The Prosperous and Successful Woman: Women in Training Vol 20

By PhD Yogi Bhajan

Recognizing the need to educate women about women, Yogi Bhajan created a special summer intensive training program for women called Khalsa Women's Training Camp (KWTC). The women in training program took place in Española, NM, USA, during summer starting in 1976 and continued for twenty years. Every year he spent up to 8 weeks directly teaching

• Language: English
• Publisher: Kundalini Research Institute
• Release date: Aug 8, 2014
• ISBN: 9781934532331

PhD Yogi Bhajan

Yogi Bhajan was declared a Master of Kundalini Yoga at the age of 16. He came to the United States in 1969 and openly taught this transformative technology for the next 35 years, until his last breath in Aug 2004. In the turbulent drug culture of the 70s, Yogi Bhajan first reached out to the youth. He recognized that their experimentation with drugs and "altered states of consciousness" expressed a desire to experience themselves and a longing for family, for connection to their soul and their community. In response to this innate longing, he created a family known as 3HO (Healthy, Happy, Holy Organization). Soon, 3HO ashrams began springing up across the United States and throughout the world.He sparked a movement whose tendrils have woven their way into numerous aspects of our culture. Yoga and meditation have gained widespread acceptance in the West and the holistic health movement he introduced through diet, herbs, and lifestyle technologies. Born Harbhajan Singh in what is now Pakistan to a family of healers and community leaders, Yogi Bhajan studied comparative religion and Vedic philosophy in his undergraduate years and received his Masters in Economics with honors from Punjab University. Years later, he earned his Ph.D. in communications psychology from the University of Humanistic Studies in San Francisco. Yogi Bhajan emerged as a religious, community, and business leader with a distinguished reputation as a man of peace, world vision, wisdom, and compassion. He founded several food companies that manufacture and distribute natural products based on these teachings. He fostered economic development in communities around the world. He is also the author of several books on yoga philosophy, business, and communication during his lifetime.The Kundalini Research Institute continues his legacy through The Yogi Bhajan Library of Teachings, the International Teacher Training in Kundalini Yoga as taught by Yogi Bhajan®, and the publications of lectures and kriyas to serve the community of teachers, students, and practitioners around the world. See www.kundaliniresearchinstitute.org to learn how you can help keep the legacy alive!

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Gurdwara Lecture

JUNE 25, 1995

Let the Spirit Glow & the Khalsa Grow

Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa, Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh.

If you look back five thousand years, there were religions that existed which don't exist today. You can find some here and there, like Zoroastrians, but at one time Zoroastrianism was the world's most powerful religion. It taught the worship of purity, piety through fire. There was nothing wrong with it, but it was overrun.

Buddhism started in India. Almost the entire India was Buddhist. But then it was overrun by the Shankaracharias. You talk of sacrifices? Buddhists were tied down into boats—and remember, they were very non-violent—and the boats were set on fire and put in the Bay of Bengal. Hundreds and thousands died that way. The area of Afghanistan, which you know, was one time the perfect headquarters of Buddhism, total and complete. It was overrun.

So many religions have been overrun. Religions have run over each other—proselytized by force, by the edge of the sword. Finally the common man gave in and that became religion. Christians are no exception to it. Their Crusades are very well known. What they did has been recorded and I don't have to repeat it. Islam means ‘humble.’ Yet the tragedy is that what they did with the most humble religion of the world I don’t want to waste my time and repeat. All I can say is if Hazarat Mohammed, the prophet, comes back, looks at what is going on, he'll commit suicide to see the acts of his disciples.

So this is the history of five thousand years before you. You can accept it, you can deny it, you can debate it, you can argue it. There was no forgiveness, there was no tolerance, nor is there even today.

That is why the Father of the Khalsa, Guru Gobind Singh said, You have to be a saint and soldier at the same time. Nobody's going to defend you, you have to defend yourself. But you have to be wise enough, spiritual enough not to offend anybody.

And so this tradition has lived on. Now, it is more than five hundred years since Guru Nanak, and more than twenty-five years since Sikh Dharma was born in the Western Hemisphere. It is not a Dharma by the teachings of a person or a body of a person. Naa eh zaat da dharam hai, naa eh jannat daa dharam hai. Eh karamaat daa dharam hai. It is a religion of the Miracle of Guru Ram Das. As the Lord promised, so it happened. Many will not understand, they were not born to understand. They are cursed people. Their eyes can only read the billboards, but they can't see it. Their skin can feel it, but their brain does not have the capacity to understand it.

