The Spectrum of Love
Tears hit my cheeks in short sharp burning fragments like shrapnel, and I reel from what feels like the shock of a blow to the head. The pain churns my insides, my fists clenching as I buckle over. Urgh. My period is coming. Perhaps I was being a PMSing bitch to my girlfriend last week after all. My heart aches. This time it feels like it’s over.
According to research from Dr Gary Gates, Research Director at UCLA’s Williams Institute, same-sex couples are twice as likely to be in interracial relationships than different-sex ones. I guess this makes sense. The pool for us queers is smaller and we tend to gravitate towards cities that are more ethnically diverse by nature. But how are we navigating this space of multiple intersections as queer people and what support is available to help us? As someone that has dated people of different ethnicities, I am keen to know.
I was once married and put a large part of my marriage not lasting down to cultural differences. My ex-wife is white English, liberal and upper middle class. I’m from a very traditional Indian working class family. I was told I would be disowned if I married her. I chose the potential for a loving future over a traumatic past. But I found myself
