Are They Emotionally Unavailable?: Spotting Emotional Unavailability and Unpacking Emotional Baggage

By Natalie Lue

In Are They Emotionally Unavailable?, an audio course from Scribd Coach, relationship writer and author of The Joy of Saying No Natalie Lue dives into one of her favorite topics: emotional availability. In the course, Lue discusses a few key areas of emotional availability: how to discern when someone is “just not that into you” or emotionally unavailable; how to assess your own emotional availability; the ten signs of emotional availability and how to identify them in your partner; and how knowing these signs can help you tidy up your emotional baggage and build better, more loving relationships.

Whether you’re asking yourself if they’re just not that into you or are troubled by your own unavailable tendencies, you’re bound to learn something crucial from Are They Emotionally Unavailable?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Scribd Coach
• Release date: Apr 18, 2023
• ISBN: 9781094459363

Natalie Lue

Natalie Lue is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. The British-born, Dublin, Ireland-raised author helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically. Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, USA Today, and the BBC, among many others. Natalie lives in Caterham, Surrey, on the edge of south London with her husband, two daughters, and cockerpoo.

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Are They Emotionally Unavailable?

ARE THEY EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE?

Spotting Emotional Unavailability and Unpacking Emotional Baggage

NATALIE LUE

Scribd Coach

Contents

Copyright

About Scribd Coach

Introduction

Are They Just Not That Into Me, or Are They Unavailable?

Are You Open or Closed?

10 Signs of Emotional Unavailability

Tidying Up Emotional Baggage

Conclusion

About the Author

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ISBN: 9781094459363

First e-book edition: March 2023

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Introduction

Hiya! Welcome to Are They Emotionally Unavailable?: Spotting Emotional Unavailability and Unpacking Emotional Baggage, a course from Scribd Coach. My name is Natalie Lue.

Have you ever fallen down the dating rabbit hole and blamed yourself for things that aren’t your fault or engaged in behavior that isn’t going to help you find the type of relationship you’re looking for? You’ve come to the right place — this course is designed to help folks gain new insights about the reasons their relationships go wrong so easily.

I held an event about this topic, and an attendee told me that she'd been in a relationship for a year but had recently broken up. She was wondering: What if it’s not the case that he was unavailable, but is just not that into me? This is a common question for me — just like the way we can be in a hurry to write someone off as a narcissist, we can sometimes be concerned that we're just saying someone is emotionally unavailable as an easy way to write off what the issue was in a relationship. But that's not the case at all.

What we have to recognize is that it's very possible for somebody not to be into us or us them. But here's the thing: when we are in the early stages of a relationship — as in the