We shall not waste a moment on these hooligans who have fanatically entrenched their traditions. Their shallowness and shadowness should not give us any guidance, direct or indirect, whatever the case is. As far as our gratitude is concerned, they took the Siri Guru Granth and brought it to us. We are grateful for it. Nine hundred sixty million we shall be, and that is not our problem, that we shall be. They may not be part of us or they may be, but we are not part of them. We cannot accept their philosophy, their versions, their interpretations, and their theology.

We have our Father, Guru Gobind Singh, Mother Mata Sahib Deva, and we have Khalsa traditions. And we'll abide by that. Siri Guru Granth shall give us the guidance we need. We are the future and we know it. We will be everywhere. Therefore, if anybody has a misunderstanding about what shall happen tomorrow let them drown in their own sorrow and their own doubt. Let them be blind and walk on their own route. We are not responsible.

Neither they came to our help, nor they have offered help, yet they have helped. They can't see it. Look at the Grace of the True Guru. What they have done is technically pull our legs, pull our legs, pull our legs, and our legs have become so long now that we walk very fast. And we walk tall.

Opposition has served us, challenge has admired us, and we have been forced to research our consciousness. That's all spirituality is. If the environments challenge you to search your spirit, that is your first step on the spiritual path. You must understand what we say: "We are an Atma born for a human experience. We are not a human born for spiritual experience. It is totally opposite to every other religious faith.

Every religion tells you: you are born in sin, therefore you should live in guilt to the hilt of it. Every religion catered to a promise between the state and its congregation to find and concentrate power. We are born free and we are born under the guidance and Godliship of the Sat Guru, Siri Guru Granth. We shall never, ever worship a man again as an ideal, as an idol, as a deity, as a person, as a personality.

Angels are our friends and demons we play hockey with. Afraid we are not. From the Home of the Almighty we have come to exist as shining sons and daughters of the Guru, and to our Home we shall go back. We have come to answer the call of duty—our beauty, our bounty, our blessing is answering the Guru's call. Wherever we are, we are protected, we are respected and we are honored.

Jahaa(n) jahaa(n) khaalsaa ji saahib

taha(n) tahaa(n) rachhi-aa ri-aa-it

(from the Ardas, the daily Sikh prayer)

Wherever the Respected Khalsa is,

there is Your Protection and Grace.

Deg teg fateh Panth kee jeet

(A Sikh motto)

Victory of the Sword and Hospitality! Victory to the Panth!

You shall always have victory. You have five thousand years from now. Remember, one day you were not even five. One day we did not even have a gootka.* Remember those days when you placed a little nitnem gootka to do the marriage rounds? Remember those days? We never had jewelry. Now we buy jewelry for everybody. Do you understand those days? We took green leaves and made decorations, remember that? You must remember that.

Our temple shall have decorations the world cannot pay for. Our caliber and ecstasy shall glow. Our sons and daughters shall be the leaders. We are born to rule with justice, with honor, with peace, with tranquility—with grace, we'll uplift the human race. We'll never consider this is black, this is brown, this is yellow, this is pink. Nobody will ride in the back of the bus. We'll offer our front seats to them. Our places will not be places of punishment and judgment. They will be places of prayer and forgiveness. We'll set the human in the tradition of humanity, and our rules will be rules which the world shall admire. Then they shall come to our Guru—bewitched by our beauty, our bounty, and our bliss through the blessings. We'll not proselytize the way it was done in the past.

We'll go to India, and I assure you today they will not understand us. They don't! It's a matter of caliber, it's a matter of consciousness. But still we'll go. The problem is we'll not muddle in their politics, because we don't understand their language. Aren't we fortunate? We don't know what they're saying. There are thirty Gurdwaras and forty Rebit Maryadas, sixteen interpretations and ninety super interpretations. Anybody who has five men with guns calls himself a saint. What a ridiculous scene that is. They have remembered our Guru, Siri Guru Granth, by heart and they can recite it, yet they do not live one line of it. Isn't it a miracle what God is showing you? He's telling you these people have nothing in them. Do you know these people do not know how to utter the Guru Mantra, Wahe Guru, the Tresha Guru mantra:

Waah yantee kaar yantee jag dutpatee

Aadik it waahaa, brahmaa deh trayshaa guru it wha-hay guru

(Patanjali, Push Puran)

Great Macroself, Creative Self, All that is creative through time, all that is the Great One. These aspects of the Guru: Brahma, Vishnu, Mahesh (Shiva): That is Wahe Guru.

