The Beaming Faculty: Women in Training Vol 3

By PhD Yogi Bhajan

Recognizing the need to educate women about women, Yogi Bhajan created a special summer intensive training program for women called Khalsa Women's Training Camp (KWTC). The women in training program took place in Española, NM, USA, during summer starting in 1976 and continued for twenty years. Every year he spent up to 8 weeks directly teaching

• Language: English
• Publisher: Kundalini Research Institute
• Release date: Jun 18, 2015
• ISBN: 9781934532294

PhD Yogi Bhajan

Yogi Bhajan was declared a Master of Kundalini Yoga at the age of 16. He came to the United States in 1969 and openly taught this transformative technology for the next 35 years, until his last breath in Aug 2004. In the turbulent drug culture of the 70s, Yogi Bhajan first reached out to the youth. He recognized that their experimentation with drugs and "altered states of consciousness" expressed a desire to experience themselves and a longing for family, for connection to their soul and their community. In response to this innate longing, he created a family known as 3HO (Healthy, Happy, Holy Organization). Soon, 3HO ashrams began springing up across the United States and throughout the world.He sparked a movement whose tendrils have woven their way into numerous aspects of our culture. Yoga and meditation have gained widespread acceptance in the West and the holistic health movement he introduced through diet, herbs, and lifestyle technologies. Born Harbhajan Singh in what is now Pakistan to a family of healers and community leaders, Yogi Bhajan studied comparative religion and Vedic philosophy in his undergraduate years and received his Masters in Economics with honors from Punjab University. Years later, he earned his Ph.D. in communications psychology from the University of Humanistic Studies in San Francisco. Yogi Bhajan emerged as a religious, community, and business leader with a distinguished reputation as a man of peace, world vision, wisdom, and compassion. He founded several food companies that manufacture and distribute natural products based on these teachings. He fostered economic development in communities around the world. He is also the author of several books on yoga philosophy, business, and communication during his lifetime.The Kundalini Research Institute continues his legacy through The Yogi Bhajan Library of Teachings, the International Teacher Training in Kundalini Yoga as taught by Yogi Bhajan®, and the publications of lectures and kriyas to serve the community of teachers, students, and practitioners around the world. See www.kundaliniresearchinstitute.org to learn how you can help keep the legacy alive!

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Nobility in the Practical Sense of Divinity

JULY 3, 1978

Now I am going to discuss a very practical new era, one which is most powerful and very essential for every woman, and very much forgotten. This is how it was forgotten. The French Revolution in a sense affected every noble person. Nobility was a kind of status where everybody who was noble, usually with blue eyes and blond hair, was guillotined. The Russian Revolution also had an effect. Nobility was considered as richness. Actually, nobility does not have anything to do with richness, though nobility is very, very rich in every aspect of life. Admiring nobility in the sense of money was a very wrong trend. What happened was that rich people were in a position to receive and give training in noble traditions to their children. In spite of all the traditions and training, the children of these rich parents lived very vagabond, immoral and unethical lives. When the partisans of the poor people in the revolution took over, being associated to any kind of nobility or title became a kind of curse, and open slaughter happened. If you look at the map of Europe, and look at Russia and France, then you can really understand how great an area got affected by these two revolutions.

To be very honest with you, a woman who is not a noble woman and who does not talk through her radiance, is not a woman. The greatest decoration a woman can have is nobility. She should not only look noble, she should live noble. Nobility is the virtue and it is a living virtue. Some people think if they know manners, can talk mannerly, and act and pretend to be noble, they are noble. No, nobility is a character in a woman. A noble woman will give birth to noble children. A noble woman will give birth to nobility in all areas of life. A noble woman does not require a psychiatrist or psychologist.

