Kopykat: Take Time to Find Yourself

By Paquell C. Butterfield

Do you want to become powerful? Of course you do! I mean, who doesnt want power? KopyKat: Take Time to Find Yourself says power is already in you; if you find your identity, you will become powerful. When you become powerful people are more likely to want to be connected to you, and suddenly you are popular! WOW! Power and popularity comes with knowing who you are. So, why not go ahead and find your identity?

KopyKat: Take Time to Find Yourself seeks to prepare you for a journey of self-discovery. This journey probably wont be easy, so knowing what you can expect may help make it easier for you. KopyKat teaches you how you might expect the unexpected, because finding your identity may require you to do things you arent accustomed to.

Want to test your mental strength? Get a copy of KopyKat, because it is written to be a book for the mentally strong! The truth of the matter is only the strong are likely to make it to the end.

Are you strong?

• Language: English
• Publisher: WestBow Press
• Release date: Feb 29, 2016
• ISBN: 9781512715644

Paquell C. Butterfield

Paquell Butterfield was given a rare gift, a rebirth and a second chance at life in 2011. At twenty four she had to live as a new born after a near fatal car accident and this is where her journey to find her identity began. Today, the life she lives is very different from the life lived before 2011. Once the lover of crowds, the spotlight and a hypocritical lifestyle she now enjoys a very quiet, simple and peaceful life. Where ever she travels and is given the opportunity to speak her animated and fun loving nature comes alive but it is balanced by her serious nature as she pleads for her audience to FYI- FIND YOUR IDENTITY. Know who you are and be true to you for this is power, freedom and happiness.

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Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1:   Choices, Choices, Choices

Chapter 2:   Mirror Mirror

Chapter 3:   Authentically You

Chapter 4:   Apple of Your Eye

Chapter 5:   Makeover Time

Chapter 6:   The Reveal

Chapter 7:   Keeping Up with Your New Look

Chapter 8:   Fairest one of all

Chapter 9:   What You Gonna Do?

Conclusion

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dedicate KopyKat Take Time to Find Yourself to you, reader. You are the minority because you are strong. Only the strong will go on a journey to find themselves. Only the strong can be happy and comfortable being different from others. You are a rare find because you are not a copycat!

Introduction

There are three important questions you need to ask yourself.

1. Who are you? Knowing who you are, determines your values.

2. What do you want? Knowing what you want, determines your actions.

3. Why do you want something? Knowing why you want what you want, determines your beliefs.

You know the dash between the dates of your birth and death, e.g., 1960–2010? Well, it sums up your values, actions, and beliefs. As small as it is, your entire life is in this dash. What do you want the dash to say about you? You have a decision to make, one to be made now. Honestly, this is the only decision you will make to impact you after you’re dead. No, I am not referring to Life Insurance!

The truth is this; either you want to be part of the minority or part of the majority. In layman’s term, either you want to be different and do things differently, or you want to do what everyone else is doing.

If you are happy with what you are doing, and want to remain ignorant of your future, read no further. But if you are not happy and you are seeking truth in hopes of applying it so you can have an enjoyable life and a fantastic afterlife, then please enjoy this read. However, be forewarned. These truths are rather simple but won’t be easy to follow therefore the change won’t be easy. But if you want making the change easier and more bearable answer this question. Why do you want to make a change in your life? Is it for you or because of others? See, once you can identify your motivation or why you are doing something, what you are doing becomes easier to do.

Oh, but please note. To prove a point, we all use one or more of the following:

• personal experience

• experience of others

• science

• the Good book

So these are the points I used throughout KopyKat.

1

Choices, Choices, Choices

Isn’t it simply amazing the way you get dressed every day, paying close attention to every detail (your face, clothes, smile, and hair), so you can begin your daily routine just perfectly? And of course, right before you leave the house, you take one final look at yourself in the mirror. In looking at yourself, you say, Man, I look good eh? The world really can’t handle another me you know! You think you are a force to be reckoned with.

You have the triple-B effect: beauty, body, and brains. As a young person, this makes you hot, highly sought after, and popular. You are bombarded with compliments, so you feel gorgeous. In addition to this potentially deadly duo of beauty and body, having brains makes for a devastating combination. It makes you a leader—or better yet, a trendsetter. Everyone wants to be just like you!

Just stop it, okay? Snap out of it and come back to reality. Are you really a leader—oops, my bad— I meant a trendsetter based on your originality? You are?! Ok, let me explain. A leader is one who sets an example and a trendsetter leads the way in fashion or ideas. So I ask again, are you a leader or even a trendsetter? You’re still telling me you are a trendsetter? Look, it’s really hard to recognize your originality because you blend in so well. I mean your dress, speech, and actions are no different from those of the people around you. You are not a trendsetter and although you may have leadership qualities, you are not a leader just yet because you still follow trends (not only in fashion but in ideas as well). The truth is you are not different at all. So do both of us a favor, and stop lying to yourself. What you are doing really only makes you a copycat.

What makes you different is being able to stand alone and apart from everyone else without caring if you are alone. This not only makes you different or unique, but it also shows you are stronger than the average person. Do you really want to be unique? It doesn’t look so. You want to fit in. You want to be accepted, and you will be, no matter the cost—even if it means compromising something or maybe everything.

Let’s focus on your physical appearance for a second. You claim to be good-looking, but because of what others say and do, you decide to get facial and body piercings, countless tattoos, breast and hip implants, nose jobs, and tummy tucks, to name a few. You do this only because others are not happy with the way you look. Do you think these additions or subtractions to your image will make you look better or cause you to feel better about yourself? Maybe your peers want you to look like someone else so they can be pleased when they look at you.

