What Makes a Woman Beautiful?

By Amarachi Ruth

"What Makes A Woman Beautiful?

Is a book about the unique, powerful, extraordinary, and profound nature of women. Without a woman, they will be no human being on earth. Her humility, love, and submissiveness to her husband also affects her husband and children in a negative or positive way. That can uplift or crumble a family.

In a culture that lays great emphasis on a woman's beauty, sexual attraction, money, etc., this book delves deeper into the significant thing that sustains relationship and marriages, and what actually makes a woman beautiful. Anything can crush and destroy beauty, sexual attraction diminishes after a while, and money doesn't last forever.

This book also lays great emphasis on the need to get to know and understand who you are having relationship with. Don't delve into sex immediately you meet a man or a woman; don't be carried away by their beauty or handsomeness; don't be carried away by their money. Sooner or later, these things will collapse and fade off. Try to understand who you are having relationship with in a deeper way: how do they think, do you bond on crucial things in life, do you share many things in common, are they kind or hard heated. Get to know as much as you can to make wise and solid decision, not based on sexual attraction, money, or beauty, etc.

The Scripture says:

"Beauty is vain, favor is deceitful, but a woman that feareth the Lord shall be praised."

Igbo culture in Nigeria says:

"Agwa bu mma"

Meaning character is beauty. A woman that feareth the Lord is the glory of the husband.

A woman can be so beautiful, and men will run away from her due to her character. A woman who submits to her husband in humility as God commands her lifts the man up in a rare way to fulfill his destiny: and children will grow to perpetuate great family heritage. The woman can't insult her husband, and humiliate him, even if you are more talented: neither should the man abuse, dominate and insult the wife. The Scripture warns:

"Husbands love your wives as God loves the church. "
It is God's deep love, mercy, and great compassion that keeps and sustains our world, despite our wickedness and disobedience to God. Should men love their wives as God loves the church, It will be a beautiful world.

"What Makes A Woman Beautiful has received powerful review, and many women got so excited about the book. It is a rare book that uplifts culture, history, and intellectual curiosity and property; compared to many books written today without purpose, and immediately they are published, they die because they have no plausibility and upliftment.

This book will enrich a woman's outlook to relationship and marriage: that her ability to take her responsibility in a marriage relationship can destroy communities, societies and the world. In our American culture today, women are gone: they are all in the offices; the men are all in the offices. Nobody cares about the children. They live their lives on TV emulating and learning all kinds of wicked things. It is the power of women abandoning the home. Women have enormous power in the world.

Women have great capacity and immense power to change their societies through their humble submission to God's command and obedience to their husbands.

"What Makes A Woman Beautiful?" is all about character. This book discusses if there is actually an ugly woman, the most beautiful women in the world, and the aging process of women, and how they can prepare for their aging process.

It is a powerful book for a woman to read. It is a book rare, informative, and can change your life for good as a woman.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Aug 12, 2022
• ISBN: 9780970116659

Book preview

Chapter 1

The Woman Who Is She?

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After the creation of the world, God realized the man should not be alone: he needed a helpmeet for him. God caused a deep sleep on Adam, and as he slept, God took one of Adam’s ribs and created the woman. Adam acknowledged and recognized the significance of the woman: that she was a part of him, and called her woman. That was the first mention of the woman in the Scriptures. Genesis 2:23

And the Lord said, it is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him a help meet for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept, and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from the man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she was taken out of the man. Genesis 2: 18, 21-23

The woman who is she?

•    The woman was created from Adam’s rib to complete him.

•    A man bonds deep with his wife, not his mother or father.

•    A woman is special and created with a destined purpose.

•    She was taken from Adam’s rib to create her: she is part of Adam to complete him.

•    Adam recognizes this deep mystery and concludes: she is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.

•    How does Adam react to all these creative and challenging creations of God?

1    He leaves his parents

2    Bonds with his wife

3    They become one

4    They are not ashamed of each other

5    This is because the woman is part of him

6    A man longs for a woman whom he can bond with, who understands and wants to be a part of what he does in his life.

The Lord God who is the creator of all things, and without Him was nothing made that was made, knew the man needed a helpmeet for him; He then created the woman. That is a definite and defined mission for the woman. Now, let us critically analyze what this helpmeet signifies.

Many have written so much about what helpmeet means, but what did God have in mind when He created the woman? As I prayed and pondered about the word help meet, the word that came to my mind was complete. God made the woman to complete the man. The rib of the man was taken to create the woman. The man was made complete by the creation of the woman, and Adam recognized that the woman was a strong integral part of him.

Then I began to look for the meaning of complete. The Greek word for complete is: epiteleo meaning to complete; sunteleo, meaning to end together in finishing a work; in making a new covenant; plerophoreo meaning fully assured, translated complete.