I cannot even explain in words, but I will give an example. Once a prince was lost while going on a hunting trip and he did not know what to do. Finally he passed his night under a tree. The next morning he took his horse and started searching around, but found himself more and more into the thick of the jungle. After a while, he climbed a tree to see if he could find some place for shelter. All around there was jungle. He finally saw a place far away where there was smoke. He thought perhaps there might be a hut or home there. He came down, marked the direction and got his horse. He was tired and weak and started hallucinating and temporarily losing consciousness, but his horse was well-trained and took him in the right direction. In that haziness, he found in front of him a very beautiful and radiant woman. She took the reins of his horse, directed it and brought it to a hut. She took care of him, nurtured him, nursed him, talked to him and then finally he ate and went to sleep. When he woke up, it was the next morning. He discovered she was the daughter of a man who lived in the jungle by himself. He could not believe it. The evening after his one day of observing her, he talked to the father. He said, Sir, I want to ask you something. Are you the real father of this noble soul? The father lifted his eyes up and looked at him. He said, Young man, I have never told a lie. Yes, at this moment I am the father of this noble soul. He said, Sir, I don't mean that. I mean to say are you the blood father of this noble soul? He said, No, I am not, but what created in your mind this question? The prince said, I came and I was tired and very hungry. She brought me to this hut and nourished and nursed me and talked to me. I am a prince. It totally soothed my soul, soothed my body and gave me a mental satisfaction which was calm, quiet, and peaceful. I have never experienced this before. Therefore I feel she is a noble soul who has come to you and couldn't be born to you. The old man said, That is true. As you have come today to take shelter, this child was wandering in the jungle and came to this hut where I took her in. I do not understand something. I know you are a prince and I know people will be coming to find you. I know you will be going very soon, but I have some questions to ask. How in one day could you find all that out? He said, Sir, nobility is the virtue of the presence of God in a person. The very touch of your daughter gave me so much peace and rest, that I could not find it possible that she was born here. The father answered, Do you mean because I am poor and I live in a very poor environment? He said, No sir, that is not true. I have seen in this house and the surroundings of this house, yellow wild roses and I feel this is the choice of your daughter. I have seen lavendar colored bougainvillea planted decoratively. I have seen this hut very decorative, clean and sufficiently cozy. I have seen rugs and sheets which are very, very old and poor, but so beautifully stitched that it shows me the hand of art has touch it. Through my eyes and through my observations I have seen this. There is a tremendous amount of decency and dignity in everything which is around here.

The prince was very pleased and he rested there for two more days. Finally his courtiers and the army that was searching the entire area found him. They were very glad the prince was healthy and hearty. The prince invited the man as well as the lady to come to the palace to be his guests. The beauty now starts. The old man said, I am very grateful to you, but I would like to live in my environments. If she wants to go, she can. That young lady immediately replied, My kingdom lives in the service of you, oh my dear father. My Godliness radiates only through my service of thee. Palaces and princes do not enchant me. I am very glad to serve you. With my innermost heart, I pray to thee, if thou do not want to visit, don't ask me to go.

Anyway, this impressed the prince very much as he left with his courtiers to go back to his palace. For nights in and nights out he started comparing that woman living in those limited environments with all the people and women in his palace. After his observation, he sat down with his father and said, Father, I have got a proposal which you can understand. In the kingdom of ours, in the jungle, there lives an old man. He is living with a daughter who is not his birth daughter, but who has come to him. It is my observation that she is some lost child because of the way she talks, lives, and behaves. Further, her manners are very noble. It is not possible that the lady could have learned everything right there. Would it be possible for you to investigate? The king said, My son, I will be glad to do so. So he asked a special expert of his to solve the riddle for the prince. Within a month the courtiers came back with a reply and said, This old man is the grand vazir of the kingdom you defeated. That princess is the heir of that king. They are living incognito in your territory because they thought nobody would ever discover them here in your own kingdom, though you have been hunting for them everywhere. So inspite of the fact that the life was very poor and the environments were very limited, the impression of nobility was very deep on the heart of the prince. The moment the prince learned of it, he told the father, Well now, if you permit me, I'd like to marry that girl. And as the story goes, the father agreed.

That king later on was known by the name Emperor Kiran Datya in very, very early times. There are a lot of other stories about him. One story which I want to share is: One day a queen visited them. Their son was playing in the courtyard and was shaking his head. It looked like an insane thing. The visiting queen said, Oh, because your mother came from the wilderness there is an effect of insanity on you. The princess-queen was there and immediately replied, It is not the insanity, it is the ecstasy of consciousness. That child is dancing into the beauty of nature and the wildness of the air which is kissing and tossing around. I tell this story to show that nobility has a deep effect.

The sign of nobility is that it has a deep effect in relationship with any person one comes across. They say nobility is a virtue which affects every soul. It is a virtue which affects every soul just as innocence affects every heart. Woman has only one virtue: she is noble in the beginning and noble until her death. People do hanky panky along the way. They pollute their virtue of nobility. If nobility is every precious to a person, that one will never, ever put himself or herself down the tube for any reason, for any argument, concept, thought or feeling whatsoever. Because nobility is like a mirror, once a crack is in it, the entire image is distorted. Noble habits, noble language, noble behavior, noble posture, and a noble way of communication are so powerfully impressive that even an enemy's heart can be melted.