To me, this makes no sense. Why should you look like someone else so other people can be pleased when they look at you? If that’s the case, they don’t need to look at you! You see, it’s in trying to make others happy you begin to lose yourself. Sooner or later, you will begin to act and speak like everyone else. If this is what you are doing, you must ask yourself if you’re really good- looking—and to whose standards are you comparing your beauty?

It is often said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, well if this statement is true for you, whose eyes are beholding your beauty? If your beauty is determined by what someone says about your looks, then you really do not need a mirror to look at yourself each day. If your beauty is not determined by others, you should not care to look the way everyone else does, nor should you care to hear what they say about how you should look. Rather, you should be happy being you.

Knowing the way you look externally is good, but you should be even more concerned about the way you look internally. If you had a mirror showing your internal attributes, would you be pleased with the way you look? Would you still think you’re the best thing ever created?

This mirror really exists, but I’m not sure if this is known. When I discovered this mirror existed, I went on a hunt to get it. Never before had I moved so fast and searched so hard for something like I did this mirror. When I found it and took a look in it, it didn’t show me what the mirror on my wall showed me.

To my surprise, it showed the complete opposite. I was filled with poison, deformed and dying. I was mortified! I did not know what to think. This was not possible. I did the only thing I knew to do to calm my nerves: I looked in the mirror on the wall to see if what I saw in my internal mirror was correct. Thankfully, it wasn’t. I still appeared to be young, beautiful, and healthy. I knew then, something was definitely wrong, and it scared the life out of me.

Several days after this horrific experience, I mustered up the courage to look again in the internal mirror which showed me to be a deformed and dying young person—and it showed me the same again. Each time I looked in this mirror it showed me the same thing. I spent weeks thinking about what it revealed.

A few weeks later, I finally figured out why I looked completely different internally and externally. Externally, I didn’t look like others around me, so they were telling me what I needed to do to look more like them. Therefore, I placed a lot of attention on what I could do to make myself fit the image everyone had for me. Internally, however, I looked just like them, so there was no need to tell me to do anything for me to look more like them. It’s the simple but sad truth: when we all look alike— when we all speak and act alike—it’s okay with society, but when we do not look alike, it makes us an easy target for public ridicule and mockery. And yes, to the world, it makes us eligible for a makeover.

Perhaps you are doing what I did for many years. You see, I tried to live up to everyone else’s expectations for my external image. But I never did anything to address the way I looked on the inside. There was nothing to change because I already looked like everyone else. In order to be accepted, I compromised a lot. I spent money I didn’t have on clothes, shoes, accessories and weave; things I didn’t even need all so I can ‘fit in’ and be accepted. I spoke like others and did things I knew weren’t the best or right things to do.

How much are you willing to compromise to please people? How much are you willing to do to look like them? Are you willing to let them give you a makeover because they said so? If you are willing to let them give you a makeover, cool—if you want to become someone’s copycat. But if you are not willing to be a copycat, I have the perfect stylist for you.

When this person is done with you, you will be a new creation. Better still, this stylist will be a life coach for as long as you allow. Other people will want this coach after they see how much you have changed, but will they want to make the same sacrifices to get where you have gotten? Typical of people, they will want what you have, but they may not want to do what you did to get it.

Okay, let’s attend to first things first. You need to get this mirror in your possession, but keep in mind that initially you won’t be able to handle the image it portrays of your inner self. In order to change the way you look internally, you need the coach that comes with the mirror. Come to think of it, there is absolutely no way you can get this mirror without getting the coach because only He can help you do the things necessary to change your internal image. You’ll discover this mirror not only shows you a reflection of your internal self, but it also speaks and tells you what can be done to help you look more beautiful.

In my case, this mirror said a lot to enhance my beauty, but I especially remember the mirror saying these four things: (1) bless those who curse you, and pray for those who insult you; (2) don’t pay people back with evil for the evil they do to you; (3) don’t ever worry and say, ‘What are we going to eat?’ or ‘What are we going to drink?’ or ‘What are we going to wear?’; and (4) when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.

Was I hearing the mirror correctly? I had four things to say in response: (1) I must be going out of my mind to hear a mirror talking to me and to respond to it; (2) the mirror was crazy to tell me to do these things; (3) there was no way I would be able to do any of these impossible things, even if I wanted to; and (4) I was not going out of my mind because I had already lost it!

To begin with, the mirror showed I was dying on the inside, and I do know whatever happens internally will eventually manifest itself externally. Based on how horrible I looked internally, I was going to die very soon. Furthermore, no mirror ever speaks—with the exception of the magic mirror in the fairy tale. And what person in his right mind acts on the advice of a mirror —except, perhaps, a person not of this world?

Imagine how people would see you if you began doing things like this mirror told me to. If you were asked what was up with your strange behavior and you responded my mirror told me to do this prepare to be sent for a mental evaluation. They would really think you had lost your mind! You would be shunned. And when the people in your life have turned their backs on you, who will you turn to? Just a ‘lil’ something to think about.

Let’s talk about this mirror. If you were to go into your bedroom, look on the nightstand (or wherever you keep the Good Book), and open to the beginning of your story in Genesis 1:26 (GWT), you would see the mirror is showing you how you are to look. "Then God said, ‘Let us make humans in our image, in our likeness. Let them rule the fish in the sea, the birds in the