29 Keys to Parenting and Win!: Helping Your Children to . . . Stay out of Trouble . . . Excel in School . . . and Become Amazing Adults!!

By Lorene Phillips and A W Eugene Phillips

I always knew I wanted to be a parent, but I was uncertain of whether I would be any good at it. It was not an overwhelming fear, but it was most certainly a concern.

My own childhood was riddled with much dysfunctionality: generous helpings of abandonment, lack of validation, and rejection with one transition after the next. Stability and normalcy were a distant dream, and surviving was the driving force. Blessed with smarts, great people skills, and athletic abilities, I was able to overcompensate for these obvious failings and succeed.

My relationship with God was by far the only part of my life that was true and sure. When you have not been parented in a healthy way, only encountering snippets of knowledge from various adults who popped in and out of your life as parents, it became very clear that I had no idea about the quality of parenting I would adopt in my own life. Should I be blessed to be a mother? Would I be better than what was modeled before me? Or would I be worse?

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Jan 9, 2018
• ISBN: 9781546282075

Lorene Phillips

Lorene has a successful international underwriting career in the Re/insurance industry for over 2 decades and owns her own professional corporate coaching firm Clarendon Wallace. She is happily married for 23 years to her husband Eugene and they have 3 sons ages 16 years 22 years old. Lorene has held various leadership roles both within the church and in her professional corporate life that provides her with a platform for her to both mentor and coach many individuals. She is passionate about motivating and inspiring others to be the very best they can be. Lorene has a BA in Economics from Acadia University and is a Chartered Insurer with the Chartered Insurance Institute (UK) and is also a qualified Corporate and Personal coach with The Coaching Academy (UK). Eugene is passionate about people and values relationships as the key to success in business, leisure and life. Being the best that you can be within any relationship brings the best results in all areas. With this in mind, being a husband, father and friend is the ultimate priority for Eugene. A lover of music, Eugene is a vocal soloist, pastor and teacher. Eugene is a pro-active IT professional, Prince2 certified, with a proven record of planning, building, implementing and supporting a range of IT solutions that address business needs. Eugene holds a Bachelors Degree in Business Management, Computer Business Systems from Ryerson University.

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Published by AuthorHouse 01/08/2018

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Contents

Foreword:

Introduction

1     Obedience

2     Work Ethic

3     Friendships

4     Social Media/Internet

5     Money & Financial Responsibility

6     Manners

7     Intimacy With God

8     Authority

9     Courage And Resilience

10   Trying New Things

11   Choices

12   Investing Time

13   Prioritising Parenting

14   Sports And Other Activities

15   Helping Others

16   Respect

17   Manhood /Womanhood

18   Modeling

19   Relationships

20   Communication

21   Identity

22   God’s Sovereignty

23   Boundaries & Discipline

24   Healthy Lifestyle

25   Integrity

26   Faith

27   Jesus

28   Worldview

29   Prayer

Foreword:

Good parents want their kids to stay out of trouble, do well in school, and go on and do awesome things as an adult… (Rachel Gillett and Drake Baer article, April 15, 2017).

Psychological research has confirmed what I think we already know: much of our children’s success is based on a few things we need to do as parents. Yes, the buck stops with us as parents.

This book will serve as a reminder to parents that the quality of our children’s upbringing is our primary responsibility. While other assistance can be provided through the school, the church or the community, the ultimate responsibility rests with us as parents to raise our children - period. We simply must do whatever we need to do in order to equip our children with the skills and values that enable them to win in life.

In the spirit of transparency, we have asked our 3 boys (Aaron – 22 year old, university graduate and intern at a financial services company, aka Mr. Creative guy’, Brandon – our 18 year old middle son, athletic and aka ‘Mr. Cool guy’, and Connor - the baby of the family, 16 year old business minded entrepreneur, aka ‘Mr. Confident’ guy) to share with you their responses to 3 questions that you will undoubtedly find relatable.

1. What does good parenting look like for you?

A – A mutual relationship shared based on: respect, unconditional love, encouragement and the surety that you’ll always be in an undoubtedly nurturing/safe environment.

B – Someone who is always there for their child when they need them the most.

C – When there is a good relationship they can be strict when appropriate and playful and share a laugh as well.

2. What one thing would you like your parents to do more of?

A – I know my parents have my best interest at heart always, but I wish my parents would let me express myself fully before correcting me/providing their wisdom or insight. I know it’s based on love, but it can come off as discouraging from the child’s point of view.

B – Be more