Parenting Children into Wholeness: Strong, Lifelong Relationships with Your Children and Maximized Potential
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Strong, Lifelong Relationships with Your Children along with Maximizing their Potential is a result of intentional parenting.
Includes general parenting, single parenting, and advanced parenting. Focuses on raising great children, developing healthy and lasting relationships, and maximizing their potential. This brings fulfillment and wholeness in their lives, leaving you happy and fulfilled as a parent.
Ann Makena has written a parenting book that is an exceptional balance of practical or real world strategies coupled with the equally important areas of emotional and spiritual well-being of both the caregiver and the child. She has an innate ability to distill the complexities of parenting into easily digestible concepts. This book is a reflection of her own personal story: amazing. heroic. virtuous. (Dr.Zaccariello, Michael J., Ph.D., L.P.)
In Parenting Children into Wholeness, Ann Makena has given us a rare look into the vital role of parents. It is rare in two ways. First, it places parents back in the empowered role God intended parents to have in a childs life as adults who carefully shape and develop character in a healthy atmosphere of loving discipline. It is also rare in being both a wonderful primer for new moms and dads and a deeply thoughtful refresher that encourages veteran parents in their crucial role. Highly recommended reading! (Pastor Jim Anderson, Senior pastor Harbor church Hastings, & President of HNI)
Ann Makena has written a manual for parenting that reflects her faith, her experience as a mother and the lessons she has learned from listening to and counseling others. There are many wise reflections on the fundamental principles of parenting. These can create a lifelong relationship with the child. A parent can give their child the wherewithal to live as a confident adult, with a sense of direction and comfort in the decisions they need to make. It is emphasized that even when good parenting is acquired belatedly, there is still the capacity to make changes for the better. (Dr. Galen Breningstall, MD Neurologist)
Thank you to Ann Makena for sharing your advice, wisdom, and experience with us again. Ann depicts the realities of parenthood, such as Being a good parent takes a lot of work. She utilizes her life experiences, joys/challenges as a mother, and her religious background as a chaplain to provide a framework for parents to build relationships with their children. She even addresses the challenges parents can face in different walks of life, such as single parenthood and parenting a child with special needs. (Dr. Anna Milz, MD, MPH, Pediatrician)
Ann B. Makena
Ann B. Makena is a wife and a mother. She is an author and founder of Citys Heart Cry Ministries. She is ordained a minister. She is completing a M.A in Ministry leadership. She has M.A. of Theological studies, B/S in Psychology- counseling, B.A in Divinity and received clinical pastoral education. Previously Ann served 10 years as a full time Hospice chaplain providing spiritual support during end of life and their families.
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Parenting Children into Wholeness - Ann B. Makena
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DEDICATION
D ear God, the thought of you as my Father takes my breath away. Your character makes it clear what a parent should be like. Your love and sacrifice are unconditional. I have learned to trust you more with each passing day. I am in awe of you, Father. I am blessed to be your child. To my children, Sally and Nate, my prayer is that I am the best mother I can be for you, my lovely delight from God. My father, Joseph, and mother, Dorothy, you are my heroes. You are such wise parents. Because you didn’t write a parenting book, I write this book in your honor.
CONTENTS
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Part 1: Things to Keep in Mind
There Is No Perfect Parent
Parenting Is about Your Child’s Life
Dealing With Guilt
Your Wholeness Matters
A Few Years of Your Impact Will Last Your Children Their Lifetimes
Parent Child Relationship Lasts a Lifetime
Bitterness in Later Years
Maximizing your child’s potential
Things versus People
Raising a Talented Child—The Foundation Matters Greatly
What Is the Human Foundation?
Instead of isolating, insulate your children
Parental Blessings
Unity among Parents/Adults in the Home
Adult Family Dynamics and Relationships
Conflict resolution
Maintain self-respect with your children
Children Cope with Life as Well as Their Parents
The Earlier, the Better
Keep It Age- and Gender-Appropriate
When Change Is Needed
Loss and grief
Part 2: General Parenting—All Parents
Pray for Your Children
Intentional Foresight (Have a Vision)
Quantity and Quality of Time
Start from Day One
Demonstrate Love and Affection
Why Unconditional Love?
