Relationship Red Flags

By Chiemezie Ofodum

Relationships and marriages do not fail suddenly. There are always root causes as well as pointers to those causes. Many people are unfortunately oblivious to this and end up with multiple heartbreaks. This book is a simple point-by-point unveiling of both the subtle and obvious signs that a relationship is not meant to be between two people, or that it is fast-headed for the rocks. It is easy to read and very relatable.

• Language: English
• Publisher: COMMUNE WRITERS INT'L
• Release date: Nov 25, 2022
• ISBN: 9791222027418

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RELATIONSHIP

RED FLAGS

How to avoid ‘Breakfast’ in your Relationship

CHIEMEZIE OFODUM

RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS

WRITTEN BY

CHIEMEZIE OFODUM

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COPYRIGHT (C) 2022

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Published by:

COMMUNE WRITERS INT’L

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Published in the Federal Republic of Nigeria

CONTENTS

Dedication

Acknowledgement

Introduction

Chapter 1

Flags and Colors

Chapter 2

Reasons people don’t recognize red flags

Chapter 3

Red Flags in a man

Chapter 4

Red Flags in a lady

Chapter 5

Other red flags which apply to both genders

Chapter 6

A call to experience love

About the Author

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to God, the giver of wisdom and grace to express his thoughts impressed in my heart.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

James 1:5 (NIV)

I acknowledge those who have nurtured my coaching journey: my dear parents Rev. & Dness. Azuka & Ndy Ofodum, Rev. Osas Obarisiagbon, Rev. Craig Omorotionmwan, Coach Samuel Obafemi, Dr. Kingsley Okonkwo, Mr. Praise Fowowe, Dr. Lanre Olusola, Pastor Bisi Adewale, Pastor Emmanuel Ogbonnaya and my dear wife Annette and Ian our sweet boy for your love and being such great support system.

INTRODUCTION

A popular chorus by the award-winning Nigerian sensation, Burna Boy says:

‘…E don cast

Last, last

Na everybody go chop breakfast (na everybody go chop breakfast)

Have to say bye-bye, oh

Bye-bye, oh

To the love of my life…’

The concept of ‘breakfast’ simply refers to the termination of a relationship. Usually, the person who initiates the end of the relationship is the ‘server’ while the person on the receiving side is the ‘served’. So, when is person is ‘served breakfast’ it means their partner has broken up with them. Whether you’re the server or the served, no one really wants ‘breakfast’ because of the emotional devastation it could cause. I think the fear of breakfast should be the beginning of relationship wisdom. There are always signs that show negative tendencies in people or attributes that make them incompatible. Learning to identify these signs can save people from ‘breakfast’.

In one of my closed group sessions where we focus on healing from heartbreaks, Michael, a young banker shared the story of how the lady he dated for about eight months suddenly started acting funny, distancing herself from him. After a week of being unable to reach her, he contacted their mutual friend who was her colleague at that time. The friend told him that she had gotten married the previous week and had relocated to the UK with her husband. He was devastated because they had started having conversations about marriage and she didn’t show any sign of objection.

Another lady in my group called Sonia also shared her story. She is a self-employed e-marketing enthusiast. Emmanuel, her former boyfriend of three years kept avoiding marriage conversations. When she asked him to set a date to meet her family, he told her he had plans to travel abroad the following year for his PhD and that he would think of marriage afterwards. She couldn’t believe her ears. Where was this coming from? He had never