so impressive, and I felt bad, what am I doing? That day, I promised myself to be serious, improve my handwriting, and work on learning skills. I took the initiative to shake hands with her and appreciated her qualities. Damm...she was good at that also, the way she pleased me with her positive attitude. For the first time, I realized we can learn so much from our peers!

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I fell into doing drugs when I was 15. Since many of my friends were already into it, I felt it was ok for me to join them. I liked their company; more than their company, I liked that fine powder that had become my lifeline. My friends told me ‘it is cool’ and soon it became cool to me as well. Little did I know it would make my life miserable, and it took a couple of years to return to where I am today. It was a terrible journey. Though the drug is out of my body, it still has occupied some space in my mind! But with the help of my parents and well-wishers, I am looking forward to a normal life, which is important. I did not know it was so easy to slip into it with my peers and that coming out would be so difficult!

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I smoked my first cigarette when I was eleven. I wouldn't say I liked the smell, and I did not know how to hold it. I did not like them at all. However, I feared I would be kicked out of my peer group if I did not obey them. Soon, it was cool, making me feel like I was the show's hero and of some worth. The journey continued, and I couldn’t stop. I wish I could say ‘No’ to my friends.

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When I was in senior secondary school, some classmates had boyfriends. Often, they bunked the classes and had frequent night parties. At some point in time, they made me feel outdated and boring. As per their definition, I did not qualify to be their friend if I did not have a boyfriend and if I did not party with them. To prove them wrong, I went to a party with my friends despite my mother's resistance. All my friends danced and had fun with the guys. My mother had warned me not to allow any guy to take advantage of me and that I should stick together with other girls. When the party was in full swing, all the couples were busy dancing; one guy started forcing me to dance with him; he was drunk and started misbehaving. I felt horrible, and I do not want anyone to go through what I went through.

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Dear Wonderful Teens, can you relate to any of the above episodes? You might be facing one yourself, or have some friend going through a similar scenario, or you must have read in the newspaper or on the internet. Whatever the case, such things are not new or unheard of in modern times.

There is one typical pattern if you pay attention to all such cases. They did it. They thought it was cool because their peer influenced them or something inside triggered them to do something without knowing the consequences. Consequences are harmful because they can potentially harm your life and make you suffer. I said, ‘It has the potential,’ but it will not do any harm until you allow it to happen to yourself.

Studies suggest that friendship and acceptance by their peer group matter more than any parental and family opinions at this age. Friends highly influence their choices and decision-making, which often leads to risk-taking behaviors among teens. More often, parents feel frustrated when their children stop listening to them. Young people becoming passive to parents and getting more influenced by their peers is not because parents don’t matter to them anymore or because they want to disrespect their parents. They are more concerned about fitting in, need peer