The very pronunciation of the Guru Mantra is not correct. They have Siri Guru Granth yet they do do not know how to correctly pronounce it. A Sikh cannot pronounce the words of his own Guru!

One day He has to sit in each of us and pronounce it! And He shall! Guru doesn't want to be defeated. He knows his Sikhs. He knows who's who.

But time and space has saved us from all their politics. Aren't we lucky? We wear white, the color of the servant. We have no gender. Our Khalsa women and our Khalsa men are Khalsa. We have our bana,* our bani,* our seva,* our simran*. We shall never enter their politics. They will try to enter. They have no place to enter. Because they are out of their own center. Therefore, keep marching!

You know what they said to me last time when so many of us went to India? They said, Well, you know, you come here and bring fifteen actors with you to act as Sikhs. They're all trained. You know you have very well-trained actors. They can't understand. They are totally freaked out. They don't understand that the Guru is doing his miracles. They don't want to understand. Because Guru is not doing it with them, so they are very upset. Really.

And sometimes they are so extremely arrogant. You know what they say? You look better, you live better, you understand Guru better. Guru has understood you. He has not understood us. We do not know. Therefore, you are better Sikhs. We are not.

Can you believe this? You have been here five hundred years. What is wrong with you guys? They came to find faults. They couldn't. But the tragedy which I could not make them understand is: Khalsa ji, you are going to go away and we are going to be we. This is the only chance, just shake hands with us, folks.

They say, How many Sikhs are there?

I say, I don't count. But five, six, seven join us somehow, somewhere every day. And five, six, seven you lose every day, average.

It is a matter of time. And they do not hear, and they're not willing to understand the words of Guru Gobind Singh:

Malechh Khaalsaa hosee naas

Panth Khaalsaa hosee parkaash.

(Sikh poets of the 18th century, as spoken by Guru Gobind Singh)

When the false Khalsa shall be destroyed, then the Khalsa Panth shall rise up.

On the phone I heard today that in Malaysia, two hundred Sikh boys had joined to be Christians. I said, What is wrong with that? Two hundred Christians have joined to be Sikhs. So balance is happening. What is wrong with that? Now religion will be who can make them understand, not who can conquer them.

Oh, no, no, in Malaysia the Sikhs were very strong.

I said, What? Strong with what? When did you visit them last? What have you done for them?

You think God knows why you have become Sikhs. I tell you why Guru wanted you to be Sikhs. To be pioneers, to go and penetrate. I always remember those words: You shall go and cross and touch those boundaries which no one has crossed before. From where did I get this line? Star Trek. Correct. (Laughter.) Thank you.

What I am trying to explain to you is that life is ours, the future is ours, and we are ours. That is how, Khalsaji, this brotherhood stands today, this sisterhood stands today, this Khalsahood stands today. The mind has to be mastered so that the spirit can glow and Khalsa can grow.

To put the mind under your mastery is a very simple thing. Any thought which comes to you, just ask it, Will it honor the Guru? If the answer is Yes, go ahead. Will it honor the Guru? If the answer is No, don't do it.

Don't forget. You have gone through lawsuits. You have gone through slander. You have gone through conspiracies, and you are the only one who took a stand against the destruction of the Akal Takhat¹. And you stood well, because you were righteous.

But remember: Akal Takhat is not a brick place. It's the spirit of Guru Hargobind. It is yours. Harimandir is not a brick place, it is yours. Don't forget your responsibilities. They are humongous and as wide as this planet Earth, and you are stretched beyond your limit already. But we'll face it.

Guru Singh, how do you sing that song? You are all going to sing with him.

(Students sing the Golden Temple Song.)

Everybody!

It will be your extended self which will be tested. Your hands will be as long as this globe, and you as a nation shall hug this globe. Wherever humanity is, you will be there. The cause and effect of your destiny is already prewritten. You are born as a free spirit in the land of the free and home of the brave, with a tradition to reach out. You will spin around the globe. That's why you are sending your children to India today. Sometimes you wonder why you are learning to send them half way around the world, to circle around the Earth? Because that's your karma. And this is your Dharma: to go around the planet Earth wherever humanity needs you, you shall be there.

