Maximizing Singleness

By Chiemezie Ofodum

This book keeps it real in addressing the anxiety many have with being single. They perceive singleness as something negative and this belief robs them of the true meaning and blessings of being single. Here, we explain what singleness really means by eradicating those wrong concepts and beliefs about it and going on to expound scriptural perspective on singleness, why it is important and how to get the most out of this very important stage of life. This book gives insight, purpose, strength and excitement to go through singleness in grand style, enjoying all of God’s wonderful blessings for your life and defeating all those negative voices both within and without.

• Language: English
• Publisher: COMMUNE WRITERS INT'L
• Release date: Feb 21, 2023
• ISBN: 9791222068244

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MAXIMIZING

SINGLENESS

CHIEMEZIE OFODUM

MAXIMIZING SINGLENESS

WRITTEN BY

CHIEMEZIE OFODUM

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COPYRIGHT (C) 2023

ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without written permission from the author or publisher.

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COMMUNE WRITERS INT’L

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Published in the Federal Republic of Nigeria

CONTENTS

Dedication

Acknowledgement

Introduction

Chapter 1

What singleness is not

Chapter 2

What singleness really is

Chapter 3

Some marriage shockers for newly weds

Chapter 4

A biblical perspective of singleness

Chapter 5

Qualities of the vey first single

Chapter 6

How to maximize and enjoy your singleness

Chapter 7

A call to experience love

About the Author

DEDICATION

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. - James 1:5 (NIV)

This book is dedicated to God, the giver of wisdom and grace to express his thoughts impressed in my heart.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

I specially acknowledge those who have nurtured my coaching journey: my dear parents Rev. & Dness. Azuka & Ndy Ofodum, Rev. Osas Obarisiagbon, Rev. Craig Omorotionmwan, Pst. Emmanuel Ogbonnaya, Coach Samuel Obafemi, Dr. Kingsley Okonkwo, Mr. Praise Fowowe, Dr. Lanre Olusola, Pastor Adebisi Adewale. I also want to specially appreciate Rev. Ifoghale Efeturi for his priceless contribution to this project. Lastly, my dear wife Annette and Ian our sweet boy for your love and being such great support system.

INTRODUCTION

I am sure you will agree with me that while there are so many books, messages and events about relationships and the issues that bother around relationships and marriages, there are not so many materials and events about singleness and the issues that bother around being single.

The reason for this is not far-fetched. Generally, singleness is not seen as a good phenomenon, but in creation, God demonstrated to us how important singleness is by making Adam alone first, before later introducing Eve his wife. God is a God of order and does everything in order of priority. It is the same principle he applied in creating the earth and vegetation first before creating the terrestrial animals, and ensuring everything was set before creating man, such that after Adam, he rested and since then, creation has been happening on ‘auto-pilot’, according to God’s perpetual decree, with man inventing and innovating every day. God did not start out by making Adam and Eve at the same time but made Adam first to teach a very important principle to man. We are not told exactly how long Adam was single, but we know he was single. There are things Adam needed to know and do before Eve came. This is why God made him single first.

Sadly, nowadays, there is hardly anybody that likes to be single. One way you can see this play out is in the way many people talk about being single. They talk about singleness as though it is something to detest. You will often hear things like All I just desire right now is to get married, or the only thing that will make me happy right now is if I can get married. Some will say I’m almost 30 and not married, Why am I still single? In some cases, these questions are used to harass those who are single. It can be so frustrating that sometimes, you will hear this response from those who are single abeg na single I single, I no kill person, meaning, I did not commit any crime by being single, so leave me alone. From their reply, you will know they are not happy about being single or being harassed about it, and just want to be left alone. 

Below are major reasons people feel bad about being single:

Personal Expectations: Everybody has expectations and plans and when such expectations and plans are not being met, there is a tendency to feel bad or discouraged. Probably you desired to be married at a certain age, but you have either reached or passed that age and it doesn’t seem like there is any hope in sight for you to get married. The question is why exactly did you want to get married at that age? Is it because your parents got married at that age? Or because many of your friends or people you know are getting married at that age? Or is it because many books you’ve read or movies you have watched always seem to portray people getting married at that age? Or because you have attached some level of progress in life to being married at that age? Answering this question for yourself is very important.

Family Expectations: The pressure from family can also be