The soul is always noble. When the mind relates to the soul, the mind becomes noble. When the body relates to such a mind, the body becomes noble. Nobility is the outcome of divinity in equilibrium. The divinity is the physical, mental and spiritual selves.

Question: Is a noble woman different from a graceful woman?

Reply: Nobility is the foundation of every grace. Somebody once asked, Please define a noble person. The definition came and the answer was: Noble is noble in the beginning, in the end and remains noble through time and space, beyond and within. There is no era which is left. Nobility is a virtue; it is a fountain from which grace springs.

Question: How does one cultivate nobility?

Reply: Nobility is cultivated only when you consciously relate to your spirit and flow of the soul and you feel the total divinity within. It is a manifestation of divinity. Nobility takes you away from temptation, anger, lust, greed, unvirtuous and unrighteous living. It gives you a qualifying factor to impress everybody without impressing. That is the beauty of nobility. The way you talk, walk, see, deal, serve, and get served, is a total sum of your living behavior. There is a tremendous spirit, a tremendous flow of spirit, in a noble person. A noble person is a very powerful individual.

Question: What are the characteristics of a noble woman?

Reply: The characteristics of a noble woman is the second area I was going to deal with.

The grandeur which goes with nobility and richness of character was transmuted into the measurement of money and wealth and all that. So on the physical form it created a kind of hatred, but actually, nobility has nothing to do with wealth. It is a wealth of wealths. Is that understood? It is a wealth of wealths. Richness was not the basic idea, it was not required; but it happened.

What I have explained is that a huge part of human knowledge was lost because of these wars and revolutions. A tremendous, beautiful tradition was lost because of war. War destroys, war is not a joke. It doesn't matter if you win or lose. Look at us, the United States, in the Vietnam war neither we won nor we lost, but our dollar has never gone back into shape again. War is not a good thing for any country. Insanity and political crisis make us go to war. War only happens when we cannot negotiate with logic and reason, when we leave noble ideas. But on the other hand, nobility also creates war because when one's soul cannot accept the torture of negativity, then one fights. So although war is no good, and fighting is no good, if you just understand every war because when one's soul cannot accept the torture of negativity, then you just understand every war, it was a noble soul which organized the whole community from the downtrend of human repercussions and raised them to fight. They call it, "call of the dharma." Call of the dharma is the call of the soul. The call of the soul is the call of the impression of the soul which wants to spring out of every living human being. When this happens, it is that privilege that people go through it.

Everyone must remember that there are certain characteristics of a noble person, a noble woman. A noble person is noble through all time and space. A noble person is constant and consistent whatever the time and space. Some people behave differently with rich relatives as compared with poor relatives. That is not nobility. Nobility teaches you equality before God. So under any circumstances, you can find a noble person through their constant behavior which is absolute in equilibrium through all pressures and all shortcomings. That is one great sign. Constant continuity of equilibrium of any kind of behavior is the first sign of a noble person. A noble person is one who will not barter and is not tempted to barter the values of character for benefit. Noble people are those who will not forget the most important of all characteristics; a noble person is one who does not forget the presence of God within a person. And, the most important: a noble person is a dedicated person, like the Infinity of God. God is Infinity, there is no shortness, and those people who take shortcuts to do things will always end up adopting unnoble ways and means. It requires an infinite endurance to live within the range and the circumstances of one's nobility.

Question: The European nobility was corrupt from what I understand.

Reply: You have been made to understand this. Nobility was not corrupt, but it became misused as a social and political power block. When politics comes into anything, it takes away everything. So, whenever reality becomes a ritual, such as in any religion, then it becomes a curse. Similarly, the same thing happened in Europe. Nobility became a class thing. To Americans the word noble is as cat is to rat; do you know what I mean? Your idea is correct that nobility and corruption go together, according to the image which has been produced here. But that is not true. I'll say that Jesus Christ was a noble person, now say what you want to say.

Question: Well, you just said that because of the wars, the knowledge was lost but it seemed like wars had to happen.

Reply: Yes, that is true. People's souls want freedom and they rise up. Always there were people with noble souls which made them rise up, and then war does take place, and the rituals and stinking in society are always destroyed. But on the other hand, I did say that war is not a good thing. But ultimately it happens. I was giving both points of view of the flow of consciousness. As I always say, when things are confined, they stink. In other words, if one really understands the reality of it, nobility was a great tradition destroyed by the revolutionary wars, because it came into a very closed-door situation and corruption was practiced under the guise of nobility. Instead of an open and honest living thing, it became the confined slave of a few families. The result of that is that we lost the tradition.