That's why Nanak gave us the Word and walked, and walked and walked. Within those times and his means he was the most splendid traveler the world could imagine. And you shall walk and you shall talk and you shall be. That's why God wanted you. That's the destiny, the distance you have to cover. What do we sing: Guru Nanak gave us the word…?

(Students sing the Sikh National Anthem.)

YB: Wait, wait, wait! Now be honest. You are sitting in the presence of the Siri Guru Granth. Is that true? And you wrote this. True?

S: Yes, Sir.

YB: And you admitted now that Guru Nanak gave us the Word. Right? I just wanted to remind you, so there would be no misunderstanding. Go ahead.

(Students continue to sing.)

These were our songs in the early 70's. These are the prophecies which came to us through song. These have a very powerful descriptive value and guiding power. Our songs, our poems and our smiles tell us the way we are going. Our existence gave the universe hope. Our grace and our radiance give God satisfaction. Our glow and our beauty give angels hope.

We are the excellent creatures of the Guru and Grace of Wahe Guru. And we shall be that way. We are entitled to peace and tranquility, grace and dignity. And we have the right to clear and cover and distance our destiny. We shall march on. But we did praise the Ten Gurus, our Father Guru Gobind Singh and Siri Guru Granth through a song. How did it go?

(Audience sings: Age of the True Guru.)

Sikh history cannot be understood any better than through our songs. It is lively, it is real, it is truthful. It shall continue to inspire millions. It is in the language of the heart. It will be understood by the people who understand the language of the heart. It will inspire humanity now and forever. It is descriptive, it is realistic, it is exact. The Guru sat in the heart of the person and spoke through the tongue of that person. Thus truth got recorded.

Finally, through this time and age…(Aren't I a good M.C.? I am preparing for a new job.)…we wrote our song, Song of the Khalsa, and in a very few words we wrote the history of the Khalsa, the dictates of the Khalsa. We are sincere, we are real, and we are in the global ecstasy. We wanted the world to know that is what we are, that is what Khalsa is. And it became our guiding, daily nitnem,* our force.

(Students sing Song of the Khalsa.)

The idea is not that we don't have the money and we can't build it.² The idea is to ask you to participate in it. Let your brick be there.

You don't understand. This Gurdwara and this lungar hall can be built in three months, the contract is signed, money can be paid. It is not that we don't have the money. We want you to have your brick there, so you can tell the story to your children and your grandchildren.

That's why when you built this Gurdwara, I didn't sanction a penny. It was not difficult. And we'll keep this tradition. You built it for your Guru, with your hands, with your sweat and your dignity, with your integrity, and you participated. It's a matter of honor which cannot be taken away. Is that clear?

Sangat: Yes, Sir.

YB: Clear. I just like to remind you once in a while. And then finally the third Guru, Guru Amar Das gave us this Song of Bliss, the Anand Sahib. Right? And now we will recite our Anand Sahib. Correctly. Correctly, not the wrong way! You know one thing you should all know. There's a conflict. Guru's son only changed one word of Gurbani.

Mitee musalmaan kee said mitee beimaan kee

(Guru Nanak, Asa di Var, page 466)

The clay of the Muslim's grave becomes clay for the potter's wheel.

And Guru refused to even see his face. Yet every day they sit in the presence of Siri Guru Granth Sahib and they recite:

Anand sunho vadbhaageeho

The word is:

Anad sunho vadbhageeho

(Guru Amar Das, Anand Sahib, page 922)

Listen, O fortunate ones!

Still, we don't recite it because we don't break the Guru's words.³ We keep the sequence correct. To us it's a Living Guru. It's not part and parcel. It was very shocking when they told me that this thing happens everywhere. I said, If this thing happens everywhere, is it practical that we should all be doing it? So it is whosoever is the majority is going to rule.

We are not going to accept it. So what I have done is, I have asked for an open apology from those who believe in this. They shall never have bliss, they will never have peace, they will never have pleasure. They shall pay for it.

Let us recite it in a peaceful way as Guru Amar Das gave it to us, up to the five pauris,* and we will do the Slok and we will be in bliss.

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1 The Akal Takhat, literally eternal throne, is the scat of religious authority for Sikhs. It was destroyed by Indian troops during Operation Blue Star in 1984.

