How to Build Healthy Relationships

By Sarah Foreman

It's a fact of life that interpersonal relationships aren't always as easy as we would like them to be.

 

Relationships that connect us physically, emotionally, and romantically with our partners are the primary goals for living life to the fullest; however, we have all experienced, at least once, the pain of being in a partnership with someone that looks perfect at first glance and then reveals themselves as controlling or toxic, someone you cannot trust, and that brings an emotional upheaval in your life.

 

You may also have experienced staying with someone you trust, yet an inexplicable sensation of anxiety still developed in your thoughts.

It can be heartbreaking how widespread those issues tend to be. Often, the consequence is a downward spiral of insecurity and negative thinking, with the only result being a worsening of the quality of other aspects of your life.

 

The truth is that we live in a highly complex world, and we face it with no guidance or support.

 

In my years as a consultant, I have learned that the leading cause of a bad relationship is simply that many people don't know how to properly handle their interactions because nobody had told them before.

 

In How to Build Healthy Relationships, I have summarized the 12 best-kept secrets that healthy couples use to live their dream. As a result, you will never have to fly blind, as many partners do, and expect relationships to just fall into place.

 

In this book, you will learn that the key to understanding others' behavior is to understand yourself better. Then, I will explain, scientifically, how you became who you are and the mechanism behind developing your character. In the end, you will have a clearer picture in your mind of what a healthy relationship is and what to look for to achieve one.

 

Finally, you will be aware of the steps needed to create the relationships you want without simply relying on your intuition and those painful trials and errors.

You will learn how attachment and love develop. You will finally be able to give a name to many of those unexplainable feelings you have when you look at your partner.

 

You will learn the reasons and the mechanisms that ignite fear and anxiety in your mind so that you will finally have the right weapon to handle those painful emotions and avoid them from taking over your life.

 

Among many other things, you will learn how to spot the signs of an immature or narcissistic person before they become a problem for you.

 

With How to Build Healthy Relationships, you will finally gain the answers to questions like: What are the most important aspects of a healthy relationship? How do I overcome my relationship anxiety? How do I maintain a healthy relationship? How do I spot an emotionally abusive partner?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Sarah Foreman
• Release date: Dec 28, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201292225

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Healthy Relationships

THE 12 BEST-KEPT SECRETS TO AVOID OVERTHINKING, SET BOUNDARIES, AND DEVELOP  HAPPY, LONG-LASTING, AND ANXIETY-FREE RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE SPECIAL PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.

Sarah Foreman

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CONTENTS

Introduction

Part 1:Understanding ourselves to understand others

Secret 1: How we become who we are

Needs, goals, and interaction: what they are and how they work

How Human Behaviour works

The concept of self

How the environment influences our personality

Personality can be improved

Secret 2: The Character

The five stages of character

How family influences the character development

Secret 3: The Maturity

The six kinds of maturity

How a mature person should be

Secret 4: Mental Health and mental Illness

Mental health and sense of humor

An introduction to the mental Illness

Twelve steps to keep your mental health safe

Part 2: Me and my Partner

Secret 5: The attachment style

Secret 6: Love

How Love Is Born

Love for Others

love and infatuation

The three types of love

Secret 7: Women and anxiety in relationships

How People gets attracted to each other

Why do people date?

Dating is not all the same

Sexual desire and anxiety

The relationship between infatuation, physical attraction, and maturing love

Mate Selection and Marriage Plans

The ideal mate and the chosen mate

Engagement: The first step toward marriage

Part 3: Understanding anxiety will make us less anxious

Secret 9: What is anxiety?

Cognitive Component

Physiological Component

Explicit Behavioral Component

Interactions of the Three Components

Anxiety, fear, and panic: Different words for the same emotion

The anxiety disorder: Glossary of the terms

Part 4: The roots of anxiety

Secret 10:Biological origins of anxiety

The twin study

Secret 11: THE Environmental conditions

Indirect and Informational Sources

The Prepared Fears

Secret 12: Psychodynamic and analytic views

Freud and Anxiety

An Existential View

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Introduction

Everyone wants to have a healthy relationship with their partner. However, the road to this goal is often much more tortuous than was initially expected, and things do not always go the right way.

Frequently, a relationship that starts with the best premises, with time, turns into something toxic to people’s mental and physical health.

The most frequent consequence of an unhealthy relationship is that one or both partners find themselves experiencing situations of anxiety, insecurity, and sometimes even panic attacks without apparent reason.

When they say they want a healthy relationship, many people do not clearly understand what this word means; therefore, they cannot correctly assess each other or constructively contribute to one of the most essential experience of a person’s life.