Question: What can a woman do to protect her nobility during social and political changes?

Reply: In social and political changes, a woman must understand that whenever a woman becomes power hungry, she becomes a monster. The Chinese dragon is a very beautiful picture of women who instead of flowing with the flow of noble tradition, become possessive monsters. Such a mother can ruin the future of the children because of her social, psychological and personal handicaps. There is nothing more noble than the relationship of the mother, but the same relationship of the mother becomes a destructive monster when she becomes possessive. A mother becomes possessive because of her social, economical, and personal handicaps. Once I saw a mother misbehave and I got so mad that I left without even taking lunch at her home. I saw that mother was very insane. That mother was not treated well as a child. She took two hours to explain to me that children have no right to demand to be treated well. Understand? I couldn't buy that. I said to her, If you have a personal sickness, for God's sake don't discuss it and don't pass it on to your children. She said, No, I have the right. I was left with no option but to get excused and leave.

We are starting this chapter not only in the form of nobility in the ritualistic sense of royalty, but nobility in the practical sense of divinity. That is what I am referring to by nobility. A poor person can be a noble person. In his teenage years, Jesus was a noble boy. While talking to the yogis who were in the jungle, Guru Nanak did a very, very noble deed. By taking care of the sick people, Lord Buddha demonstrated noble acts on a practical level. By patiently hearing the neuroses of students, Yogiji acts very nobly. I can tell you that.

Nobility has many, many facets and many, many virtues. It can be done in many, many ways. When you are noble, you are nothing, but noble need not be ordained by the king touching a two-edged sword to your shoulders. All those rituals and things were ceremonial. Basically, nobility is the living character of dignity and divinity in a person. Nobility walks in one as dignity and divinity. We have to be noble because time is going to test us. Times are going to be very negative. Therefore it is my humble request and prayer that we must let go of our emotional neuroses and must add the devotional nobility of character, behavior and personality to our basic personality.

As far as women participating in Women's Camp, it is not noble on my part to allow anybody to get away with negativity. Actually, to be very honest with you, this ladies' camp should be a way of life where you can express your nobility. Your dignity and divintiy should be expressed with absolute nobility, right here. Is that understandable? When you leave this camp, whether you stayed here two, four or eight weeks, you should go with your very inner fiber totally filled with absolute nobility. That is what is intended.

Question: In the Siri Guru Granth Sahib it says to fear only God and not fear anything else and I do not understand what it means to fear God.

Reply: Fear God because God is fearless. Fear the fearless; that indirectly means to become fearless and have no fear of negativity. When we say, Be afraid of the law, it means only to obey the law. That means we can transmute our faculty of fear to gain positivity. When you fear Infinity, that means you obey the law of Infinity, and when you obey the law of Infinity, then belittlement leaves you right there. That is the exact practical meaning of it.

Question: Is the best way to teach our children to be noble by being noble ourselves?

Reply: There is no better way to teach than to demonstrate nobility against their tantrums. Every child is a Swami Trauma. To make him a Yogi Rama, it still takes a lot of noble behavior on the part of the parents. Children have the right to deal with the traumas. That gives them the aggressiveness to know and to investigate. To expect children to totally get rid of traumas is totally wrong. It means people want their children to be vegetables. Children have the right to create a trauma. Parents have the right to cut the t and leave the r as a capital letter. Rama. Rama means the giver of sun and moon; whereas trauma is the act of ego which a child picks up perfectly. The children of trauma can be very perfect. No actors can act like them. They are very good. Children can make a father go berserk; children can make mother and father fight like fighting cocks. They do create environments that adults can not even understand because adults lose their innocence. Adults feel that children do not know anything. Actually, children know that adults do not know anything.

I can tell the situation. A little child started doing like this: ugh, ugh, ugh. The mother went to take care of him, but the child continued. The father said, What did you do? You don't want to take care of your child? Go and do something. She went again and did something. Again he said, Ugh. After about fifteen minutes the parents were fighting. The father said, Let me go and see. The child just laughed and said, Hee, hee, hee, hee. The child was only six months old. Oh knowledgeable Ph.D.'s and doctors, master of this and master of nonsense and God knows what else, children know that through the vibratory trauma, they can make adults go into the drama without even letting them know what the hell is going on. So be careful about these little ones. They are little ones and they belong to the Big One, so their power of communication through sign language is very powerful. Adults have forgotten. That is why there is a problem. They misunderstand children as naive, unknown little things, but it is not true.