2 Referring to the Lungar Hall being built alongside the Espanola Gurdwara.

3 It has been tradition to recite the first five pauris (steps) of the Anand Sahib (a Gurbani made up of 40 pauris) and then skip to the last one. Yogi Bhajan has pointed out that this is a incorrect practice. We recite either only the first five, or the entire Anand Sahib.

JUNE 26, 1995

Pathways & Solutions to Prosperity & Success

Y

B: What was the subject for today?

S: The pathways and solutions to prosperity and success.

YB: The pathways and solutions to prosperity and success. What is the answer?

S: Come from your heart.

YB: Won't make it.

S: Be grateful.

YB: Won't work. Go ahead.

S: Be multi-faceted.

YB: No chance.

S: Chant Har Haray Haree Wahe Guru.

YB: This is a chant you can do your whole life. Next.

S: Follow spirit.

YB: Well, then evaporate?

S: Deliver excellence.

YB: Nothing will work, ladies, in your case.

S: Visualize expansiveness.

YB: You have been ill taught, ill treated, and your environment and circumstances do not give you the basic fundamental wisdom. That's why I chose this subject. Say it again, what is the subject?

Students: The pathways and solutions to prosperity and success.

YB: What is the answer?

S: To give.

S: To be alert.

YB: Honesty, dishonesty, sexuality, sensuality, wisdom, spirituality, duality, reality, nothing works. There's only one word which works.

S: God.

YB: God doesn't work here either.

S: Forgive.

S: Truth.

YB: No, doesn't work.

S: Spirituality.

S: Love.

YB: No.

s: Giving.

S: Shooniya.

YB: Try. What is so wrong with you!? Try! Shooniya, moonia, toonia, what else? Is there anything else left?

S: Just do it.

YB: That won't work either. It is a very challenging subject I gave and I know the answer.

S: Ambition.

YB: Write it down, then don't tell me that I didn't tell you.

A woman who does not become a comprehensive woman shall not find a path to prosperity and pleasure.

Repeat it.

SS: A woman who does not become a comprehensive woman shall not find a pathway to prosperity and pleasure.

YB: That's the rule of thumb. It's a character condition. Drishtee kon and srishtee kon. Drishtee kon is the way I live and totally look at things. Srishtee kon is as the universe looks at itself, how the universe looks at me. Write down these words, drishtee kon. Spell it, spell it.

Students: D R I S H T I…

YB:…and srishtee. Srishtee mean universe. Drishtee means as you look at things. Kon means focus. If your drishtee kon and srishtee kon are not one, you cannot be a comprehensive woman. Because you have the right to look at the world as you want to. But you also have the responsibility to see how the world sees you. If you look at the world and do not care how the world looks at you, you are a dead rat. You won't make it. Doesn't matter how knowledgeable you are, how many degrees you have got, whose wife you are—you are cooked, you are done, you are handicapped.

A comprehensive woman is one who is comparative, compromising, comparing. She can camp out within herself and figure things out. And that is the fundamental faculty of the female. That is…?

Students:…the fundamental faculty of a woman.

YB: If she doesn't contain he within itself, woman doesn't contain man within herself, female doesn't contain the male within herself, there is no union. The worst weapon woman uses is provoking. She is a provocateur. She provokes. Woman doesn't do anything; she is the most innocent creature on the planet. But she provokes and gets her eyes blue. The provocative nature makes a woman most insane, most unwise, most unrealistic. It opens her to all kinds of dangers, and the majority of the time brings every known suffering into her life.

So there's a comprehensive woman and there's a provocative woman. Some men have gone all the way for a woman and a child. They left their world, their universe, but still it is an unending tragedy. It started with the birth of the woman, it will end with the death of the woman. She is the one who has to decide whether she wants to be a comprehensive woman or a provocative woman.

A woman who uses I has already forgotten Thou. And a woman who doesn't use Thou shall never survive. Doesn't matter how great she is.

Because there is a fundamental cross here. Guru Dev Mata. The first teacher is mother. Woman is always the teacher. She can never stop being a teacher—ever. When she is not a teacher in a good sense, then she is a teacher in a provocative manner. Take even a calm, serene, sober, newspaper-reading, TV-watching, relaxed, corn chip-eating husband with his legs up, with everything going very normally; she will put an injection in his butt by something or other. This is how it works. Once you provoke a man, it takes one moon for him to calm down and forget you. That's how powerful it is. You don't have to ask me, you must have had that experience.

