Manage Your Man

By Dr. Hazel Hill

Manage Your Man is a God ordained book, published at a kairos moment in time. When all hell is unleashed against the family and the world’s views try to squeeze us into their mold, a voice needs to be heard throughout the church, “Come up Higher!” This book is good for the married and the single; male and female. There is something for everyone to learn in the pages of this action packed book. And so, I have written this book to help both men and women live the God kind of life to the fullest. The word wise in the Vine’s Dictionary means: a mastery of the art of living in accordance with God’s expectation. I encourage you to pray and ask the Lord for wisdom and understanding as you read this book, because wisdom without understanding is lost or stolen by the enemy of your soul.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Dr. Hazel Hill
• Release date: Jul 19, 2017
• ISBN: 9780920567722

Dr. Hazel Hill

Since their humble beginnings in Lethbridge in 1979, Dr. George and Dr. Hazel Hill, have birthed a worldwide network of churches, Bible colleges, ministry training and outreach centers, orphanages, women and children’s shelters, rescuing children from the sex trade in Cambodia as well as many other missionary endeavors.She is the author of the best selling book Praying God’s Word. Her heart is to minister to leadership and to see women reach their destiny all over the world.Dr. Hazel has been at the forefront of everything that the Lord has done in these past 3 decades. One thing is for sure - no grass will ever grow under Dr. Hazel’s feet. If she’s not leading a mission team somewhere, writing another book, speaking at a conference or encouraging one of the pastors, she’ll be posting something on Facebook.She has been heard to say, that she would “Die with her boots on”. Her tenacity, strength and vision have fueled an ever evolving movement. Through all the years of trial and triumph, her prophetic accuracy has strategically brought direction to this worldwide organization and to the thousands of lives and ministries joined to it.One of the mandates of her missions program exemplifies her courageous pioneering spirit:We will not just hand out fruit but we will plant as many trees as is possible in every nation through the planting of church-planting churches. Every tree has a limit to its potential growth but a forest has no limit as to how large it can grow!Hellen Keller once said: “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”.

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Manage Your Man

Keep Love, Sex & Romance Alive in Your Marriage

By Dr. Hazel Hill

Victory International Publishing

Manage Your Man

by Dr. Hazel Hill

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Contents

Dedication

Acknowledgements

Introduction

Chapter 1 – How do we See Each Other?

Chapter 2 – Deal or no Deal

Chapter 3 - Ch…Ch…Change

Chapter 4 – Heaven on Earth

Chapter 5 - The Difference Between Submission and Suppression

Chapter 6 - Forever Friends and Lovers

Chapter 7 - Can Love that is Lost be Restored?

Chapter 8 - Intimacy

Chapter 9 – For the Man Well Managed (Her Needs)

Chapter 10 – What Motivates Your Man (His Needs)

Chapter 11 – Roles and Responsibilities

Chapter 12 – Let’s Talk—Face to Face

Chapter 13 – Life’s Priorities

Note from the Author

Prayer of Salvation

Notes

About the Author & the Victory Movement

Books by Drs. George and Hazel Hill

Dedication

I dedicate this book to my husband who, with the Lord’s help, has made me the woman I am today. He has allowed me the freedom to change and to find my place beside him. His patience and loving kindness has helped me to know how to Manage My Man.

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Acknowledgements

Many thanks to:

Pastor Dale Makka, New Covenant Fellowship, Durban, South Africa. — for layout, editing and book cover.

Pastor Gary Wondercheck, California Victory Church — for editing.

Candace Todd, VCUSA’s Executive Secretary — for help and support in gathering materials and proof reading.

Dr. George Hill, Founder of Victory Churches International, Encourager and Advisor — for contributions to the book and support in completing the project.

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Introduction

MANAGE YOUR MAN: HOW IT ALL BEGAN.....

Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established; By knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.— Proverbs 24:3-4

I was on my way to Ohio to do leadership training and church services when it came to me that I should write a book called ‘Manage Your Man.’ Some of you are thinking, Are we supposed to manage our man? Others of you are thinking, What man? No worries, we will get to all of that soon enough.