Question: If being noble threatens one's parents…?

Reply: That person is most fortunate. If being noble threatens God, even then it is ok. One should have that spirit. Fearlessness is the criterion of nobility. Noble men are not afraid. When children behave very saintly it sometimes threatens the parents, because there is a possibility the parents may be very earthly and wordly people. Guru Nanak's father, Mehtaa Kaliaan Chand, slapped Guru Nanak and said, You don't do any business, you are no good. He never understood that Guru Nanak is the very practical aspect of God coming upon the earth to teach the Dharma. So, it should not bother us.

Question: In the Siri Guru Granth Sahib there is a line — In the Spring the flowers bloom but when the fruit comes the flower dies, so too it is with divine knowledge. You do the deeds to acquire divine knowledge, but when divine knowledge comes, the deeds cease.

Reply: When Dharma is practiced and experienced, karma dies, vanishes. Exactly this is what it is The example is given of when the spring comes, the flower comes, but the flower turns into the fruit, and then flower is not there. So therefore, all meditation and saadhanaa one does through araadhanaa to become prabhu-patee. It is the same line, it is said again and again. It is a privilege to be a flower first, and then it is a privilege to be a fruit.

Question: You said that nobility is like a mirror, when it is cracked it distorts the image. If one appears unnoble in front of a person, will one's nobility be distorted forever in the eyes of that person?

Reply: It may get healed but there shall be a scar. Nobility is like a trust, once it is broken, one has to rebuild it. It is like a credit report, therefore it is not very fair to discredit yourself.

Let me relate something. When I came to the United States of America, there was one person who said, Please initiate me, I want to be your student. I said, All right, if you want to be my student, what do you want to offer me? He said, No, no, no…What offer? I said, What student? I learned my lesson that very day, I never initiated anybody, because a student who cannot offer himself totally and completely as a gift before the teacher should not be initiated under any circumstance. That's a law. Initiation was practiced by Guru Gobind Singh. Five gave their heads and he initiated them into the Dharma. That is called initiation.

Your credit is your virtue and nobility is your greatest virtue. Today I went around with only one idea, nobility is the greatest virtue which can be experienced on the planet earth. That is the theme which I would like to pursue throughout these days. Walk nobly, talk nobly, live nobly, and experience divinity. That is the theme of this camp which we are starting today onward.

Question: If a child is going through his traumas, what is the noble way to act?

Reply: First noble way is to make him recognize that he is going through the trauma and that you understand. The moment the child will understand that the parents understand that the trauma is being played as a trauma, then it becomes just a drama. The child will immediately change the drama act and start doing something different. If that does not work, then you have to exert your authority in a legitimate way to make the child think that you cannot be conquered by that injection of trauma. You will be successful. When a child enters the age of eleven, you should never ever play any drama with that child, but should be straight and firm. Now they are entering the stage of ego trauma. You can win them by frank straight talk. You will win it. This story illustrates how straight one can be with a child. Once a child said, I want to have a cup of tea. The mother said, No. He said, Mom, you are drinking tea. She said, That is why I don't want you to have this bad habit, I am very unfortunate. I do take the tea and I am habitual to it. I am totally hooked on it, but I don't want my child to be. You do not know the pain of it. I don't want to give it to you, you are not going to have it! He said, Okay, Mom. If you feel that way. That is how honest and straight you have to be.

When parents try to hide their own weaknesses from their children and lie to them, it spoils the children. That destroys the image of your nobility. They won't be able to believe you or act upon your advice.

Question: In the case when a child is doing a trauma, you said to make the child recognize the trauma or to apply legitimate authority. When a child is three years old, what is the noble way to apply authority?"

Reply: Once a child was raising his hands up and crying out, Aaaaaaaaaaa. The mother was trying to beat him. I said, Don't beat him. I went there and looked at the child and I said, Aaaaaaaaaaa. he started laughing. That is all it took. He was going Aaaaaaaaaaa with his hands in one direction and I did Aaaaaaaaaaa with my hands in the opposite direction. That diagonal energy checked by square energy became neutral. So I just applied a simple geometrical theorem.

Question: What if our parents are not noble?

Reply: Forgive them.

Question: Our forgiving is our way to be noble?

Reply: Yes. If you won't forgive the parents. you are not going to act noble, because then you act in vengeance.

Question: What is an example of how to react in a noble way then people ridicule you?

Reply: For people who slander you?

Question: Yes.