I was once counseling a marriage. It almost ended up in a divorce. A man was just sitting and reading the newspaper—Financial Times or something like that—and he was very absorbed in it. She came and took a hairpin and stuck it into him. It was no big deal. It didn't break his skin or anything. But he just woke up. There was no damage. There was no problem. Three days later his behavior was changed. Ten days later he was extremely changed. A month later he served her divorce papers.

That's how shallow, little and insensitive men are. Shallow, insensitive. You think when you charm a man and have sex with him, have a good time, and you've got him. You are fooled. You just helped the adjustment of his pituitary and his ejaculation. That's it.

Men cannot be sexually held. They never have been, never will—they can't. Because the pituitary inspiration or signaling of the sexual activity in a man changes each day of his age. What he is Friday he is not Saturday. According to his biorhythm, one day he is totally, absolutely sexually good-for-nothing. But when his biorhythm is on a high pitch, he may be very sexual, horny, beautiful, wonderful. But the day after he has done everything with you, he's not going to move with you anywhere for three days. That's how they are. They need a blanket and a quilt and two pillows: one on the head and one under the head. Have you seen men like that? They are like that. Even hot Turkish coffee cannot make them get up.

And ladies, when you flirt with a man you think you've got him in the palm of your hand. It is the nature of a born man and a born female to flirt. Do you understand? But those who practice this art are not alert. Intellectuals are not intelligent. Because the intellectual will keep on thinking and thinking and thinking until the train goes to the next station. Intellectuals are not intelligent and flirts are not alert.

But the beauty of a woman is in her being comprehensive. God has given her both hemispheres of the brain—left to understand the initiation, right to understand the projection. She can balance it. A little effort in that way can keep a woman very happy.

That is why there are not very many known women in the world of spirituality. You know why? They don't have the focus to break through their personal, individual, family and territorial needs. Woman has to let these three things go, to grow, to glow. She has to start becoming impersonal and fly on the carpet of the heavens. She has to become guruward, otherwise there is no chance for her, because any such action will be totally seen by others as selfish.

There is one example in the scriptures which you have to understand. Radha was the consort and Rukmani was the wife of Krishna. The wife had a right if she wanted to use that, but she couldn't. Rukmani was territorial; Radha was not. So whenever you chant to Krishna, you chant Radha Krishna, you don't chant Rukmani Krishna. Have you heard that anywhere? You chant Gopal, Gopal, Gopalaa, because he was with herds of cows and with his gopis. But you will never hear anywhere in worship Krishna Rukmani together. You will always find Krishna with a flute and there's a cow behind him. Have you seen it?

There are two things which limit a woman: status and state. The pride of status sometimes limits your statement. And the pride of your state limits your statement.

Radha took a plunge. She took all the cows and the cowherd girls and herself, and she attacked the fort. And she won. Krishna became victorious.

There are three things in life: status and state, and the third is statement. A person who does not know how to make a statement about himself and herself and about time and space can never be what they want to be. Status can keep him on the chair, but he will never shine. State can keep him in the chair but he will never glow.

S: What do you mean by state? Do you mean emotional state?

YB: No, no. State means property, houses, land, wealth.

S: Your property. Your assets?

YB: Your assets are called your estate. The same thing in a more expansive language is called state. Estate is when it's limited and small, and state is when it's big.

The other thing, ladies, which is your own enemy, which cuts you below the belt, is the way you look at things. The question is, if you discuss small things, you will never be of any respectable value: You kissed me, you didn't kiss me; you love me, you do not love me; you sent me flowers, you didn't send me flowers; you love me, you hate me. All this B.S. (You know what B.S. is? Beautiful Service.)

If you talk adoringly, objectively, projectively about divinity, about dignity, about grace, about status, about standard, and you become the standard bearer, you should not have any dearth of wealth, prosperity, friends, opportunity and moments of honor and joy.

A woman who comes from her inside with her nuclear status, her projected grace will never be poor, will never be ignored. But a woman who is shallow shall end up as arrogant, ignorant and with ill luck. Woman's path is marked. You cannot rewrite it. It is she who marks it.

Never go in public without being absolutely glowingly dressed up. Absolutely. Never receive anybody without manners. Keep your limited situation in every way of life, and keep your buffer of grace, doesn't matter what the temptation is.

