Single and Apparent

By Benita Hornsby Jasper

>A no nonsense, well written go to guide pertaining to the basic fundamentals of parenthood! This is an excellent resource tool not only for expectant or new parents, but in particular, professionals working in the field of social work or family studies. Written in clear presentation and format, this transcultural self help book is a must read for any professional working with varied demographics, with an emphasis on young, new, or expecting parents.

The author takes an insightful, compelling, and practical approach to parental empowerment.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: May 15, 2014
• ISBN: 9781491802571

Benita Hornsby Jasper

>As a single mother of one, Benitas rich work experience included a career as a flight attendant, which she absolutely loved, make-up artistry, and insurance. Believing in the importance of education, she continued her education in the field of social work while raising her son. Upon completion of her undergraduate degree in family life education, Benita contemplated law school and began studying for the LSAT. During that concentration she received information from her alma mater, Spring Arbor University, about a new graduate program being offered in family studies. Family life education is a relatively new field with a sole concentration on improving and strengthening the lives of individuals and families. Upon completion of her family studies concentration, she learned of various community organizations that focused on parent and relationship enrichment. As a result, she established an education-based consulting business (2Grow2Gether, LLC), resulting in partnerships with several community organizations. She found this work very enriching and quickly developed a passion for a particular small organization, formerly called Child and Family Resource Council, now, Family Futures, doing critical work with individuals and families. It was her combined experiences working with individuals and families through this organization that fueled her to write this book. Benita holds a master of arts degree from Spring Arbor University and is a certified family life educator through the National Council on Family Relations. Since her son successfully completed his undergraduate degree, Benita recently returned to the love of her career as a flight attendant. She serves as a mandatory reporter trainer for the state of Michigan and continues her love of education-based consulting when her schedule permits. For recreation, Benita is a short-distance runner and loves gym time. Benita and her son currently reside in Kentwood, Michigan.

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© 2014 Benita Hornsby Jasper, M.A.. All rights reserved.

No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.

Published by AuthorHouse 05/09/2014

ISBN: 978-1-4817-7911-1 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-4918-0257-1 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2013913236

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Contents

Prologue

Chapter 1: Single and ApParent

Chapter 2: The Home Environment You Create

Chapter 3: Did You Ever Want to be a Model? Well, You Are!

Chapter 4: Paying Attention and Molding Their Self-Esteem

Chapter 5: A Head Start with School and Learning

Chapter 6: The Importance of School Involvement

Chapter 7: The Debt Continues

Chapter 8: Boundaries: Drawing the Invisible Line

Chapter 9: Family Rituals and Practices

Chapter 10: How to Develop Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Chapter 11: Good Behavior/Bad Behavior

Chapter 12: Communicating with Your Child

Chapter 13: All Dressed Up

Chapter 14: Children Need Discipline, but What is Discipline?

Chapter 15: Family Planning

Chapter 16: The Other Parent

Afterword

Is your child ready for Kindergarten?

Notes

About The Author

Dedication

To my beloved mother and father, the late Denver C. Hornsby and the late Nellie Beasley Hornsby, who taught me love beyond imagination, dedication I could only grow to know, and dignity that words cannot fully express.

To my precious son Azizi, with whom I have had experiences that I could never imagine having without him.

To Bob and Noreen Griswold, who have extended a lifeline to me many times without realizing it.

To Ms. Dorothy Woods and Ms. Hester Woods, for being a safety net for me during the years I spent in my career as a flight attendant so that I could provide for my son.

To Ms. Barbara Tucker (B.J.), for being a surrogate mother and grandmother to me and my son.

To a special enduring friendship with my former spouse, Randy, the father of our child.

To my dear friend Cynthia Hudson and the times we held on together.

For the ongoing support of my dear friend Karen Peterson.

I am so thankful to the universe and to God for each of you.

To single mothers and fathers who are doing their best to be the best parents they know how to be.

To every teenager who is either expecting