Having Tea with My Sisters

By Pamella Coffey

Memoir, in-part, that offers Motivational & Directional writing with a splash of poetry for variety.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Aug 5, 2013
• ISBN: 9781456808600

Pamella Coffey

Pamella Coffey A native of Chicago Illinois, I was born and raised on the south side of Chicago by my gorgeous/gentle mom Lorene, until her passing… and my dad, the strongest soundest man I’ve ever come to know, J.T. may they both rest in peace. I have a host of loving supportive siblings; this would include my twin sister Remella. The parent of a son Darian [my strongly rooted Tree Top] and having guardianship of my twin sister’s eldest daughter Chiquita [my beautiful butterfly] until her adulthood; raising both as a single parent; they both have always been, and continue to be, my inspiration. Though not degreed, I am a former student of Columbia College Chicago – majoring in Journalism. CCC offers a fantastic platform welcoming and encouraging free expression yet serious preparation for each student in their ensuing professions. Since early childhood, I have always easily embraced my creativity by applying pen to paper… my absolute favorite past time; applying “pen to paper” allows me to express release and work through – and out – of many of life’s challenges disappointments and joyously memorable experiences. “Pen to paper” has afforded me a wonderful reference, in most cases, for my personal life journey; Pamella’s [alias Poodle] very vivid life journal.

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Copyright © 2013 by Pamella Coffey.

Library of Congress Control Number:   2010916354

ISBN:      Hardcover     978-1-4568-0859-4

                Softcover       978-1-4568-0858-7

             Ebook          978-1-4568-0860-0

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Rev. date: 07/31/2013

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Contents

Chapter 1: Good Love

-Knight in Shining Armor

-Absentee Father

-Independent Women & Good Sex

-Insert Poem: When I Inhale

-Relax… It Will All Work Itself Out

-Own Self Image/Power or Unimpressive

-Insert Poem: Grandmomma’s Knees

-My Mother’s Love Was Paramount

-My Ex’s Insecurities/ Give & Take

-I Did Not Feel Safe

-Not Man Bashing | Loving Self

-Childhood Abuse | Defense Mechanism

-Love Is a Funny Thing/Protective Barrier Broken

-Self Introspect/Self Improvement

-Conscious Steps/ Self Control/ Level Head

Chapter 2: Our Youth

-Initiate Positive Developmental Pattern

-Black Princesses

-Insert Motivational Piece: Beautiful Megan

-Mothers’ Ill Equipped

-Settle for King Who…/State & Presence of Mind

-You Are a King Blackman

-Insert Poem: Tarin Me Down

-Self Doubt/ Lack of Relationship

-Disregard Negative or Ill Intent

-Sex Being the Basis for Erratic Behavior

-No Drama

-Women Are Amazing Creatures

Chapter 3: Setting Standards

-Marriage for All the Wrong Reason

-A Woman’s Own Insecurities

-Eye Candy

-Whorish Appetite

-Operate In Your Individual Security

-Another Woman Is a Factor When…

-Letting the Small Things Ride/Some Will Disagree

-Godmother of Soul

Chapter 4: Are We All cRazy In Varying Degrees?

-How Choice Is Factored Into Our Decision-making

-Unproductive Behavior Called To the Carpet

-Are We All Crazy In Varying Degrees

-Ebenezer Scrooge

Chapter 5: Real Life

-The Absentee Father

-Insert Poem: I Will

-The Executive

-Insert Poem: Power of the Mind

-The Codependent

-The Politician

-The Christian

- The Adult Child

-The Student Nurse

Chapter 6: Real Life cont’d

-The Drug Dealer

-The Abuser

-2nd Abuser

-Insert Poem: Has it Always Been

Dedication

This Book is fondly dedicated to

My Father (my Mountain)

My Mother (my beautiful Flower)

My wonderfully handsome son (my Treetop)

My gorgeous daughter (my Butterfly)

My grand (Damir is almost every bit of my Joy)

My Family in its entirety—specifically my siblings—in particular

my big brother and one of my best friends—Aloysius;

I thank God for each of you!

Introduction

I am grateful and can honestly say, with a smile, that everything I have and will experience, in life, is and has been preparation for my complete life journey. I believe most important were my formative—childhood—years. Some of which were traumatic, others I can close my eyes . . . reflect back, and well remember.

We, each of us, undoubtedly have a purpose . . . the key is realizing what that purpose is, breathing life into it and putting it in motion. We go through this passageway of life for a purpose—not just an end. I truly believe each significant life experience is unfolded for a reason or rather our purpose; it is all in the way we look at life—and how we tap into that purpose.

This book is explorative in asking, and possibly understanding, why we take certain action when dealing with certain life situations, primarily relationships. I am hopeful it will offer and encourage a counter approach to unproductive actions and negative behaviors.

I further believe this book will reach both the mature, reader as well as our youth. The very candid subject matter, directional suggestions motivational content, and life lessons, referenced here, can be applicable to both the young and mature audience. I encourage the mature adult to get to the meat of its content.

I strongly believe, after self-examination and after further examining our family unit[s], you will agree that there is a need for an increased or new approach to communicating and preparing our young people for their future.

WELCOME, ENJOY YOUR READ.

Chapter 1

Good Love

Is it just we ladies?

Have you ever experienced some sex that was so good it made you look at your partner afterwards—panting [with a rapid heartbeat] still out of breath and slightly dazed—while holding back an impetuous desire to slap his face?

Slap his face because an attempt at verbal communication—at that moment—would be choppy, insufficient, and not very well communicated or understood. You had just reached a climax that was so strong you felt as if your head was going to pop right off of your shoulders—and so slapping him immediately after that beautiful session of lovemaking might be somewhat unorthodox but for you—at that moment in time—it may be the truest form of physical expression you could muster up.

This man had reached sensual depths that had never before been penetrated. He was uninhibited yet careful in his approach in discovering the depths of your innermost parts. Depths that had been left unexplored, unspoken of, and possibly unknown even by you. Sound barriers had been broken, secret areas had just been inundated with an overwhelming rush of bodily fluids. He had given you an awakening that was wildly refreshing, leaving you bursting with a gibbering girly-like mannerism. He was good.

Isn’t it curiously funny how when many of us are made to feel good or special by word or deed; a full-grown woman, feeling content, will take on childlike behavior? We began batting our eyelashes [bashful in manner] becoming giddy wanting to cuddle with our man; nudging nose to cheek while speaking in a gentle tone so soft and smooth it would shame a firm stick of butter.

Feeling like a young school girl sitting on the front stoop of a red-brick brownstone on a hot sticky summer day… feet swinging, fashioning two ponytails [pink ribbon on each] yellow ankle sox, canvass whites, denim shorts, and a pink-tee with a young Michael Jackson plastered across the front. Deliberate in your inspection of each lick of your favorite flavored ice cream cone "mmmmm" delightful.

It is likely many of us at a very young age developed a fairytale image of a knight in shining armor coming to aid and rescue us. He [our knight] would