Manage Your Man is a God ordained book, published at a kairos moment in time. When all hell is unleashed against the family and the world’s views try to squeeze us into their mold, a voice needs to be heard throughout the church, Come up Higher!

There are two kingdoms and each kingdom has a different culture and standard to live by. Colossians 1:13 tells us that He has delivered us from the power of darkness and conveyed us into the kingdom of the Son of His love. Romans 12:1-2 plainly directs us to not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. This world or cosmos, is an organized system under the control of the devil leaving God and Christ out. We are to live on a higher level, with a different set of Kingdom rules administered by God and Christ.

This book is good for the married and the single; male and female. There is something for everyone to learn in the pages of this action packed book. And so, I have written this book to help both men and women live the God kind of life to the fullest. Living above only, and never beneath. Living life at the top!

Singles are what I call unclaimed treasures and it would be good to learn the lessons in this book even before marriage, so wiser choices can be made earlier in life. Had I known the truths revealed here in this book in the early years of my life, I believe things would have been a lot easier.

Mothers and fathers would do well to teach these truths to their sons and daughters at a young age as well as model them before their children. As children we learn the three ‘Rs’—Reading, wRiting and aRithmetic—but are not taught the most important lessons on marriage and the family. Those who came from good godly families had it modeled for them, but the rest of us had to learn the hard way. Let’s make it easier on our children. There are generational blessings for those who bring their household up in the way of the Lord.

For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the Lord, to do righteousness and justice, that the Lord may bring to Abraham what he has spoken to him. — Genesis 18:19

Let’s pass on the generational blessings and not the generational curses. Let’s save the children from many of the mistakes we may have experienced.

In Proverbs 31 you see the wisdom of a mother taught to her son before he marries. This mother passed on godly wisdom to her son so that he might not make unnecessary mistakes. She shows him the kind of king he should be; the kind of woman he should marry and the family life he would have if he obeyed his mother’s counsel. On the other hand this Proverb reveals to women the kind of person she should strive to become.

Wisdom is the principle thing: Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding. — Proverbs 4:7

The word wise in the Vine’s Dictionary means: a mastery of the art of living in accordance with God’s expectation. I encourage you to pray and ask the Lord for wisdom and understanding as you read this book, because wisdom without understanding is lost or stolen by the enemy of your soul.

When anyone hears the Word of the Kingdom and does not understand it, then the wicked one comes and snatches away what was sown in his heart... — Matthew 13:19

If you want to relate on a deeper level with your man and help him to be his very best, then this is the book for you. Learn his deepest needs and help him learn yours, so you can connect on every level and live a fulfilled life together. The reward at the end, if wisdom is received and understood, is a marriage and family like Heaven on Earth.

Blessings Over and Above!

Dr. Hazel Hill

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us. — Ephesians 3:20

Proverbs 24:3-4

Through wisdom a house is built,

And by understanding it is established;

By knowledge the rooms are filled

With all precious and pleasant riches.

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Chapter 1

How do we See Each Other?

I will praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well. — Psalm 139:14

A man, when he is drawn to a woman, judges by a completely different set of rules than a woman. Women are drawn to artistic beauty like the shape of a man, his eyes, lips, nose; the artistic clothes; the cleverness of his personality; his intellect and poise. But a man is endeared to a woman who is feminine, strong, capable and intelligent, not silly or brazen, but childlike at times with a sparkle in the eye and playful smile, freshness, sweetness and kindness. He is attracted to a woman who is not needy, but needs him and seems to understand him; a woman who makes him feel like King Kong!

When I was young and very much unsaved it was the outward appearance of a man that attracted me to my husband George. This is very natural for a woman to be attracted by good looks.

It was his hair that fell playfully over his forehead, the eyes that had a language of their own. It was his build, his smile that revealed white sparkling teeth and even his boyish walk and the way his arms hung down by his side that drew me to him at first glance. In fact it was my husband’s smile that first caught my eye as he sauntered across the dance floor of the Black Knight night club to ask me to dance. The