The dictionary meaning for complete is:

•    Entire

•    Whole

•    Integral

•    Undivided

•    Unbroken

•    Completion: perfecting, improving, developing, etc.

God created the woman for a definite purpose, to complete the man whose rib was created to make the woman. In doing so, the woman enters into a new covenant of been a strong integral entity of the man, to help him in any shape or form. This is beyond human comprehension. When the man finally finds a woman, who qualifies for this position, he leaves his parents to bond with his wife. This is a union perfecting, developing and improving, but unbroken because the two emerged are one body.

This is the greatest union God made in life – marriage between a man and a woman. When people are one, the symbolism is unity. They do things not in strife or divisiveness, but in bond of undivided unity. That means they would be no division that others will find in the union that would dissolve it. Though there is a warning: What God has joined together, let no man put asunder. But if this union is what it is meant to be, unified and unbroken, it will be hard for anyone to destroy it.

The woman, who is she? What makes her beautiful?

She is destined to play a role of completion of the man: helping in growth and development, helping to improve him in any way, and perfecting him in any way possible she sees fit; so she can make him whole and complete. She completes him mentally, spiritually, emotionally, sexually, intellectually, etc. Her husband’s entity and wholeness is her destined desire for accomplishment and fulfillment. When she fulfills her role to make her husband complete, that makes her beautiful.

CHAPTER 2

Her Upbringing Is Crucial to Her Destined Role

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The way a woman is raised helps her fulfill her destined role as a woman in life: in her family, community, and the world; whether it is in the arena of marriage or not. In the African culture, the woman growing up was carefully groomed: she was taught values of respect to those who are her seniors; she was taught how to cook; how to take care of the home; how to read and write intellectually; and groomed on how to treat a future husband with respect and humility. I knew all these things when I was young. Some will argue Africa is a part of the world where women are still enslaved by men.

Let me tell you, that is not true! It is a stereotyped image and ploy about Africa designed politically to enrich and make the place look foolish and incompetent. Long before the coming of the whites in the continent of Africa, Africans had built empires and reigned as kings. Women were never subdued in African culture, but were strong integral part of the family and deeply respected. Teaching women and grooming women for life and marriage were important, because they have a role to play in life; and that role is crucial for human survival. The Africans poignantly understood that and deeply appreciated and honored the woman. The African parents saw that need and prepared their daughters, not only the needs of her family, but of the community and the world.

What makes a woman beautiful?

Her upbringing is crucial to the role she performs in her family, community, and the world. She must be taught she is special, beautiful, loved, and born for a purpose as a woman. There are still many nations of the world who think women are inferior to men: will not educate them, even when they are doing the same job like in America; women are not given the same salary. America is still trying to elect the first woman president, while many nations of the world have women presidents, including Africa that is ridiculed has a woman president. The pope is still struggling to ordain women as priests or ministers of God, and many other churches.

The envious and superior vision by men over women include inability to groom her properly, or teach and nurture her in her early upbringing, impedes the role she performs: in her family, world, and the community. There is a great need to prepare the woman for her great role in life. Why? Because:

•    She completes the man and becomes integral wholesome part of him.

•    She is going to bear his children.

•    She is going to nurture his children.

•    She is going to keep him company – his companion.

•    She is going to keep his home.

•    She is going to meet his needs: intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, etc.

•    She also has a role to play outside the home: community, and the world.

How can the woman do all these functions if she is not prepared to do it?

There is a vital need for significant preparation in the early upbringing of the woman, that enables her perform the unique role ordained for her by God in life.

1    She must be taught she is loved:

Dorothy Corkille Briggs, author of: Your Child’s Self Esteem, says this:

It is a child’s feeling about being loved or unloved that affects how he, or she will develop.

The greatest gift to bequeath a child in life is to teach and nurture that the child is loved. Spend time teaching and communicating that by touch, smiling, holding her, playing, reading, etc. Take her out and play with her. Teach and nurture intellectually. Take her to the Library. I feel joyful when I see little ones in the library touching and feeling books; most importantly, parents reading to them. Don’t delegate your child to someone else in the first five years of the child. If you have to work, do few hours and come back home: and monitor what is happening to your child.

Do everything to communicate that the child – he or she is loved. Spend quality time teaching, nurturing and infusing words of love, verbally and practically. These years are the most critical for child development. Those are the years when they are shaped to be who they will be in life, not in their teens.

It is a child’s feeling of being loved or not that affects how he or she develops like Briggs said. If she feels early in life she is not loved, it colors her outlook to life; and destroys her chances of fulfilling her unique destiny in life! If she feels loved, her world of fulfillment and excellence is limitless.