A woman who crosses the line of grace can never return back to it. And, ladies, if you want to cheapen yourself, nobody can jack up your price. If you want to sell yourself at fifty percent off, twenty-five percent off, seventy percent off, eighty percent off, hallelujah. Be with it. I have no objection.

There's a very common thing that I hear in 3HO: Oh, we want to reach the maximum people. We don't want to scare them. You know what I mean? No. You're not reaching out to the maximum people and you're not scaring them. You are yourself getting cheaper and cheaper and cheaper. Even the most unintelligent person can see it.

You are reaching out without values. Reaching out without grace is reaching out without values. People need values and virtues. They don't need you. You are basically mistaken. People love the virtues and values in you. People do not love you.

If you are eighteen years old everybody wants to have sex with you. Is that true? And when you are eighty years old where do they go? You are the same person. Don't you see? Hello? Why is it men cannot feel sexual toward you when you are eighty years old? What goes wrong?

You know, there is a story. A man got caught chasing a woman whom he wanted to rape. When she turned around to look at him, he saw she was about eighty-five years old. He ran back and hit a police car. So he got caught. She was very good-looking. But the moment he realized she was equal to the age of his grandmother, that was it.

Moreover, when you get sexually involved with Tom, Dick, Harry, Smith, Henry, Peter, Jack, Javelin, Jackson, Junior, Senior, unfortunately you have a double arc line, and they all stick there. A woman cannot forget a man and it lives within herself.

So before you step out for something, hold on for a minute and look at yourself, and redial your number and see if you are correct.

You raised your hand?

S: Sir, when a woman crosses the line of grace, there's no returning back? So if any of us cross that line…?

YB: When you crossed that line, you were stupid. No, no, no returning for that moment. Yes, that's true. Once you cross the line of grace with a man, the man knows you are cheap. And men are just half-brain, single-living, culturally, hunters, and they never forget that. Men are men. I'm willing to blame them for everything, but the question is, it takes two to tango. If you cannot walk through the muddy land, don't enter it. If you cannot fly, don't go on the tower of the castle and jump. Got it?

Dress yourself up to be graceful, not for sale. Look elegant. And tease the whole planet. That's the art.

Question hour starts. Yes?

S: How can we help our young sons grow up to be good men?

YB: As men? Teach them to be men. A man taught by a mother to be a man will never fail. The grace of the mother, the touch of the grace of a mother is enough to make a man a man. You don't have to do anything else. If a mother touches the heart of a boy and says, You are my grace, forget it. You have sent an angel into the world. That one line can change the entire destiny. You are my son, you are my boy, you are my grace. Wha, three words. You don't have to add a fourth. And God, it works.

Any other questions, please?

S: Sat Nam. Sir, could you talk about the pros and cons of anti-depressant medication, like Zoloft and Prozac? Thank you.

YB: The pros are very limited and cons are unlimited. If under a medical supervision it has to be done, it should be done just for that time of prescription. And along with that, every effort should be made to naturally heal yourself. And if that is not done, everything is gone, gone, gone and you're gone. Am I clear? Uppers and downers sometimes are very much required. Because sometimes stress and strain and unlimited situations and circumstances put a person into mental fatigue. At that time, the recovery should be done by a natural meditation, natural relaxation and by hydrotherapy. These are natural ways to do it. Exercise, long walks, good food, deep meditations, etc. etc.

Even if these medicines have to be given, still that natural process should be introduced intensively. Otherwise, the reaction is horrible.

S: Sat Nam. I've only heard you speak a few times, but I've never heard you say anything good about a man. (Audience laughs.)

YB: Men are very good. Men are good. Men are so good you can't believe it. But they are as good as you keep them. Provoke a man and all hell breaks loose. Do you understand what I'm saying? I'm a man myself. Men are good. Men are very good. They are so good, just keep them under the hood, they are fine. But if you provoke them, they are living hell. That's what we are talking about.

This is a woman's training camp. Here we talk about all the negativity of the male to warn her where she can slip and get misled. Here we train women, not men. So naturally you will hear the weaker side of the man and the potential side of conflict. It's not a romance class where I can tell you that he can give you a swing over the clouds into the heavens and moon shall come, the angel will give all the kisses, and your drops of sweat will be just a fragrance, and he'll be there with the tongue open, licking. (Audience laughs.)

But here we are teaching our young daughters, women, ladies to be graceful for tomorrow and telling them where the pitfalls are and where they can ruin their happiness in life. So we discuss the attacking nature and the insincere nature of the male, which I openly discuss. I don't hesitate.

