Life Change: How change can be the best thing that ever happened to you
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How are you guys? How is your health?
Are you struggling with stress or anxiety?
Are you still passionate about the work here?
Can you see things changing?
Do you have the energy to turn things around?
He went deeper in asking my wife of her condition: How are yo
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Life Change - Graeme Lauridsen
My wife and I were sitting in a café with a close friend and mentor in a moment of crisis. We had been in our current role, leading a not-for-profit organisation, for almost fifteen years. The early years had been exciting. A difficult cashflow crisis had been averted, new team members had been added, vision had been refreshed, and there was growth and momentum on every side. However, the previous year had been extremely difficult. A crisis in our extended family had caused us stress and anxiety. Several leadership challenges and misunderstandings had drained us of our mental and emotional reserves, and some long-term relationships that were precious to us had come under considerable strain.
We all have those seasons. Most times we just press through. Life and leadership happen in cycles. Winter leads to spring, spring leads to summer, summer fades back to autumn, and autumn prepares us for another winter. These seasons build wisdom and maturity in our lives. We had been through a few cold winters, but we had always pressed through into spring and summer.
However, this time things felt different. There was one ingredient that had always been present that now seemed missing. We were finding it difficult to embrace that one thing that had always sustained us. We couldn’t find hope!
Our close friend and mentor had flown into our city for the day with the sole purpose of encouraging us. He had heard that we were struggling and flew in to stand at our side. Let me quickly add that we all need those people in our life. An ancient proverb says, ‘a friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity’. Thank God for the ‘brothers’ who are born for adversity. If you don’t have one or two, the first step to getting one is to be one. Be someone else’s brother who stands by their side in times of adversity. Some call it karma, but the truth is we reap what we sow; what we give to others tends to return in kind.
Our mentor began to ask us questions:
How are you guys?
How is your health?
Are you struggling with stress or anxiety?
Are you still passionate about the work here?
Can you see things changing?
Do you have the energy to turn things around?
He went deeper in asking my wife of her condition:
How are you travelling?
Do you want to keep doing this?
How discouraged are you?
Is depression knocking on your door?
After some time, he turned from his questions and made a statement; Guys, I say this as a friend. I know how loyal you are, but I think your time is up. It’s time to move on.
My feelings were mixed at this suggestion. Half of me was struggling with the idea. I felt like I had unfinished business. My goals had not been fulfilled. There was much more that we wanted to achieve. Yet, at the same time, I felt a sense of relief. What if it was okay to step down? There were no guarantees that we could turn things around if we stayed. As a husband I needed to listen to the words my wife was speaking. What if my stubbornness caused her irreparable damage? Was it time?
Our friend flew out of the city at the end of the day, and we were left to process the conversation. One of the big questions we were asking was, what did moving on mean? I had been in the profession for twenty-five years. I was twenty-two years old when I first stepped into the not-for-profit sector, and I knew little else. We could move on and get another role in the same sector, but my heart was telling me that I needed a complete career transition. I was forty-seven years old, and I was considering a major career change!
To be honest, if I wasn’t depressed already, this tipped me over. What could I do? How would I provide for my family? Would I find something that would give me a sense of achievement, of identity, of meaning?
We heard of a psychologist who specializes in helping people who are in burn-out, so we made an appointment for a meeting. His schedule was so full the only opportunity we had was to fly from the south of New Zealand to Adelaide, Australia, and attend a seminar he was speaking at. The organisers of the seminar were friends, and they managed to arrange one appointment for us.
We arrived in Adelaide, attended the seminar, filled out some forms, and turned up for our appointment. It wasn’t long before this wise Irish psychologist was ready to offer his diagnosis. He looked me squarely in the eye and said words to this effect; This season and environment is killing your wife, and you’re not far behind. If you don’t resign immediately, I fear you will be in complete burnout within three months.
This book is about transition. Transition, as opposed to sudden change, is a process. It is a journey that is best taken slowly and methodically. It is like waking up one day, deciding you are out of