Faith
Nurture Uniqueness
Priority
Communication
Commitment
Being Intentional
Discipline
Discipline during Parenting
Decision-Making
Hard Work/Work Smart
Boundaries
Consistency
Stability
Being vs Doing
Teach Them Gratitude
Self-Education
Let Children Be Children
Be Patient
Train Your Children to Read
Advocating for Your Children
Nutrition
Healthy Touch
Be Intentional about Your Spiritual Home Environment
Being Aware of the Subconscious Mind
In Case of Adoption
During Separation or Divorce of Parents
Children in Abusive Homes
Part 3: Single Parenting
Acceptance
Let God Cleanse Your Heart
Take Individual Responsibility
Help Children Understand They Are Not to Blame for the Circumstances
Help Build Their Self-Worth
Keep Your Emotions in Check
Self-Care
Realize You Can’t Make Up for the Missing Parent
Set Standards for Your Life and Your Children
Develop Your Faith
When Finances Are Tight
Get Educated on the Missing Pieces
More Sacrifices and Harder Work
Shun Away Shame
Strong Boundaries
Teach Children Respect for the Other Parent
Part 4: Advanced Parenting
Acceptance of the Situation
Giving Up Control
Self-Care
Your marriage
All Our Children
Raising Our Child with Advanced Needs
Spiritual Development
Nurturing Emotional Development
Raising a Victor in Your child
Your Other Children/The Siblings of the Child with Advanced Needs
As the Parent/Guardian Caregiver
Having an Inner Awareness Is Helpful
Self-Educating
A Practice of Spiritual Alertness
Engaging in Spiritual Warfare
Developing Resilience
Develop in Discernment
Learn to Encourage Yourself
Forgiving Is Necessary
Being Okay with Personal Boundaries
Family and Other Important Relationships
Moments of Solitude
Exercise, Nutrition, and General Health
Journaling
Decide Never to Quit
Part 5: Conclusion
About the Author
PREFACE
P arenting is a commonly used term. The question is, how often do we seriously think about what good parenting means? Is it only about having children? What makes parenting successful? How do we define success? What about all relationships involved? Is commitment to parenting necessary, and what does that mean? Whose responsibility is it to parent our children, and what does that mean? Are our children the best that they can be? How do we influence their potential as parents?
This book inspires parents and those involved in raising children to take charge and make the best of their children as well as develop life long lasting relationships. Raising children is a lot of work and it is well worth it. The period for making an impact is very short compared to the rest of our children’s life. Having a strategy for your parenting and sticking to it makes the whole difference.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I am thankful to God for making me His child and for being my Father and the greatest parent I know. I am grateful He is in my life. His unconditional love has sustained me through my life, and His grace has been sufficient in times of need. It is because of His grace that I get to share the things I have learnt along the journey in various ways about parenting. I am in awe of God.
Thank you, Steve, my husband, and my friend. Your love and support has helped me be increasingly who God has called me to be. I thank you for your understanding through putting together my writing and bringing them to completion. I love you and appreciate who you are. I thank God for my children, Nate, and Sally. We have been through a lot together, and they have remained trusting of the process. I couldn’t ask for better children to be mine and to raise. I love you both, and I am thankful for the assignment God gave me when He placed you into my life to be your mother. I take you both very seriously. I am thankful for my parents Joseph and Dorothy for the good work they did in raising us and the sacrifices they made for us their children. Thank you for your advice on life issues. I am thankful for the support they continue to give us in our adult lives. We are so blessed to have loving, dedicated, amazing parents like you pray for God’s blessings and sustaining grace upon you. We love you. I am thankful for my siblings Lucy, Mary, Isabella and Koome for always being there and supporting in through my life journey. Your support has meant a lot in pursuing my life dreams. I wouldn’t be me without my family.
Thank you, Pastor Jim Anderson, for taking your time to review this book while in process. God, bless you. Thank you, Dr. Katherine Nickels, for encouraging me to write on advanced parenting and for taking your time to review this book while in process. Thank you, Dr. Breningstall Galen, for taking your time to review this book while in progress. Thank you for encouraging me. Thank you Dr. Michael Zachariello for reviewing this book while it was in process. Thank you, Dr. Anna Milz for reviewing this book while in progress and for your support. I pray blessings on each one of you.
Thank you to Westbow press for editing and publishing this book. Blessings to all those who were involved in the production of this book and Westbow press at large.
INTRODUCTION
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
—Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV)
W hile there is no perfect parent in existence, most parents can do a better job or improve on a good job if they put more thought into it. Parenting is a challenging undertaking, and this book is meant to encourage parents to do the best they can. Each child is extremely unique, requiring unique care and understanding. This book does not give details for every situation but acts as a guide to various subjects on raising a whole child.
This book has five major sections:
1. Some things to keep in mind. A parent-child relationship is a lifelong relationship. Oftentimes, we tend to focus on what seems to be getting us by now and don’t take time to think about what that might mean down the road.
2. The second section is general panting strategies that any parent can apply to building up their children into wholeness. This can help them deal with whatever life brings from a place of strength.
3. The third section addresses issues related to single parenting and what may help make the best of the situation.
4. The fourth section addresses issues related to advanced parenting, including raising a child with a chronic medical condition or any abnormality, and what might help in making the best of the situation.
5. The final section is the conclusion.
Having studied, observed, and applied a lot of what I share, I am confident in sharing with others and believe others can experience positive results with the application of what I share. Getting information alone does not transform things. It’s the application of the information that makes the difference. If what you are doing is not working, try something new.
EXPRESSION OF FAITHFULNESS
Look at the sun
As she makes her way
Through the beautiful skies
Her rays smiling gloriously
Are seen by all, alike
Her warmth like a blanket
Felt equally alike
Look at the sun
Rising in the morning
Always from the east
Never from the north
She strolls across the sky
Gently like a dove
Seen by all alike
Look at the sun
Setting in the evening
The colors that surround
As beautiful as can be
She vanishes shyly
As though she is aware
Of millions eyes watching
Look at the sun
Never changing her course
Trustworthy to lead the way
Dependable to brighten all
Consistent in everything
In her life, we find
True expression of faithfulness
by Ann Makena
PART 1
Things to Keep in Mind
There Is No Perfect Parent
M any good parents carry the burden of shame and guilt over mistakes that have happened or something that didn’t turn out as expected. In hindsight,