I will give you a scenario so that you may understand from the beginning what it is you are getting into, so you may not fall into the pit of it and then say, Help, help.

Men are good. They are very good. As long as you don't have to deal with them, they are great.

You want to look from a man's point of view? For two hours bumper to bumper I go to the office, I work the whole day, I lie, I hustle, I deal with the secretaries. Women, women everywhere. There are no women to kiss and hug. I come back home and there is a bitch to say ‘hello’ and barks at me and says, ‘How was your day, damn it? You never called. What happened, you forgot me!’

That's very polite. If I would tell you the real story from men as they confide in me, you would all get up from this camp and go to your tent and try to sleep. They are so angry. If you look at them they all say, Because of the children I am married. They all say, Because. And they don't call you by your name. They call you very ugly names. Listen to them in the company of men. Finally they leave you. They start slipping away and denying and all that because they cannot tolerate your beautiful service: B.S.

Woman has to shine. Actually the reason man comes to a woman is not that he needs a woman. He needs to soothe out and smooth out, and he needs sympathy, empathy, help, recharging, encouragement. There is a long list. I have yet to see a man who doesn't want it. And when she starts barking, Hum, hum, hum, hum, mmh mmh, forget it. Look at her, I want this, I want this. That son of a bitch goes from morning to night.

First he gets the beating from his mother: John, do this. John, do that. John, get up. John, sit down. And then he's married: John, sit. John, stand. You didn't do a thing. John, you didn't bring me this. John, you forgot my birthday…John, John.

One woman fought with a John because he forgot her birthday. He didn't even remember his own. He said, When did I celebrate mine that I should remember yours? Do you understand?

Men are good as long as you keep them good. You have to understand the science of life, not the sex of life. These classes are for the science of life, so that you may know how to live, to prosper, to grow.

S: In response to what you just stated about what a man needs when he comes home, I'm curious where does the barking of women come from?

YB: I'll tell you how barking looks to them. When a man comes home after driving bumper to bumper, he is absolutely bewitched by the manifestation of the idea that he is going to enter a heaven. There are two areas where self-hypnosis works on a person: when he leaves the home and when he comes home. When he leaves home he goes to war. It's the nature of the man, it is not your fault. That's why you correct his tie and knot, and give him a kiss and send him up to the war front.

And when he comes home his bewitchment and feeling is he's coming to his heavens. At that time any question will be a cannon fire. If you just welcome him and let him relax, you will have a canary in hand. In a few minutes he will start talking all about his day, all that he went through, all that he did with his supervisor, all he went through with the staff—the whole thing. And when he steams it all out, give him something to drink, something to eat, and you'll find a different man.

When a man enters the house, whether you like it or not, you must welcome him. He expects it. I am not discussing whether it is right or wrong. Do you understand? It's unfortunate, but that's what it is. Even though woman has gone to work also, and she has come from work just ten minutes earlier than him. Still, he expects to be welcomed. What are you going to do with that? That's how they are. There's one pound of meat which hangs between their legs. They are very different, a different species. Their nature is different, their hormones are different, their needs are different, their sensitivity is different. They are exactly different people.

S: I have two questions. First, you told us why a man comes to a woman. And I was wondering why a woman comes to a man?

YB: It's called a hormone problem.

S: My second question is that my partner seems to be exactly as you're describing. And sometimes I wonder, can a woman be comprehensive, prosperous and successful and just be single? (Laughter and applause.)

YB: Hummm. This class does not interfere with single people. You can be very single. Sometimes. people like me who are married are very single. I'm multi-married. I'm married to everything. I'm married to every tragedy, I'm married to every pleasure, I'm married to every person, I'm married to every danger, I'm married to every safety.

The meaning of marriage and relationship changes with your sphere. You know what I mean? So, with all that huge marriage and merrymaking and relationship and counseling and working and advising and being and not being, I'm still single, I'm still virgin. Otherwise, I wouldn't survive an hour. If I get involved one hundred percent with one event, that's enough to kill me.

So every life is like that. You're marriedly single, and singly married. The question is, to what degree do you put your selfishness out? And to what degree do you put your comprehensiveness out? That's the question today.

I know my individual needs, and I know my personal needs; I know my plural needs, I know my multiple needs, and my total needs. But I also know I am a comprehensive institution and that's the way I have to deal.