Reply: Have you not seen me acting? I am the most slandered person in the United States of America. The noble way to act towards a slanderer is to ignore him. It is the greatest punishment one can award to anybody.

Question: If you are walking down the street and someone yells out a name, does that mean you shouldn't react at all?

Reply: Do you know how bad you feel if someone doesn't even look at you? You should not lose your merits in contrast to someone's demerits.

Question: If a small child of someone else's is ridiculing you, should you stop and talk to that child?

Reply: No, no. Immediately take a cookie and give it to him. Try to keep them in your bag. Let me tell you what happened to me once. I was in the service and we shifted to Nizammudin colony. I'd come home in uniform and the children of the whole colony would look at me and would be afraid of me. Then to show their anger, they would jeer at me, Hee, hee, hee! Those were the days when police uniforms were considered very negative. So I made up my mind, I would bring candy with me, sit in the center square and give it to all the children who would come near me. Finally what happened was, when my arrival time would come, there was hardly any child who would be in his or her house. They would all be sitting there and waiting for the arrival of the great Uncle who would bring them candy. I did it a good many years because I couldn't believe that children should be taught to be afraid of a uniformed man and they should just hate it and make all those signs. In the beginning, they were so angry that they would hide in the bushes and urinate at me just to show their disgust for my rank. That much anger was in those children. Later on they would come and dance around me and walk with me and I would give them candy, and then tell them stories. Now they are all adults and still remember the Uncle with the candy.

Question: How should a woman act nobly in an unrighteous situation?

Reply: There are three ways. If one can give a slip to the unrighteous situation, it should be given a slip to show one's dislike and then it can be discussed later. Second is to use one's influence. The best way, though, is for a woman not to enter the environment at all, and not give herself a chance.

In this country the main problem is people do not act preventively. A woman should take precautions that she does not walk into unrighteous environments.

Question: How do we handle it when our personal friends resent it when we act nobly?

Reply: When a dog which is on a chain and the master walks in the street, all the stray dogs start barking. The only lesson we can learn from that is to keep going. Unnoble people will act very aggressively toward noble people, because they want to test whether they are really noble or are phoney. The insecure person will always try to make a secure person insecure to test his security. That is the law.

Question: Is there a difference between noble and being true?

Reply: Truthfulness has three virtues. Individual truth, circumstantial truth, and Infinite truth. Nobility has only one virtue; it is true now, it is true ever, and ever it shall be true.

I learned one thing which is very noble when I started studying with one of my teachers, Sant Ranjeet Singh. He was a very noble person, a very decent person and a very practical person. I asked him, I am starting to study with you today, what should I remember to guide me through the whole thing? His reply was very smilingly great. He said, Remember whose student you are before you act or accept anything in your life.

May the long time sun shine upon you, all love surround you, and the pure light within you, guide your way on. It is our prayer. It is our most beautiful prayer, and it is a direct dial line with God Almighty. May the long time sun shine upon you, all love surround you, and the pure light within you, guide your way on. Sat Nam, camp is on. (All ladies rise as the Siri Singh Sahib leaves.) It may not be anything as far as I am concerned but as far as you are concerned, it is a noble act.

Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa

Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh!

Self Confirmation of Grace

JULY 4, 1978

Today's subject is a very, very old teaching called self-confirmation of grace. Self-confirmation is a habit. People are trained as children, not as adults. It is actually very difficult for you to understand that there is such thing as self-confirmation. You feel you are, you are not. Neither are you the body, mind, spirit, nor soul. You are is the cause of the three of these. Therefore you must confirm that for every action, in every sequence, it will be just nothing but you. You cannot leave it to the environments and the circumstances, because any sequence can lead you to all consequences which you may not know. Especially people who are Gemini; they can't confirm. The zodiac signs carry birth defects. Capricorns are just stoneheaded and do not know how to confirm with themselves. Sagittarius hit themselves on their backs. The zodiac sign is always symbolic to a person. It means that this is your base, this is what you have been granted in relation to animal nature. From this comparison of the animal nature, you are supposed to grow to a human being of a caliber which is very noble and graceful.

To become noble is an art. It is a scientific process and the process is all the time. All the time. You should obey the law so that the law may obey you. This is a very serious sentence. If you obey the law, the law shall obey in return. When you obey the law of mother nature, mother nature shall obey you. When you obey the law of divinity, law of divinity shall obey you. But you must confirm with yourself: is it or is it not? To be or not to be? that is the human question. Should I get letters from my beloved, secretly, over my husband? Should I write letters to my darling over my wife? Should I feel tempted to make a deal over my partner? Should I do away with the money over my rights? All these things shall continue to happen, but there is a very fundamental and direct question: to be or not to be? If you adapt to confirm with your own grace, with your own nobility. If you confirm each time, then you do not give into something which is not noble. When you won't give into something which is not noble, the end result will be that you will be a noble, living person.