The first step to living a good relationship is to define precisely the expectations and objectives that this must-have.

Since people have different needs, so is the individual definition of a healthy relationship. For example, your requirements about communication, sex, love, space, shared hobbies or ideals, and so on, may change during life. A relationship that function in your 20s may be opposite to the relationship you want in your 30s.

Similarly, relationships that don’t line up with more traditional classifications of a relationship can still be healthy. A healthy relationship is a wide-ranging term because what makes a relationship succeed depends on the needs of the people in it.

Some of the most critical signs of understanding if the one you are experiencing is a healthy relationship can be sought in your own and your partner’s behavior and are mainly:

The ability to adapt to circumstances and the fact we’re constantly changing and going through different phases in life. Open communication about the things going on in life: successes, failures, and everything in between. Even if your partner has a different opinion, they listen without judgment and then share their perspective.

Trust, which not only means that you don’t keep secrets from each other, but also that when you’re not together, you don’t worry about them pursuing other people. It also means that you feel safe and comfortable with your partner, knowing that it won’t hurt you physically or emotionally.

Interdependence is also another sign. It means you trust each other for reciprocated support but still keep your identity as a unique individual. You know you have its endorsement and love, but your self-esteem doesn’t depend on them.

Curiosity is another excellent sign. It means you’re concerned about your partner’s thoughts, goals, and daily life. You want them to grow into their best self, and you’re not obsessed with what you think they should be.

Curiosity is also a sign that you’re willing to reflect or talk over changes to your relationship structure if certain aspects become less rewarding.

It also means realism because you see your partner for who it is, and you do not have an idealized version of it.

Other vital signs of healthy relationships include prioritizing spending time together and recognizing the need for personal space on your own.

You don’t need to occupy every moment together or believe your relationship suffers when you spend some time without your partner.

And when you are together, It’s essential to make time for fun and spontaneity. If you can joke and tease together, that’s a good sign.

In short, you have each other’s back. You know you can go to your loved one when you’re struggling. And you’re always available to offer support when needed. If you are able to talk about your differences politely, reasonably, and with respect, without judgment or contempt, you will always find a compromise or a solution.

Last but not least, if you are wondering about the healthy state of your relationships, look at the Intimacy you have with your partner. Intimacy is not always referred to sex.

Not everyone enjoys or wants sex. However, your relationship can still be healthy without it, as long as you’re both on the same idea.

If neither of you is interested in sex, physical Intimacy might be expressed as kissing, hugging, cuddling, and just sleeping together.

All these characteristics contribute in different proportions to form a healthy, stable, and good relationship with your partner. It is essential to understand that the anxiety you feel in a relationship that does not work well is often the consequence of the ignorance of the mechanisms that rule the conditions mentioned above.

Not knowing how to behave or manage your emotions properly is often the basis of conflicts that in a couple can only worsen to the point of making coexistence impossible.

To better understand others, it is essential first to be able to understand ourselves and our needs.

The purpose of this book is to give a practical definition to those natural behaviors that we have all experienced at least once but consciously have not often been able to explain.

It is no coincidence that the first part of this book is dedicated to knowing ourselves better, how our social behaviors work, how we create the character and personality of an individual, and what it means to be mentally and emotionally healthy.

Then we will try to explain how people get attached, how we attract each other, and why we experience certain sensations when we find the right one.

Finally, we will explain the causes of the most common evil of a relationship: anxiety. The second part of this book is devoted to the psychological and physical origins of anxiety, what it is, and why men suffer from it.

The skills presented here have helped me immensely, both in my personal life and in my professional career, and I am very confident that they will help you improve the quality of your life and the life of your loved ones.

I hope you enjoy reading this book and use what you learn to take your relationships to a whole new level of satisfaction and success.

All the best.

SARAH FOREMAN

Part 1:

Understanding ourselves to understand others

In the later chapters, we will give a precise definition of anxiety and the mechanisms that cause it. However, to understand how relationships can trigger exaggerated anxiety and panic reactions, we must first understand ourselves, how our character and personality are formed, and our primary needs. In most cases, the misunderstandings based on these factors dictate the basis for all the couple's problems.

The pattern of human development is equally universal and permanent; universal because all people, regardless of race, belief, or culture, develop the exact basic needs, and permanent because once one has progressed from one stage to another, he cannot, naturally, return to the previous stage.

Human development involves all processes of change from conception through old age, both in the body and in one’s behavior. A meaningful understanding of human development, then, requires the study of basic human needs.

The primary physiological needs or wants include satisfying hunger and thirst, self-preservation, the satisfaction of sexual desire, growth, and activity.

These needs must be satisfied at

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