The Narcissist & Me

By Michael Elijah

Have you ever felt like you were being manipulated and deceived by someone? That you got caught in a web of lies and that you couldn't escape?

Well, I did. I never knew that I was in a relationship with a narcissist until I had already been sucked in, and it was too late.

 

This book is my story.

 

It's the story of how I fell in love with someone with a hidden illness I never saw coming. It's a story of manipulation, deception, and confusion. It's a story of heartbreak and loneliness. And it's a story of strength and resilience. I'll tell you about the red flags I ignored, the lies I believed, and the toll it took on my mental health. I'll also share what I learned from this experience and how I eventually found the courage to walk away. But most of all, I'll offer you a message of hope.

 

No matter how hard it gets, you can make it through. You can be strong and resilient and learn to trust yourself again.

It's time to take back the power and start living your life as you want. So join me on this journey!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Michael Elijah
• Release date: Apr 16, 2021
• ISBN: 9798201851651

Book preview

Introduction

This book:

Raise awareness.

Help people recognize narcissists.

Answer on it is mental illness or traits.

Give an overview of what to expect.

As someone who had never heard of narcissism, I didn't know what I was dealing with until it was too late. I was engulfed in a relationship with someone with a mental illness, and I had no idea. Even if you know little about mental illness, you can tell something's wrong. They are being drawn primarily by insecure thoughts and negative emotions. At first, I thought my partner was selfish and emotionally distant, but as time passed, I realized something more sinister was at play. I had no idea that the person I loved was a narcissist. As I began to research this mental illness, I was shocked to discover the signs and characteristics of a narcissist.

Living with a narcissist is often a roller coaster of emotions. One day, they can be kind and loving; the next, they can be cold and distant. They are manipulative and controlling, often leaving their partner anxious and confused. It wasn't until I began attending therapy for anxiety, panic attacks, and depression that I learned I was living with one, and it was a shocking realization. I felt angry and betrayed, realizing how much time I had wasted trying to make the relationship work when it could never have gone anywhere. Even after we broke up, despite knowing something was wrong, I was still in contact with her, believing she needed help and that I could be there for her as a friend. She told me she had ADHD, so I thought she had severe ADHD and could not control her behavior. It wasn't until I truly understood narcissism that I could see the countless red flags in front of me.

There is a lot of confusion and misunderstanding about this mental illness. This is why learning about narcissism and educating yourself on this mental illness's signs and characteristics is essential. My story is not meant to scare you or put you off relationships but to raise awareness and help people recognize narcissists.

Writing this book has not been easy – it's hard and causes me way more energy than I expected because it's very confronting. I see how incredibly naïve I was entering and through this relationship; believe me, it hurts. No matter how much you sacrifice yourself, it will never be enough to satisfy the narcissist's need for admiration and attention.

Even if you choose to stay and take the suffering, the narcissist will eventually push you out of their life. The relationship will break you down to the point where you don't even have anyone to talk to, as you have become so depressed that people see you as the problem. No one should ever experience the pain and suffering of a relationship with a narcissist. Narcissists can only begin to heal by seeking professional help and working on themselves, but they will not accept their flaws and, therefore, will continue manipulating and hurting many people.

All narcissists are different but have similar tricks, and the degree of manipulation and deceit varies depending on their age, traumas, life experiences, and accomplishments.

You may think this couldn't happen to you or that you would've noticed the red flags, but the truth is, most people in this kind of relationship don't know what's going on. We fight to stay in relationships, even when