Yesterday there was a question, how can one become noble? Nobility is not manufactured outside of you. Nobility is manufactured within. Nobility cannot be transported from outside. It is a self-training of self-esteem. It is a self-exertion of self-confirmation. If you are noble, you are the knight. You must fight unto death for the right to be right. You must fight to death to be right for one's right. Who fights the woman first? Her husband. A noble woman shall fight her husband first. When does she win? When he becomes noble. Who will she fight second? Her sons and daughters. Who will she fight third? The neighbors and environments. She will even fight her own pet dog. I'm not kidding. It is a path, a war-path of fighting, endless fighting. The symbol of the noble woman is a woman standing with a double-edged sword in the right hand and the left hand index finger raised toward God. That is a symbol. It means that anybody other than that one God shall meet my sword. Twenty four hours a day that is her symbol. She fights, she lives, she affects, and she's invincible. She is the flow of spirit; the radiance of light. She is none else but God living in a woman! Through her silence she dictates the destiny of millions. A noble woman shall give birth to saintly children. It is the land from which the seed shall get its quality not its quantity.

A noble woman has confirmed to herself that she is nothing but virtues. What is the first virtue of a noble woman? She is selfless. She is a selfless living grace through time and space, a messenger of God, radiance of light and existence of peace. These things all are not difficult. They look big to her, but they are very small. They become very, very small and very, very easy, if a woman starts confirming to herself: To be, or not to be. She must know that she is noble, and that everything around her must fall unto that nobility, that standard of nobility that she possesses.

This is why I once said to you, when you are in trouble, share not your troubles with anyone except your spiritual teacher. Because if you share the secret, it will be exploited against you. It may be your weakness, but a noble woman doesn't give her weakness to anybody. She conquers the weakness herself. Nobility conquers duality. Therefore, it is very necessary to understand what is called self-talking process. You must talk to yourself. You have to. It is necessary that you must know yourself and talk to yourself, to the extent that you must love yourself. You must love yourself and have a very high esteem of yourself. You must know that you can gain all this with one sentence, Whose student am I? If you just remember that you are the student of Sat Nam, that your first word is Sat Nam, and your last word is Sat Nam, that you belong to Sat Nam, then you don't need any time or any other thing with which to measure yourself. You must remember Sat, Sat will give you Satiaa. Satiaa means the spiritual power. It will give you a barometer, a confidence of your own situation and radiance, and that will make you Satiaavatee, one who possesses that flow of the spirit, of the Truth.

One thing must be understood: happiness will never come to you because of money. People who are rich are not happy. People who have power are not happy. People are happy who live in their own truth. That is the secret of happiness. Happiness is a virtue, it is a by-product, an offshoot, of truth. A person must be so happy, so confirmed in happiness, so much entrenched in happiness, that death will come just as a happiness. You must be born happy, must confirm with yourself to always live happy, and then must die happy.

In this country, children have been raised for the parent's ego. If your ego gets its way, then you feel happy. When the ego gets stuck, you feel very sad and unhappy. Actually, when the ego gets stuck, you should be very happy to see how to solve the tangle. That is where the self starts. Ego is a challenge, because ego is limiting; it is belittlement of the self. Infinity is the source of Godhood. It must come to you when you know yourself, and you can never know who you are if your ego always flows the way it wants to. You only know who you are when the ego is challenged. Frustration and depression are games of the ego. Argument, reason, discussion, yelling and screaming are very egocentric, ego-motivated expressions, and do not belong to a woman. They belong to a man. A woman who speaks undervalues herself. If somebody comes and speaks emotionally to her and she simply says, Would you like to have a glass of water?, just see how flat that person goes.

It is not the criterion of woman to relate to everything she hears or to speak everything which she feels. She should self-communicate what she hears, what she sees and what she knows, and then proceed. In other words, she has to give a buffer time. She should not act with impulse or she can fall into a trap. No woman can afford it. Woman is a self-contained unit; and that is why God has blessed this machine to produce another human being and that is why she can conceive. A woman should hear, see and understand everything before she conceives. Then she should shell it out, sprout it, feel it, and use it in confirmation to her nature. In this way, she will never run into wrong consequences.