The Ibos in Nigerian culture name their children Nwakaego, meaning a child is greater than money. Children are deeply loved and appreciated in Ibo culture in Nigeria: whether that child is beautiful, ugly or handicapped. The way we are loved and raised enables us to wither the storms of rejection, bias and racism in Western Nations. Ibos do not feel inferior to anybody, but hold their heads high in a dignified manner because we feel loved and accepted; something infused and inculcated into us when we were very young. That makes us feel wonderful about ourselves, and you can’t succeed in making an Ibo person feel otherwise. Our parents will do everything to make sure we are loved and educated.

Self-image or low-image problems are rampant in our society in America: kids not knowing who they are, because parents were never there to communicate this great essential trait in raising a child. Daycare centers, or the nanny taking care of your child may not care or understand anything about children; may be there just to make money; and thinks she has done her official duty; and the rest of the job is for parents who are not interested in what is happening to their children. If this little girl develops self-image problems, how can she be able to perform her destined role she was created for?

When she grows up and feels she is loved, she can conquer the world; and can overcome any obstacle on her way. She will feel proud of herself and nobody who is trying to put her down as: inferior, or she looks different, or talks differently, or she is ugly, fat, unintelligent, or otherwise will not affect her at all. She will be fully prepared for her role destined for her by God – black or white child.

Says Dorothy Briggs again:

The opposite of love is not hate as many believe, but rather indifference. Nothing communicates more clearly than distancing. A child cannot feel valued by parents who are forever absorbed in their affairs. Distancing makes children feel unloved. No matter how we slice it, doses of genuine encounter pound home a vital message. Direct personal involvement says, ‘it is important for me to be with you. On the receiving end, the child concludes I must matter because my folk take time to be involved with my person.

That is how bonding is established. It is being there for them when your children need you as parents, not abandoning them.

She must be disciplined:

Haim Ginott, author of A Book For Parents & Teachers says:

Whatever generates hate must be avoided, whatever creates self-esteem must be fostered in discipline.

Ginott is talking about discipline.

Nancy Moore Thurmond: author of Happy Mother, Happy Child says this:

Discipline means different things to different people. Some parents see discipline as a corporal punishment; the tongue - lashing, the bottom trashing, no TV approach to a childish crime. For some, discipline is the only way to get the brat to shut up. Other parents myself see discipline as an essential means to training and guidance.

One of my poems reads:

Teaching children:

Children are like a wild cat

When they are born

The wild biting

The wild kicking

The unruly nature

The unruly behavior

then

You begin

The values

The values that shape

The values that mold

Which when rejected

Which when ignored

Creates the mind

That rises or falls

At the end of time

Children are born wild. Then you begin to train them; you begin to mold and shape them; and you begin to direct them the way they need to go that fulfills their destinies in life. Discipline is not to destroy your child and create fear in them. Then they begin to fear you as a mother or father. Then they become timid. You begin to feel because you are totally in control of them, you can treat them any how - crush and abuse them. That is not true and right before God.

Discipline is to correct gently and guide them when they are doing something wrong, or are not listening. You must be consistent in discipline. If you are not at home, how can you consistently discipline your child? Some parents leave the home 6 am, come back at night 6 pm when the child is getting ready to go to bed. Some parents leave when the child is still sleeping, and back when the child is gone to bed. On weekends, parents are gone too.

When do you teach and nurture your child, let alone discipline the child, which takes time and consistency? The one caring for your child, you don’t know the kind of discipline they are measuring or rendering to them behind your back. You don’t know what they are been taught. Discipline takes time and so vital for children! Children cannot be allowed to think they can do just whatever they want to do. If you do that, you set them up for failure in life.

Teach and nurture morally:

Whatever a child is going to be starts when they are young. If they are going to be morally sound and respectful, you start that when they are young to teach and educate. More importantly too, they will watch how parents treat and respect each other and will copy what they see. It is not enough just to teach, but teach by example. If you don’t want your child to lie, don’t lie; if you don’t want your child to steal, don’t steal. If you want your child to be respectful to others, be respectful and the child will emulate you. Children absorb values like sponge. They copy so fast what you are doing, and you don’t know they are watching you. Take time to teach, nurture and guide the child. You are sowing a seed for that child’s destiny.

Teach and nurture intellectually:

When I was a nanny in California, I spent time teaching children: ABC and 123, taking them to the zoo, libraries, anything that stimulates their intellectual curiosity. That was how I was raised. It all started when I was a little girl. My family members are well read and highly educated. They channeled me into reading. I was always reading all throughout my teen life. I am a writer now with my own publishing company by God’s grace. These things are developed when the child is young, and parents must create time: to groom, nurture and prepare the woman for her destined role in life.

Teach how to cook, do laundry and all the house-work routine:

As your daughter begins to grow, and can help in the house: teach her how to cook, do laundry, clean the home, or anything that needs to be done in the home. In Ibo culture in Nigeria, the first thing parents spend time to do is teach their daughters how to cook immediately they can learn that: it does not matter whether parents are rich