When a woman projects and draws attention, she endangers herself. A showy woman, a talkative woman, and a gossipy woman are all low-quality women. She is like an old low-riding car with a Ford engine and Chevrolet body, another brand for the steering, some junkyard pieces, and when it's all put together, since it has a license number and it runs, people will call it a car. That is the exact definition of a woman who does not behave to the required standard. As there is a standard for a vehicle there is also a standard for a woman. Remember this: a woman is a woman, nothing else. Nothing else can replace it. If you ever want to replace yourself with anything else, you are committing a fault and it will bring you difficulties, trouble and tragedy.

A difference between man and a woman is that if a woman breeds a tragedy, she will breed and multiply with it, and she will live with that, whereas a man will breed a tragedy, will face it, live with it and go on to the next. It is very impossible for a woman to live with one tragedy, because once you have started living one tragedy, you will multiply. Therefore, it is very obligatory for you to confirm yourself with yourself all the time. Self-convincing. Self-convincing is the art of woman. You must convince yourself that you are right, that your surroundings are right, and that what you have heard and seen are right. Therefore you are supposed to be a born judge of time and space. Sneakish value or sneakish behavior do not suit a woman. Anything which is ungraceful is sneakish. You must be straight because no woman can be happy who is a puppet. It is not her niche and it does not suit her environments. That is why I say to you that you are first married to Dharma, and the Will of God. If a woman is married to Dharma and the Will of God and everything comes next to it, she will be happy. Otherwise, she is married to Karma and the whole world may be in the palm of her hand and she will be unhappy.

Don't convince yourself that you can get away with this and you can get away with that. Don't change your standards, your mood or models. Remember, if you have adopted a path, and you are convinced that you are a woman, you should just walk all the way unto the Infinity of God and not bargain on the way. Otherwise, you will be exploited and used and will be sorry. If you check the history of every woman who has suffered, only that woman has suffered who had no trust for herself.

It is extremely essential for the body of the woman to honor her words. Giving is the quality of God and woman. But before you promise to give, you must know what you are giving. That again means you must confirm with yourself. Self-communication is the very way a woman can live. Self-communication will give you self-knowledge; self-knowledge will give you dignity; dignity will give you divinity; divinity will give you the experience of nobility and then you will be nothing but a living God. A woman who tries to live very cheap, with cheap technologies, by skipping, exploiting, being mean, being angry, yelling and screaming is using all these male qualities. Man, by nature, has all these qualities because man, by nature, wants to survive. Woman has to sprout, so she must be calm and quiet like the land. Some land can grow grass, some land can grow vegetables, some land this and that. But land doesn't move, it is there: it is very nurtured and nursed. Exactly the same law of nature applies to a woman. She is, she is. She is always she. She is such a she that she gives birth to he. From she the he can be born. Take off the s, what remains? He. Thus, even in she, he is contained. In female, male is contained and in woman, man is contained. What else can a woman want?

In your married life, if you cannot contain the man in you, you are a failure, and you cannot contain the man if you do not negotiate with yourself all the time. You have to confirm, you have to know. You have to talk to yourself, you have to understand, because a man will show his left, and hit with his right. Why so? Is it because every man is a liar? No, not that. It is because man is a sensitive seeder: he must find a space to seed. That is his nature. God made him that way. So being a seeder, he has to feel the vibrations. He always shows his left to see what is the right and always shows the right to see the left. So, in other words, man by nature is left and right. But you have to draw the diagonal to make the block with two trines so that you can live happily. Two trines are a sign of good luck in astrology — a block is considered a block on the way of life and prosperity. When a square is cut diagonally, it makes two triangles. A woman shouldn't be afraid to go through it. When a woman falls, a generation falls; when a man falls, an individual falls.

Another time, I would like to discuss certain natures of a woman. Why a woman believes in deceit, why a woman uses underhanded means to communicate. Why isn't a woman direct. Why she uses sign language. All these come from fear.

Question: Sir, could you please explain further how a man hits right to feel the left?

Reply: Man in polarity with a woman in communication wants to know where to rest, where to dive and what to believe. To start with, he's inquisitive. Sometimes a man will say to a woman, Oh you look very beautiful and very fresh. He may be asking her to go get his suitcase he left somewhere. Don't misunderstand that when he is saying, You are beautiful and look very fresh, that he is going to take you right away to dinner. A man shouldn't be blamed. It is his nature to see how the cookie crumbles. Therefore, don't take his first impression, his first communication with you, as an understanding. Just wait and communicate with yourself as to what is coming next; wait until it is complete and there is a